R REFORMS IN MARRIAGE RELATED LAWS
FOR ENSURING PREVAILING OF LEGITIMACY IN RELATIONSHIPS, UP HOLDING INSTITUTION OF MARRIAGE, INDUCING RESPONSIBLE BEHAVIOUR IN YOUTH TOWARDS PARENTS, FAMILY & SOCIETY, CONTAINING DOMESTIC VIOLENCE & CRIMES FOR HEALTHY LIFE, PRODUCTIVITY & NATION
**Creation of centralised National data bank of married couple for preventing men/women to cheat others by marrying again when they are already married, useful in establishment of legitimate stay by couple in hotels/guest houses, to prevent adultery/ prostitution.
**Creation of centralised National data bank of live in relationship couples for prevailing of honesty in relationships, upholding trust in couple, prevention of adultery/ prostitution.
**Creation of centralised National data bank of divorce in process/granted couple for ensuring sustenance of marriage, preventing re-marriage before getting divorce; criminal offence to enter relationship with other persons when divorce in process; corpus fund to reward persons revealing adultery/ bigamy: Fixed no. of hearings in court to grant divorce, deposition of compensation amount in Govt. account, dispensation by Govt. to ex wife.
**Creation of 24/7, National toll free real time multi lingual marriage counselling centre for both genders to hear out marriage related issues and suggest ways & means to followed for sustenance of marriage, all callers given unique id number; district wise, mandal/ block wise marriage counselling centres for in person counselling for critical cases before applying to divorce, for applying divorce, going through online call centre counselling, personal counselling and transcripts of the calls, personal advice received and result of applying advices in mandatory, for going to courts, to reduce happing of divorce cases, reduce court’s time, quicker pronouncement of divorces
**Mandatory pre-marriage registration, approval from marriage registrar for going ahead for marriage; mandatory to furnish the details of maritorial status, all phone & social media contacts, bank account details, their assets, planned expenditure for marriage, source of funds for such marriage expenditure etc ; Mandatory for all marriage related service providers to register with marriage registration authority in that district/city, should provide service to the couple only after getting the pre marriage approval number; Incentives for performing Traditional Marriages for preserving, carry forwarding culture & customs
**Mandatory submission of marriage expenditure statement & gifts received by couple; Mandatory for gift presenters to provide declaration of value, purpose, relation
**Right to know Total income, Source of Income, expenditure and assets of un married child by parents, in case of married by spouse, Mandatory to disclose such information every quarter/ half year by unmarried son/daughter, wife & husband
**Mandatory operation of joint bank account & joint assets by parents & un married child till he/she married, after marriage between wife & husband, all income earned by both automatically transfer to joint account, limit for expenditure for each can be fixed mutually
** Life imprisonment for pre matrimonial sex, criminal offence for indulging in love, love letters, proposals by aged below 21 years, by un employed youth irrespective of age.
** Mandatory introduction of religious teachings, spirituality, practice of meditation, yoga as part of school/ college daily curriculum for inducing values, morals & ethics
** Mandatory disclosure of gender, age, marital status, straight/ homo sex in social media s
**Creation of National centralised data bank of persons convicted/ accused in heinous crime of rape, dowry harassment cases, domestic violence, or in case of any other marriage related crime like adultery etc irrespective of gender; sending message to friends of accused as in phone address book, on social media, in native place/ village of the accused to name& shame such crime was committed by such person belonging to this family, this village.
**Attachment of properties of the accused in cases of crimes against women and auction the properties on final judgement of highest court and either the money accumulated should be given to the victim or in case of general crimes then to government corpus fund.
**Mandatory tests for HIV/STD, for both groom & bride for applying for PMR, Mandatory test for sexual dysfunctional / potency test for male before applying for PMR
** Mandatory disclosure of invitees of marriage functions with contact & address details, mandatory obligation of the invitees to go through details disclosed by bride & groom from PMR website, reveal to authorities in case found wrong, concealed information, otherwise invitees are penalised, in case of any crime, part of Social Obligation/ Audit.
**Mandatory Social obligation of public/ relatives/friends to reveal to government when they are aware their friends or neighbours indulging in criminal acts like dowry harassment, Domestic violence, indulging in Adultery, pre/ extra matrimonial affairs, aged below 21 persons indulging in smoking, consuming alcohol, drugs, writing/ sending proposals of love etc, else they are liable for not disclosing the truth to govt. even though they are aware of it.
Pradeep Kumar Kunche, email@example.com pradeepkunche.blogspot.in scribd.com/pradeep_kunche
 NEED FOR CENTRALISED DATA BASE OF MARRIED COUPLE AND DIVORCED COUPLE RECORDS
 MANDATORY PRE MARRIAGE REGISTRATION CERTIFICATION/ APPROVAL FOR PERFORMING/ SOLEMNIZATION OF MARRIAGE
 NEED FOR DETAILED DECLARATION FROM PERSONS WILLING TO MARRY FOR ENSURING HONESTY, TRUTHFULNESS, & LEGITIMACY PREVAILS AT ALL TIMES
 ENACTING LAW FOR MANDATORY DISCLOSURE OF AFFAIRS PHYSICAL OR MENTAL, OF PROSPECTIVE BRIDE AND GROOM, IN LIVE IN RELATIONS PRIOR TO MARRIAGE IN THE PRE MARRIAGE REGISTRATION SUBMISSION
 MANDATORY OATH BY PARENTS / BRIDE & GROOM FOR WILL NOT TAKE DOWRY, WILL NOT GIVE DOWRY IN CASH/KIND, OATH ON THEIR RELIGIOUS GODS & ON THE BRIDE & GROOM & ON THEIR CHILDREN
 MANDATORY TO HAVE MINIMUM FINANCIAL SECURITY FOR BRIDE/GROOM TO GET MARRIED/ ENTER LIVE IN RELATIONSHIP
 MANDATORY THAT ANY MARRIAGE RELATED FUNCTIONS/ RITUALS WHETHER FORMAL OR INFORMAL MUST START ONLY AFTER GETTING PRE MARRIAGE REGISTRATION (PMR) NUMBER
 MEASURES FOR REGULATING SUDDEN CANCELLATION OF MARRIAGES AFTER ALL ARRANGEMENTS MADE
 MANDATORY DECLARATION BY BRIDE & GROOM WHETHER THEY ARE STRAIGHT SEX OR HOMOSEXUAL, IN PRE MARRIAGE REGISTRATION DECLARATION ; IN CASE FOUND LATER INDULGED IN HOMOSEXUALITY PRIOR TO MARRIAGE/ AFTER MARRIAGE HE/SHE SHOULD GET LIFE IMPRISONMENT. MERE DECLARATION OF HOMOSEXUALITY SHOULD NOT ATTRACT ANY PUNISHMENT.
 MANDATORY HIV & STD CLEARANCE CERTIFICATE FROM GOVERNMENT HOSPITALS FOR PRE MARRIAGE REGISTRATION; STD PARENTS CAN MARRY AFTER FULLY GOT CURED, HIV PATENTS CAN MARRY ONLY HIV PARENTS NOT HEALTHY OPPOSITE SEX.
 MANDATORY FOR GETTING CLEARANCE FOR NO IMPOTENCY (DYSFUNCTION OF REPRODUCTIVE ORGANS) FOR MALE FOR APPLYING PRE MARRIAGE REGISTRATION
 MANDATORY TO FIX THE MAXIMUM AGE GAP BETWEEN BRIDE AND GROOM TO GET MARRIED; THE GAP SHOULD NOT BE MORE THAN 20 YEARS IN MARRIAGES OR IN LIVE IN RELATIONS.
 MANDATORY FOR SOCIAL MEDIA SERVICE PROVIDERS TO CORROBORATE PROFILES WITH VOTER ID CARD OF USERS FOR AUTHENTICATION OF ACCOUNT USER; MANDATORY TO UPDATE THE STATUS OF THE INDIVIDUAL BY DEFAULT FROM SOURCING INFO FROM REGISTRAR OF MARRIAGES THE AGE, GENDER, THE SEXUALITY I.E STRAIGHT OR HOMO SEXUAL ALONG WITH LATEST PASSPORT PHOTO SHOULD BE DISPLAYED ON THE PROFILE
 MANDATORY FOR MATRIMONIAL ADVERTISEMENTS TO VERIFY THE DETAILS OF STATUS OF THE INDIVIDUAL AND ALSO THE CRIMINAL CASES SHOULD BE MANDATORILY MENTIONED IN THE MARRIAGE PROFILE.
 MANDATORY REGISTRATION OF ALL PRIESTS PERFORMING MARRIAGES, NO MARRIAGES IS VALID IF IT IS NOT PERFORMED EITHER BY THE PRIEST OR GET MARRIED IN FRONT OF MARRIAGE REGISTRAR, ALL MARRIAGES SHOULD HAVE AT LEAST 5 WITNESSES ON BOTH SIDES, STRICTER PUNISHMENTS FOR CONCEALING INFORMATION BY PRIESTS/ WITNESSES.
 MANDATORY FOR ALL MARRIAGE RELATED SERVICE PROVIDERS TO GET REGISTER WITH MARRIAGE REGISTRAR.
 MANDATORY MENTION/ DISPLAY OF PRE MARRIAGE REGISTRATION UNIQUE ID NUMBER IN ALL MARRIAGE FUNCTIONS.
 MAKING IT MANDATORY ANY GIFT PRESENTED ON ANY OCCASION TO ANY ONE, SHOULD ISSUE A SELF DECLARATION IN STANDARD FORMAT.
 AMENDING LAW FOR SIMPLIFYING AFFIDAVIT SUBMISSION ONLINE USED FOR VARIOUS PURPOSES , ESPECIALLY MARRIAGE RELATED PURPOSES
 MANDATORY THAT GOVERNMENT VERIFY STATUS OF NRI BRIDES/ GROOMS IN THEIR RESPECTIVE COUNTRIES THROUGH INDIAN EMBASSIES IN THAT COUNTRY WHERE THEY ARE RESIDING FOR GRANTING PERMISSION FOR MARRYING ANY INDIAN RESIDENT BRIDE/GROOM, FOR PREVENTING CHEATING / DECEIVING, ALSO FOR PREVENTING POOR GIRLS/WOMEN IN MUSLIM COMMUNITY GETTING MARRIED TO ARAB SHAKES, FOR FEW MONTHS, LATER ON THEY VANISH, SPOILING THE LIFE OF YOUNG GIRLS/WOMEN.
 MANDATORY SUBMISSION OF LIST OF INVITES, TO THE MARRIAGE FUNCTIONS ALONG WITH THEIR CONTACT DETAILS, AND ADDRESS; FIXING RESPONSIBILITY ON THE RELATIVES IF THEY DO NOT REVEAL ANY CONCEALED INFORMATION KNOWN TO THEM REGARDING BRIDE/ GROOM OR THEIR FAMILY AS PER DATA OF THE PRE MARRIAGE REGISTRATION; INDIRECT WAY OF CONDUCTING SOCIAL AUDIT ON THE COUPLE.
 MANDATORY FOR THE BRIDE AND GROOM TO MENTION TWO NEIGHBOURS IN THEIR PLACE OF LIVING EITHER ADJACENT TO THEIR HOUSE, FOR MULTIPLE ADVANTAGES; ALSO MAKING IT A SOCIAL RESPONSIBILITY OF NEIGHBOURS TO KNOW EACH OTHER AND ACT AS WATCH DOGS
 ENCOURAGEMENT / REWARD FOR INFORMERS FOR REVELLING UNDISCLOSED/ CONCEALED INFORMATION/ FALSE INFORMATION SUBMITTED IN MARRIAGE DECLARATION DURING PMR PROCESSING.
 MANDATORY TRAINING/ COUNSELLING OF PROSPECTIVE COUPLE AFTER PRE MARRIAGE REGISTRATION UNIQUE ID FOR ENABLING THEM TO UNDERSTAND EACH OTHER FOR BETTER HARMONIOUS RELATION, HOME MANAGEMENT AFTER MARRIAGE
 MANDATORY SUBMISSION OF TENTATIVE EXPENDITURE PLANNED FOR MARRIAGE, SOURCE OF FUNDS FOR MARRIAGE, FOR GETTING PRE MARRIAGE CERTIFICATE.
 ENACTING LAW LIMIT FOR FIXATION OF MARRIAGE EXPENSES BASED ON THE INCOME GROUP OF THE BIDE AND GROOM; MAKING IT A CRIMINAL OFFENCE FOR PERFORMING MARRIAGE BEYOND THEIR FINANCIAL CAPABILITY OF THE PARENTS OF BRIDE/GROOM WHO EVER PERFORMING MARRIAGE;
 BANK LOANS WITH LOW INTEREST RATE FOR MARRIAGES WITH 75% IN DEBIT CARD, 25% CASH, DEBIT CARD USED FOR OBTAINING MARRIAGE RELATED SERVICES.
 CREATION OF CORPUS FUND FOR MARRIAGES OF BRIDES & GROOMS BELONGING TO BPL FAMILIES
 MANDATORY SUBMISSION OF EXPENDITURE INCURRED ON MARRIAGE WITH DETAILED BREAK UP STATEMENT BY PARENTS OF BRIDE & GROOM / COUPLE WITHIN 7 DAYS OF MARRIAGE.
 RECOVERY OF EXPENDITURE INCURRED ON SECURITY ARRANGEMENTS FOR ELECTED REPRESENTATIVES/ CELEBRITIES VISITING MARRIAGE FUNCTIONS.
 INCENTIVES, TAX CONCESSION FOR MARRYING IN A TRADITIONAL MANNER, FOLLOWING THE RELIGIOUS CUSTOMS OF THEIR RELIGION AND REGION.
 INCENTIVES FROM GOVERNMENT FOR MARRYING FARMERS CHILDREN/ TRADITIONAL ARTISANS CHILDREN FOR ENSURING THE AGE OLD TRADITIONS ARE CARRIED FORWARD FOR NEXT GENERATION; INCENTIVES FOR MARRYING WIDOWS, MANDATORY RE MARRIAGE FOR YOUNG WIDOWS
 ENACTMENT OF LAW FOR CREATING RIGHT TO KNOW TOTAL INCOME, SOURCE OF INCOME / EARNINGS/ ASSETS OF THE SPOUSE EACH OTHER, ALSO BY PARENTS IN CASE OF UNMARRIED YOUTH; MANDATORY MAINTENANCE OF EXPENDITURE STATEMENT AND UP DATE EVERY DAY BY ALL INCOME EARNERS
 ENACTMENT OF LAW MAKING IT MANDATORY FOR BOTH WIFE AND HUSBAND JOINTLY FILE “EQUALITY PLANNER” IN AN EXCEL SHEET WITH BIFURCATIONS OF WORK ALLOCATION, WHO PERFORMED WHICH WORK FOR ENSUING BOTH WIFE AND HUSBAND IN A MARRIAGE SHARE RESPONSIBILITIES EQUALLY WITH MUTUAL UNDERSTANDING, FOR ESTABLISHMENT OF EQUALITY OF BOTH GENDERS AND REDUCTION OF DOMINATION OF ONE OVER OTHER DIRECTLY OR INDIRECTLY TO LEAD BY EXAMPLE, THE FIRST STEP IN ESTABLISHMENT OF SOCIAL EQUALITY
 MAKING IT MANDATORY TO OPERATE JOINT BANK ACCOUNT FOR MARRIED COUPLE, ALL EXPENDITURE SHOULD BE FROM JOINT ACCOUNT ONLY, WITH EQUAL EXPENDITURE LIMIT FOR BOTH INDIVIDUALLY, OVER AND ABOVE JOINT SIGNATURE.
 ALSO MANDATORY THAT ALL ASSETS PURCHASED AFTER MARRIAGE SHOULD BE JOINTLY BY WIFE AND HUSBAND
 ENACTMENT OF LAW MAKING IT MANDATORY THAT TILL MARRIAGE THE CHILDREN’S SHOULD HAVE JOINT BANK ACCOUNT FOR MONITORING OF THEIR EXPENDITURE BY PARENTS, ALSO ALL ASSETS PURCHASED TILL THE CHILD GETS MARRIED SHOULD BE IN THE JOINT NAME OF PARENTS AND UN MARRIED CHILD.
 MANDATORY RESPONSIBILITY OF EVERY MARRIED COUPLE TO PAY PART OF THEIR EARNINGS FOR BASIC LIVING OF THEIR OLD AGE PARENTS. THIS PAYMENT THOUGH AUTO DEDUCTION IN SALARY /INCOME FROM BANK ACCOUNT.
 MANDATORY RESPONSIBILITY OF THE SON/ DAUGHTER THE RESPONSIBILITY OF HEALTH CARE OF THEIR PARENTS
 ENACTING LAW FOR MANDATORY VISIT TO PARENTS HOME BY THE MARRIED COUPLE ALONG WITH CHILDREN AT LEAST ONCE IN A YEAR FOR WEEK DAYS ON ANY OCCASIONS
 CREATION OF MORE OLD AGED HOMES
 MANDATORY FOR ALL COUPLES WHETHER MARRIED OR IN LIVE IN RELATIONSHIP TO REGISTER WITH GOVERNMENT SOON AFTER BECOME PREGNANT; STRICTER PUNISHMENTS FOR ILLEGITIMATELY TERMINATING PREGNANCY
 MANDATORY SALE OF PREGNANCY TERMINATION KITS, MEDICINE ONLY AFTER QUOTING THE MARRIED COUPLE ID NUMBER, LIVES IN RELATION ID NUMBER. HOW EVER CONDOM CONTRACEPTIVES CAN BE SOLD WITHOUT ANY RESTRICTIONS.
 ENACTMENT OF LAW FOR PROTECTING THE MARRIAGES OF CHILDLESS COUPLES
 AMENDING LAW FOR ADOPTION; BAN ON PRIVATE / NGO ADOPTION CENTRES; ALL ADOPTION CENTRES SHOULD BE RUN BY GOVERNMENT.
 MANDATORY FOR MEDICAL CHECK UP FOR MARRIED COUPLE/ LIVE IN RELATIONSHIPS, EVERY HALF YEARLY, MANDATORY TO MAINTAIN MEDICAL RECORDS OF THEIR CHILDREN, ISSUE OF SMART CARD FOR CHILD HEALTH RECORDS, PERIODIC CHECK HEALTH CHECKUPS.
 MEASURES FOR CONTAINING HAPPENING OF DOWRY
 CREATION OF CENTRALISED DATA BASE OF OUT OF COURT SETTLEMENTS OF DOWRY HARASSMENT CASES
 MANDATORY FOR GOVERNMENT TO CREATE THE CENTRALISED DATA BASE OF DOWRY HARASSMENT CASES PENDING IN COURTS ANY WHERE IN COURTS, CONVICTS DETAILS AND THE FAMILY TREE OF THE CONVICTS, PENDING CASES.
 CREATION OF DISTRICT WISE PSYCHIATRIC COUNSELLING CENTRES TO TREAT MARRIAGE RELATED DISORDERS, ESPECIALLY THE DISORDER OF SUSPICION OF CHARACTER OF SPOUSE
 ENACTMENT OF LAW FOR CONTAINING DOMESTIC VIOLENCE, AND CREATION OF AWARENESS OF VIGILANT-ARIAN-ISIM/ INFORMER NETWORK, AND INCENTIVES FOR REVEALING INFORMATION REGARDING OCCURRENCE OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE; PUNISHMENT FOR NON REPORTING OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE, ANY ILLEGAL ACTIVITIES BY THE NEIGHBOURS, DOMESTIC HELP, SERVANTS, RELATIVES, ONUS SHOULD LIE ON THEM TO PROVE THEY ARE NOT AWARE OF SUCH INCIDENCE TO MAKE THEM ACT AS WHISTLEBLOWERS.
 NEED FOR EXPANSION OF SCOPE OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE; EXPANSION OF SCOPE OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE TO INCLUDE THE HARASSMENT BY DISGRUNTLED YOUNG WIFE’S ON THE IN LAWS, CROOK SONS ON THEIR PARENTS BY LISTING FALSE ALLEGATIONS OF THE WIFE’S
 ENACTING LAW THAT ANY OF MARRIED PARTNER CAN NOT STAY AWAY FOR MORE THAN 30 DAYS OUT OF HOME, WITH EXCEPTION TO SOME PROFESSIONS. ; MARRIED WOMEN SHOULD HAVE RIGHT TO SAY WITH HER PARENTS FOR 30 DAYS IN A YEAR; FORMULATION OF RULES UNDER WHICH CIRCUMSTANCES MARRIED COUPLE CAN DENY PARTICIPATING IN SEX, FOR BETTER UNDERSTATING EACH OTHERS RIGHTS FOR BUILDING CONSCIOUS AND HARMONY IN MARRIED LIFE, REDUCTION OF SEXUAL HARASSMENT AT WORK PLACE, ACHIEVING MORE PRODUCTIVITY DUE STABLE MIND.
 CREATION OF MULTI LINGUAL TOLL FREE NUMBER FOR PRE DIVORCE COUNSELLING ONLINE REAL TIME, MANDATORY FOR ALL WHO WISH TO GO FOR DIVORCE TO CALL THE NUMBER, FOLLOW THE ADVISE AND IN EXTREME CASES GO FOR PERSONAL COUNSELLING, AFTER EVERY EFFORT GOT EXHAUSTED GO FOR FILING OF COURT CASE, TO FILE COURT CASES IN DIVORCE, BOTH PARTIES MUST MENTION THE UNIQUE ID NUMBER OF PRE DIVORCE COUNSELLING
 DISTRICT WISE / MANDAL WISE PRE DIVORCE PERSONAL COUNSELLING CENTRES; NEED FOR REDUCTION OF TIME GAP FOR GRANTING DIVORCE FROM 3 YEARS OF SEPARATION TO ONE YEAR; SEPARATE FAST TRACK COURTS FOR DIVORCE CASES; FIXED NO OF HEARINGS TO DECIDE CASE.
 CENTRALISED SYSTEMS TO MONITOR THE MONITORY COMPENSATION DISPOSAL; AMENDING LAW FOR REPLACING THE EXISTING PRACTICE OF AWARDING THE COMPENSATION IN DIVORCE CASES AT THE WILL/ WISDOM OF JUDGES TO MAKING A FIXED PERCENTAGE OF COMPENSATION FROM INCOME EARNED AND FIXED PERCENTAGE OF COMPENSATION FROM THE VALE OF ASSETS, WHICH SHOULD BE SAME FOR ALL DIVORCE CASES IRRESPECTIVE OF INCOME GROUP/ RELIGION; NO DIVORCE/ BREAK UP APPLICATION WHEN THE WOMEN PARTNER IS PREGNANT, ONLY AFTER DELIVERING CHILD THEY MAY APPLY; FEMALE CHILD SHOULD BE RAISED BY MOTHER MANDATORILY.
 CRIMINAL OFFENCE TO MARRY, ENTER INTO LIVE IN RELATIONSHIP WHEN THE CASE OF DOWRY, DIVORCE PENDING FOR FINAL JUDGEMENT FROM THE HIGHEST COURT.
 ENACTMENT OF LAW RESTRICTING MAXIMUM NUMBER OF MARRIAGES, OR LIVE IN RELATIONS ONE INDIVIDUAL CAN IN HIS/HER LIFE TIME BE RESTRICTED TO TWO IRRESPECTIVE OF RELIGION.
 ENACTING LAW, MAKING IT A CRIMINAL OFFENCE FOR ONLOOKERS FOR NOT ACTING TO STOP CRIME, HELP THE VICTIMS IN THE VIOLENCE/CRIME AGAINST WOMEN. REWARD FOR PERSONS COMING FORWARD TO HELP THE WOMEN
 MEASURES TO CONTAIN ADULTERY; ENACTMENT OF LAW FOR LIFE IMPRISONMENT FOR ADULTERY; CONFISCATION OF PROPERTIES WHEN PERSON INDULGED IN ADULTERY AND ON CONVECTION, GOVERNMENT SHOULD AUCTION SUCH PROPERTIES AND THE MONEY ACCUMULATED SHOULD GO TO THE GOVERNMENT RELIEF FUND. TERMINATION OF EMPLOYMENT FOR GOVERNMENT/ PRIVATE EMPLOYEES, PERSON RECEIVING GOVERNMENT BENEFITS SHOULD LOSE THEM PERMANENTLY.
 ENACTMENT OF LAW GIVING RIGHTS OF WOMEN IN ADULTERY CASES, FOR ALL FUTURE CASES
 GOVERNMENT MUST ALTER THE DEFINITION OF TERM “CONSENSUAL SEX” WHICH CAN BE REFERRED ONLY TO LEGITIMATE COUPLE.
 CENTRALISED DATA BANK OF CONVICTED IN CRIMINAL CASES RELATED TO ATROCITIES AGAINST WOMEN, MANDATORY DISPLAY OF THE ACCUSED, CONVICTED DETAILS IN THE NATIVE VILLAGE, IRRESPECTIVE OF PLACE OF CRIME HAPPENED WHETHER IN THE SAME SATE OR OTHER STATE, TO NAME AND SHAME THE CRIMINALS, SENDING SMS TO ALL CONTACTS IN THE PHONE NUMBERS OF ACCUSED, CONVICTED, PUTTING IN SOCIAL MEDIA CONTACTS OF THE ACCUSED, CONVICTED IN CRIMES AGAINST WOMEN TO NAME AND SHAME.
 FREEZING OF THE ASSETS OF ACCUSED IN CRIMINAL CASES AGAINST WOMEN ESPECIALLY IN HEINOUS CRIMES OF RAPE, ACID ATTACKS, AND DOWRY HARASSMENT CASES, IN CASE OF CONVECTION THE ASSETS SHOULD BE AUCTIONED AND THE MONEY SHOULD BE GIVEN TO THE VICTIM
 MANDATORY MENTION OF INDIVIDUAL, FAMILY STATUS WITH MARRIAGE REGISTRATION NUMBER, LIVE IN REGISTRATION NUMBER IN RENTAL AGREEMENTS, MANDATORY TO REVEL DETAILS OF PERSONS STAYING IN THAT HOUSE, THEIR RELATION WITH THE PERSON TAKING ON RENT, ETC; ALL RENTALS SHOULD BE GIVEN AFTER DUE VERIFICATION OF THE STATUS OF THE INDIVIDUAL, FAMILY, TO CONTAIN BIGAMY, EXTRA MATRIMONIAL AFFAIRS, ADULTERY, PROSTITUTION, IN CASE OF FOUND SUCH ILLEGITIMATE ACTS HAPPENING THE OWNERS ALSO LIABLE FOR PUNISHMENT. ALSO PERSONS LIVING IN OWN HOUSE SHOULD SUBMIT ANNUALLY THAT WHO ARE STAYING IN THEIR HOUSE, THEIR RELATION. ETC.
 MEASURES TO CONTAIN PROSTITUTION, STRICTER PUNISHMENTS FOR PARTICIPATION IN PROSTITUTION, GOVERNMENT/PRIVATE EMPLOYEE CAUGHT IN PROSTITUTION SHOULD PERMANENTLY LOOSE TO DO JOB/ EMPLOYMENT IN ANY ORGANISATION IN LIFE TIME, ALSO FOR TRUCK DRIVERS LOSE THE DRIVING LICENCE PERMANENTLY, FOR STUDENTS DEBARRED FROM PURSING EDUCATION, NO EMPLOYMENT, FOR MNREGA EMPLOYEES CANCELATION OF JOB CARDS AND OTHER GOVERNMENT BENEFITS, ALSO USE OF RELIGIOUS GROUPS TO PREACH/ PURIFY/ SANCTIFY PEOPLE INVOLVED IN PROSTITUTION “COME BACK FOR DIGNITY OF LIVING” FOR BRINING PROSTITUTES INTO MAIN STREAM LIVING, SELF EMPLOYMENT, SHG FOR THOSE WHO LEAVE PROSTITUTION IN ADDITION PROVIDING PUCCA HOUSE IN THE NATIVE PLACE AS A PART OF REHABILITATION.
 LEGALISING PROSTITUTION FOR MULTIPLE BENEFITS
 MANDATORY MAINTENANCE OF CENTRALISED DATA BANK OF HIV PATENTS, STD DISEASES BY GOVERNMENT WITHOUT MAKING PUBLIC, ONLY USED FOR USE BY GOVERNMENT IN CASE OF LEGALISING OF PROSTITUTION/ USE FOR BY MARRIAGE REGISTRAR BORE ISSUING PRE MARRIAGE REGISTRATION UNIQUE ID.
 CENTRALISED DATA BANK OF CONVICTED PEOPLE WHO ARE INVOLVED IN PROSTITUTION TO ALERT FROM GETTING CHEATED BY SUCH PIMPS, TOUTS ETC
 CREATION OF CORPUS FUND FOR GIVING INCENTIVES FOR INFORMERS REGARDING HAPPENING OF PROSTITUTION, ADULTERY, BIGAMY
 ENACTMENT OF LAW FOR CONTAINING HAPPING OF HOMO SEXUALITY, CONFISCATING PROPERTIES OF PERSONS INDULGING IN HOMO SEXUALITY SHOULD LOSE RIGHT TO THEIR INHERENT PROPERTIES; IF GOVERNMENT THINKS TO SAVE MILLIONS OF MARRIAGES THEY SHOULD LEGALISE HOMO SEXUALITY UNDER STRICT CONDITIONS.
 NEED FOR LEGALISING & REGULATION OF LIVE IN RELATIONS (COHABITATIONS OF HETEROSEXUALS I.E MAN & WOMEN LIVING TOGETHER), MANDATORY REGISTRATION OF “LIVE IN RELATIONSHIPS” EXISTING AS WELL AS ALL FUTURE AFTER ENACTMENT LEGALISATION COME INTO FORCE; MANDATORY APPROVAL OF “PRE LIVE IN RELATIONSHIP REGISTRATION” I.E PLR FROM REGISTRAR OF MARRIAGES FOR ENTERING LIVE IN RELATIONSHIP; CENTRALISED DATA BANK HUB OF LIVE IN RELATIONS
 MANDATORY OPERATION OF JOINT BANK ACCOUNTS BY LIVE IN COUPLE; MANDATORY PURCHASE OF ANY ASSETS WHETHER MOVABLE OR IMMOVABLE ACQUIRED IN LIVE IN RELATIONSHIPS IN JOINT NAME
 ENACTMENT/ AMENDMENT OF SUCCESSION OF PROPERTIES ACTS, FOR BARRING PERSONS IN LIVE IN RELATIONSHIP, RIGHT TO CLAIM OVER INHERENT PROPERTIES
 NEED FOR REGULATION OF PLAY SCHOOLS, CREATION OF PLAY SCHOOLS IN EVERY WARD IN URBAN AREAS AND IN EVERY VILLAGE, STANDARD DESIGN FOR PLAY SCHOOLS AND MANDATORY CC CAMERAS AND LIVE FEED ON THE MOBILE PHONE
 MANDATORY PRE SCHOOL HENCE FORTH TO EMPLOYMENT ONLY TRAINED TEACHERS, ECO FRIENDLY PLASTIC, ENVIRONMENTAL DEGRADABLE MATERIAL FOR PRE SCHOOL LEARNING MATERIAL, ALL CHILD PLAY EQUIPMENT SHOULD UNDER GO STRINGENT QUALITY CONTROL FOR HARMFUL CHEMICAL PLASTICS, FUR ETC, COMPLETE BAN ON IMPORT, SALE OF CHILD PLAYING KITS FROM OTHER COUNTRIES AND INDIGENOUS MANUFACTURING WITH LOCALLY AVAILABLE MATERIAL. REWARDS FOR INNOVATION FOR COST EFFECTIVE LEARNING, EQUIPMENT
 BABY SITTING TRAINING COURSE WITH CERTIFICATION
 MANDATORY MAINTENANCE OF CRÈCHES IN ALL OFFICE ESTABLISHMENTS WITH UNIFORM FACILITIES IN ALL CRÈCHES, ALL THE CHILDREN OF ALL EMPLOYEES OF NEW MOTHERS IRRESPECTIVE OF THEIR DESIGNATION WHETHER THEY ARE CEO OR PEON CAN USE THIS FACILITY
 CREATION OF MARRIAGE VENUE COMPLEXES/HUBS IN EVERY VILLAGE/ MANDAL/ BLOCK IN ACCORDING TO THE POPULATION AGED BETWEEN 15 TO 25 POPULATION OF UNMARRIED YOUTH; VARIOUS OTHER MEASURES LIKE BUILDING NEAR METROS, RESTRICTING NUMBER OF INVITEES, RESTRICTING SO CALLED BARAT IN CITIES, BAN ON USE OF PLASTIC GIFT WARPS, ETC TO MAKE MARRIES FUNCTIONS GRACIOUS, NOT CREATING INDIRECT/ DIRECT TROUBLE FOR OTHERS
 CREATION OF CARRIER COURSES/ SKILL DEVELOPMENT FOR MARRIAGE RELATED SERVICES AND ALSO FOR CREATION OF FINANCIAL COUNSELLING, HEALTH CARE COUNSELLING PROFESSIONALS TO MAKE THEM AS FULL TIME CARRIER COURSES.
 ENACTING LAW MAKING IT A CRIME FOR SENDING SO CALLED LOVE LETTERS/ SMS/ E MAILS/ ORAL PROPOSALS FOR ALL BELOW 21 YEARS OF AGE, ESPECIALLY STUDENTS BELOW DEGREE, ALSO 21 YEARS ABOVE WHO ARE DOING JOB CAN SEND SUCH LETTERS BUT NOT MORE THAN TWO TIMES ANY ONE CAN SEND SUCH PROPOSAL EITHER BY MALE/FEMALE, IF THERE IS NO RESPONSE WITHIN 90 DAYS FROM OTHER SIDE IT SHOULD BE CONSIDERED AS REJECTION, AND EITHER MALE OR FEMALE SHOULD NOT PURSUE FURTHER, OTHER WISE CONSIDER AS HOUNDING, INTIMIDATION AND FORCING SOME ONE TO GET INFLUENCED DUE TO UNDUE PRESSURE AND THEY SHOULD BE IMPRISONED FOR COERCION TO ACCEPT THEIR PROPOSAL.
 MAKING PRE MARTIAL SEX A SERIOUS CRIME, SEX SHOULD NOT BE GRAVE CRIMINAL OFFENCE IF DONE BELOW 21 YEARS OF AGE. LIFE IMPRISONMENT FOR BOTH MALE AND FEMALE FOR INDULGING IN SEX BELOW 21 YEARS OF AGE, IN ADDITION PHYSICAL CASTRATION FOR MALE
 COMPLETE BAN PORNOGRAPHY, SURFING PORNOGRAPHY IS CRIME; ETHICAL HACKING FOR MONITORING CHILD BEHAVIOUR TO KNOW THEIR WEB BROWSING CONTENT, SOCIAL MEDIA VISITS, MOBILE INTERNET PERIODICALLY AND REPORTING TO THE PARENTS FOR ENSURING ADHERING TO MORAL BEHAVIOUR BY THE CHILDREN; ISSUE OF SMART CARDS FOR STUDENTS, RECORD ATTENDANCE PERIOD BY PERIOD AND TIME IN AND TIME OUT OF SCHOOL/ COLLAGE SHOULD BE REPORTED TO PARENTS. PERIODIC SURPRISE HEALTH CHECK UP FOR STUDENTS FOR IDENTIFYING HABITS OF SMOKING, CONSUMPTION OF ALCOHOL, DRUGS ETC.; REWARDS FOR FELLOW STUDENTS FOR REVEALING WITH PROOF, IF ANY FRIEND/FELLOW STUDENTS INDULGE IN SUCH ILLEGAL ACTIVITIES, PUNISHMENT FOR FRIENDS WHO WITNESSED SUCH ACTS, NOT REPORTING TO AUTHORITIES.
 MANDATORY TEACHING OF RELIGION (THE RESPECTIVE RELIGION FOLLOWED BY CHILD, STRICTLY NO COMMON RELIGIOUS TEACHINGS/ PRACTICES, RESPECTING EVERY RELIGIOUS SENTIMENTS/NORMS) AS CURRICULUM FOR SCHOOL CHILDREN FOR INFUSING GOOD BEHAVIOUR; NEED FOR MANDATORY SPIRITUAL EDUCATION/ MEDITATION FOR ALL SCHOOLS, COLLAGES, OFFICE ESTABLISHMENTS
India being the second most largest populated country in the world (within few decades going to the largest populated country), having more than 70 % youth population, of which more than 50% are aged below 25 years as of now, even though the eligible age for marriage is 21 years, but most of the youth are not showing interest in institution of marriage, delays the marriage in the name of carrier and settlement in life, are leading to rise on “live in relationships”, and the very essence of Indian tradition & custom of Institution of marriage is fading away, when marriage is the beginning and foundation of new generation and also fundamental aspect in process & sustained development of any country.
Even though It is a fact from history of INDIA, that there are some instances of live in relationships, adultery narrated in some of the ancient epics, but by and large INDIA is Known for FAMILY LIFE through MARRIAGE, which will yield long lasting positive effects on health of the individual, family, nation but the youth of the country are slowly moving towards live in relationships, and also delaying marriages, even though marriages are happing the harmony in marries becoming like mirages resulting in rise of broken marriages and rise in divorce cases is really a matter of concern.; All these are due to vicious circle of money i.e dowry, sex, adultery, extra matrimonial affairs, pre matrimonial affairs. History says there existed what is called “KANYASULKAM” i.e paying money for marriage, i.e for getting married, the groom has to pay for the parents of bride some amount, but in the present era this turned to dowry i.e the bride’s parents has to pay for the groom to get her married, which become a major burden/deterrent for marriages in the present era, even though there exists anti dowry law with stricter punishments but hardly there are no measure to unearthing the happening of dowry as a result the anti dowry law is hardly able to prevent the happening of dowry in one or other form.
Also it is a fact that performing marriages is a lot of financial burden for the parents of bride, and for millions of parents the worry starts when the child is still a foetus in pregnant mothers womb, even now in some parts of the country many parents want to know the sex of the child in advance when the wife/ daughter in law is pregnant illegally, in case female child in the womb they want to culminate the pregnancy or not able to bear the future financial burden on account of dowry, all this in spite of ban on identifying sex of the foetus, also some may allowing, but still majority feel burdened, for majority the stress in the mind starts from the day the girl child is born in their family, the stress is for, how to earn more money, how to save money, build basic assets for ensuring at least they can perform their daughters marriage, also it is fact that millions of parents of girl child are going for loans to meet the marriage expenses, also in the anticipation of getting more dowry some parents delay the marriages, at the same time some male are not getting brides due to unemployment/ due to lack of adequate job/ regular income, and those who are well off are not showing interest in marriages due to concern for carrier, some who have enough resources at their disposal are sex maniac who do not value the family life, all these are causes of rising in adultery, prostitution, which has tremendous negative impact not only on the individuals, but also it impacts the family/ children, also the work output and the entire economic progress of the nation, as it is a fact that healthy family life leads to healthy mind and thus healthy work output and thus a healthy & wealthy nation.
As such there is acute need for ensuring youth of the country uphold the traditions and customs of the country respecting the women, laws of the land are followed for ensuring the institution of marriage/ family life prevails for a happy family life, which is necessary for a healthy nation. But most unfortunately due to lack of proper information regarding the marriages, the details of couples/ married man/ married women, millions of young girls and women get cheated by some corrupt minded men apply all their tactics, act as innocent, friendly, helping nature etc etc exhibiting all good man charactering in the pretext of becoming close to the females and later on either get into pre martial sex, extra matrimonial sex in the pretext of getting marriage, or some cases propose them to get marry to acquire wealth, income earned by the female in case the females are employed, have large inherent properties and after having the pre martial sex or marriage, lately the females getting to know they were cheated by these scoundrels who are already married and also having grown up children?, but most of the victim women are either getting silent due to fear for society, some may continue the relationship due to fear of expose by the scoundrels the intimate relationship videos got exposed or some approach police & courts, but finally the women are more sufferers?; also lack of proper counselling leading to increase in divorce cases, also due to lack of systems to detect happing of dowry?. Also it is fact lot of domestic violence happing, when the women questions the wrong doings of their man/husband, or concealed information about his previous relationships, acts.
In order to prevent all kinds of crimes related to marriages, prevent cheating/ prevent bigamy, government must reform /re enact the marriage laws, and the beginning should be making it mandatory within a stipulated time period all existing marriages/ live in relations should get registered by in a standard format, and all marriages in future should get pre marriage registration approval from the government to get married, by submitting information regarding the bride and groom, in an affidavit form, or online only after the pre marriage approval any kind of marriage related function should happen, to issue pre marriage approval, the bride and groom must submit details in a standard format, with the voter ID card/ Passport/ Adhar card etc etc, the in principle approval should be granted in the form of granting unique ID number, after getting confirming the bride or groom were not already married/ not in live in relation to someone, elsewhere in the country (by verifying in the central data bank of married people and live in relation people), government must issue smart cards for both spouses, also the same should be linked to voter ID card, Passport, Adhar card to certify they are couple. After getting state wise data, the National/central data base should be created the data can be used in several ways..
2) NEED FOR CENTRALISED DATA BASE OF MARRIED COUPLE AND DIVORCED COUPLE RECORDS
Even though there exists norms for marriage registration at present, and some percentage of marriages in urban areas are getting registered, but as far as rural areas are concerned the registration of marriages are much less, also it is fact even though Supreme court of India directed state governments to make it mandatory to register marriages, which was still in the process, as such in the first place all state marriage registrations should give advertisements in media for getting the marriages registered who otherwise not registered till date within a stipulated time period, simultaneously all the records should be digitalized in a standard format in all states, and then there should be central data base of all marriage registrations happened in all states by synchronizing data, for ensuring no married person can re marry in any part of INDIA and no person while divorce petition is still pending before courts can re marry, as in the centralised data base of marriages the data of all married persons all over INDIA exists, as such anyone interested in marrying anyone should first check the details of person for the matrimonial status, this measure will certainly prevent happening of bigamy, and innocent lives are saved from cheating and lifelong humiliation. So there should be a centralised database of the all married couple for marginalisation of cheating/bigamy.
Similarly gathering the information of divorced cases, all divorce cases pending in various courts in the country and up load as per district, state and a national data base is created. This data base is made public, for alerting them not to get in to marriage alliance when the court case is still pending. This measure saves lot of women get cheated, as till date no such central data of divorce in progress is in existence, as such some intentionally hiding the details of previous marriage and getting married, later on found that they are already married. All this sort of issues has no room hence forth, once the central data bank of divorce cases, divorce in pending in courts.
3) MANDATORY PRE MARRIAGE REGISTRATION CERTIFICATION/ APPROVAL FOR PERFORMING/ SOLEMNIZATION OF MARRIAGE
There should be one marriage act in place of marriage act of different religions HINDU marriage act, Muslim marriage act, Christian Marriage act, to formulate one act replacing other previous marriage acts including special marriage act, In the new act the spirit, religious faith, norms of all religious acts should be intact, only change required is there should be two prone process of performing/solemnisation of marriage, one preliminary approval of marriage after getting basic details of both bride and groom and on authentication that the details submitted by the individuals are true, after ensuring both are free to marry without any bondages/ previous marriage bonding in existence, once applied within 30 days the pre marriage registration (PMR) approval should be granted for going for marriage, every religious person may get married as per their religious customs, once approval is granted i,e PMR unique ID issued, marriage should happen within a specified time period 90 days (the time for 90 days is for giving time for performing some pre marriage rituals and also for auspicious dates etc) , after performing marriage the registration should be done immediately through submitting details online. After expiry of 90 days if the marriage is not performed this should be treated as marriage proposal nullified, in case they want to extend, they may apply for extension, specifying the reasons for not able to perform marriage within 90 days, if the reasons are justified then they be either given extension or in case extension not granted the individuals are free to apply for fresh marriage proposals with different individuals. The reasons for cancellation should be within the specified list approved by the marriage registrar, otherwise they should be investigated for failure of the marriage on account of dowry or on account of concealing information/ wrong information by one of the party.
4) NEED FOR DETAILED DECLARATION FROM PERSONS WILLING TO MARRY FOR ENSURING HONESTY, TRUTHFULNESS, & LEGITIMACY PREVAILS AT ALL TIMES
The mandatory details for pre marriage registration include names of the individuals, photographs of the individuals, the details of parents, domicile state, birth place, present living address, contact details, phone, e mail id, social media etc if any, the caste& sub caste of individuals, the religion of the individuals, the age of the individuals, if any one of the partner is married earlier, if any of the partner has children (from previous marriage), educational qualifications occupation, chronology of study, detailed break up of school, college, university, year of pass of both individuals, whether employed, or not, in case employed the chronology of employment, with full details of employer, income per annum of the individuals, the properties and wealth of the individual, properties include the movable/ immovable assets, the details of voter id card, the pan number, the passport number, the details of police cases, court cases pending against them, any chronic diseases they are having, any disabilities they are having, whether they smoke, consume alcohol, the health details of the HIV test, the STD test reports, whether they had love affairs, pre martial sex/ adultery prior to marriage, whether they had love affair etc, whether the marriage an arranged marriage, then the details of the persons who arranged the marriage, in case of love marriage the details of close friends who helped them if at all; also the where they wish to get married, in a religious place, or at registrar office, or any grand event to be performed, who are going to bear the expenses for performing marriage whether the bride/ groom, what is the approximate amount going to spend, the sources of such funds, whether the money is tax paid, the details of income tax PAN number and three years records, in case of arranged marriage the details of income and assets movable & immovable of both the parents and unmarried children, also the family tree details of the both the bride and groom etc etc ; these details are very necessary, after all the marriage is not of one day/night affair (not prostitution/ call girl-isim), but a life long journey of the two individuals, also the the future of the country, as healthy married life will lead to healthy and good conduct children; the details should be submitted in an affidavit form individually & jointly, the information should be shared among the parties who wish to marry, any wrong information mentioned in the affidavit by any of the partner found later is liable for criminal offense of deliberate cheating and the law should take its course.
Some of the details of prospective bride and groom should be made available on the centralised web data base for 30 days, in internet (some details like phone numbers, bank account, passport details etc should not be made public, remaining all details should be made public including the financial position, the assets, the amount intended to spent on the marriage etc ), any public should able to get type the name, voter id card number and know the details. These measure are necessary to prevent bigamy, cheating, reduce un happiness in marriages, reduce atrocities /crime against married women, and also reduces happening of divorce cases, also reduce the adultery on account of disturbed marriage life, also to reduce prostitution, as most men live happy married couple.
In case any individuals have any objection they can file a complainant to the marriage registration authority by way of an affidavit through speed post/ or through e mail by quoting their voter id card number, mobile phone number, address, along with proof for such objection, or in case they are third party and only to alert the bride/ groom regarding any information which was furnished wrong by either party and they are aware of the truth, or concealment of any information by either bride or groom about their status or they are indulged in any illegitimate/ illegal activities, they may send the details to marriage registrar, anonymously, or if sent by name also the identity of the whistleblower details should be kept secret, if such information found to be true, then the whistleblower should be reward appropriately, in case of false or fabricated information then the whistleblower should be punished, the marriage registrar have right to cancel the unique ID of PMR even minutes before marriage found information of HIV, serious criminal cases which attract live imprisonment.
5) ENACTING LAW FOR MANDATORY DISCLOSURE OF AFFAIRS PHYSICAL OR MENTAL, OF PROSPECTIVE BRIDE AND GROOM, IN LIVE IN RELATIONS PRIOR TO MARRIAGE IN THE PRE MARRIAGE REGISTRATION SUBMISSION
Also it is fact that most of the marriages are not successfully running, even though may not end up in divorce but the harmony between the wife and husband getting dented permanently after, the issue of affairs of both physical (i.e sex) or mental (i.e so called unsuccessful love) matter is known to the husband or wife, certainly the heart will break and once the heart is broken, it is impossible to function the same manner, as none in the world can repair the broken heart, if is broken fully in married life, it may end-up in divorce, if it is broken to some extent, the harmony is lost in the family, and the family life of such couple can be termed as more or less vegetative state of living, as there is no real happiness exists, the couple may have sexual relations but the original respect/ harmony will not prevail among each other as the their self feels that were cheated in one or other way and the trust has dented); since till date no such provision of mandatory disclosure of previous affairs before marriage whether they are physical or mental is not in existence, only based on trust the marriages are happening; but most of the people of such history is marrying simply due to pressure from parents or just want to marry to lead life.
Also it is a fact that in some cases when husband is consciously revealing to the wife soon after marriage in the arranged marriages, then the wife which came with great expectancy about her husband, goes into distress in her heart, which she may not exhibit immediately but certainly the image of her husband getting tarnished in her heart, so she will start ill treating him or she will try to dominate him by controlling/rationing sex, where as in case the husband do not reveal before marriage and during the course of happy married life if it get out in future (after all truth will prevail, and certainly one or other day it will come out for sure) , then the harmony in married life gets disturbed she will go in humiliation in her heart and the relationship will not be the same,; where as in case if wife’s who was affairs prior to marriage not disclose in the beginning of marriage, but on fine bad day when the truth is out then the husband starts domestic violence in case the marriage relation continues, or in some cases gets into divorce? of course there are certain percentage of wifes and husbands with large heart and forgive the past and live in present and future, but such percentage of understandable good husbands and good wifes is very low compared to people who are hurt, feel cheated, feel frustrated and get fell to go out of the relation; these are naked truths, not a illusionary/ imaginatory thinking but it is a reality faced/ facing by millions of couples. So all this disturbed life leads to loss of peace, and without peace perfect workout will not be expected/ achieved, since INDIA having largest young working force, it is necessary to ensure both men and women at work fore are mentally more peaceful without any disturbed mind, for this the root cause should be fixed to prevent happing of things later on, which cannot be repairable?
So it should be made mandatory that before marriage both groom and bride should disclose about their previous affairs of life in an affidavit form. After knowing each other’s affairs if any, if have mutual understating prior to marriage and forgave each other and make up their mind to go for marriage they can do so by a joint signature for such forgiveness/compromise to get PMR clearance for marriage, else they should drop the proposal of marriage their and then. This measure also gives thinking to many parents with young children to make them under and educate not to indulge in pre matrimonial sex, also not in indulge in so called love affairs, start developing interest at very tender age in the name of love when their energies required concentrating on education/ skill development for better living in future.
Also it should be made a grave criminal offence to lie on affidavit by wrong info/ concealing the information while submitting PMR data, in case found later stage of marriage, it should be considered as malafied intention/ deliberately cheating the other partner, as such they should be awarded life imprisonment for spoiling the innocent life. This measure should be applicable for all marriages; both arranged/ love, also in the live in relations. This measure will certainly lead to drastic reduction in pre matrimonial sex; also it reduces so called love affairs.
6) MANDATORY OATH BY PARENTS / BRIDE & GROOM FOR WILL NOT TAKE DOWRY, WILL NOT GIVE DOWRY IN CASH/KIND, OATH ON THEIR RELIGIOUS GODS & ON THE BRIDE & GROOM & ON THEIR CHILDREN
In order to reduce the happing of dowry in a direct (monitory) or indirect (kind like vehicles, jewellery, property) manner, while submitting the pre marriage registration form, an additional affidavit on oath should be submitted by parents of the bride and groom as well as both bride and groom. The affidavit submitted by parents of bride and groom along with PMR should contain that they swear on their religious faith/ god / guru whom they worship and they swear on their living parents & living children that they will not give dowry or take dowry, in cash or in kind whether movable assets/ immovable assets even as gifts to bride/groom, either though them or through their relatives at any point of time before the marriage or after the marriage, where as the affidavit of bride/groom should contain oath swearing on the religious god/guru they believe in, swearing on their parents, swearing on their future children that they will not allow their parents to take dowry/ give dowry, and in case they get the information without their their knowledge if their parents/ relatives take/give dowry before marriage/ after the marriage even as gift, they will immediately inform the anti dowry wing, in case they fail to do so, or in future if found by authorities that dowry happened in this marriage, then they are liable for punishment as per law for giving dowry, giving false information / concealing information, in addition they are praying almighty to punish them if they lie on oath. This measure will certainly reduce the dowry to some extent, after all most of the people are religious and have faith either in god or gurus and have fear that by lies on oath they get bad results in future.
7) MANDATORY TO HAVE MINIMUM FINANCIAL SECURITY FOR BRIDE/GROOM TO GET MARRIED/ ENTER LIVE IN RELATIONSHIP
Also since India being the country with largest youth population, and unemployment is on the rise, not only in India, but throughout the world, in this circumstances, without having financial security for basic livelihood / job security/ regular source of income/ money deposits in bank/ assets in hand possessed by at least one member of the prospective couple, no marriage should be allowed / pre marriage clearance unique ID should not be allocated to marry or even they should not be allowed to do live in relationship.
This measure is necessary as without any source of income, even in arranged marriages it is heinous to depend up on the hard earnings of the parents/ in-laws ?; also in case of love marriages where there is no parents support the case much more vulnerable?. So law should be enacted ensuring that at least one member in the wouldbe couple should have regular source of income as pre condition for eligibility to get married. It should be minimum Rs 5,000 per month earnings in urban areas and for rural areas it should be Rs 3,500 rupees per month on an average (the minimum amounts should vary year after year based on average cost of living), in case of BPL families the MNREGA card which gives 150 days of working at 200 Rs per day), in addition they should have at least Rs 15,000 rupees balance in savings bank account for urban areas and Rs 11,500 for rural areas, all this for those who have some way of regular income by way of employment. In case of no regular income source like agriculture or self employment etc they should have fixed amount in either savings bank / fixed deposit in the name of the groom, but certainly they should indulged in earning in that field, in such cases they should accumulate somehow savings to the tune of Rs 60,000 in urban areas and Rs 42,000 in rural areas to get their children married or the child once cross the age of 18 he/ she should start earning either by way of education and getting job or by way of self employment through going for skill development etc and certainly wait for few years may be 3 to 4 years and do savings of 1,000 Rs per month for four years and get married. Without knowing earning/ start earning, how do the male youth is expect that he can take care of the family? Strange? ; the only exception in so called love marriages is the same condition of earning per month or minimum bank balance criteria will be the same, however if one of the partner in marriages i.e groom/ bride has that earning capacity they can get marry, but only exception is it should be mandatory is that marriages should be simple marriages and should be done in the presence of marriage registrar or the maximum expenditure allowed for marriage in love marriages should not be more than 10,000 rupees, Irrespective of the financial status of the bride or groom, otherwise there is every possibility that dowry can be routed through brides account.
This measure not only creates responsibility on the part of the male youth to do some savings, try to do some productive job to earn their bread, this measure will reduce the dowry/ domestic violence to a great extent, as most of the domestic violence happens in the BPL/ LOW income group, to some extent in the middle income group. the domestic violence on account of dowry/ more money for luxury of the husband, if he do not have job and got married this is happening, so by putting earnings of one of the partner is necessary pre condition will certainly reduce domestic violence to a great extent in these lower strata income group. Also this reduces so called love marriages/ eloping just like that in the name of love without having any source of income by the un employed youth having no other work by using the hard earned money of their parents for trapping the girl to love, later on expecting dowry that after marriage start harassing the girl to get dowry/ more money to live, this will not happen if this measure of earning is pre condition for marriage is in place. Also this measure will encourage male youth of the country to earn money and get married rather than living on the earnings of the women.
8) MANDATORY THAT ANY MARRIAGE RELATED FUNCTIONS/ RITUALS WHETHER FORMAL OR INFORMAL MUST START ONLY AFTER GETTING PRE MARRIAGE REGISTRATION (PMR) NUMBER
Any marriage related functions/rituals between the prospective bride and groom of what so ever nature whether it may be ring ceremony or printing of marriage cards or for that matter any function what so ever it may be as per traditions of that religion/ sect/ family should happen only after receiving the preliminary marriage registration approval with unique ID, which is nothing but the couple are free to marry, there is no legal hurdles, if any one performs any marriage related function without applying for PMR or while PMR is in processing , PMR is rejected, it should be treated as illegal both bride and groom and their parents in case of arranged marriage are subjected to penalty and imprisonment for culpable bigamy. Also even for booking function halls, catering etc etc for any professional services for performing the marriage function requires the pre marriage registration PMR unique ID. Without PMR number no one should print marriage cards, without PMR no one can book a function hall, without PMR no one can supply food etc, this measure saves lot of illegitimate/ illegal marriages.
9) MEASURES FOR REGULATING SUDDEN CANCELLATION OF MARRIAGES AFTER ALL ARRANGEMENTS MADE
Also it should be ideal to make it mandatory that once applied for PMR jointly by both bride and groom, no party can cancel the marriage proposal arbitrarily, without list of valid reasons, without informing the registrar of marriages for such dropping of proposal by either of the party. Also once the pre marriage registration unique ID is issued and in no case marriage should be called off/stopped unless otherwise valid reasons are presented. There should be a list of valid reasons prepared by the registrar of marriage after due deliberation and consulting various religious leaders and social leaders (as different religions have different reasons for cancellation/ postponement of marriage), which should be uniform for all that persons in that religion, the list of causes for cancellation should be if there is any death in the family/loved ones or bride and groom might have hospitalised for valid reason and not in a position to move out of hospital, or not able to travel/ lost property due to nature’s fury like cyclones, earthquakes, tsunami etc, the reasons should not be superstitious, but only on medical grounds or any incriminating information regarding bride or groom found after pre marriage registration unique id before marriage, etc which should be rational in nature, which should be subjected to evidence, in no case any marriage proposal once obtained PMR can be cancelled arbitrarily, All arbitrary cancellations are subjected to FIR and investigation. Also There should be compensation clause that in case marriage is called off due to criminal cases on one party, then that party should pay all the expenses incurred by the other party after getting PMR should be given back with 300% on that as a penalty. This measure saves lot of marriages and humiliation/ suffering of several families as it is prevalent that marries are cancelled even after cards are distributed mostly just because of non fulfilment of so called dowry commitments or the groom finds better bride than the present one, or just because of rumours about the bride or groom for character assignation.
Also it should be made mandatory that when prospective bride and groom fix a date of marriage after getting PMR, they should inform the registrar of marriage the date of marriage. In case of failure to get marriage registration done after 90 days of PMR validity expires, the registrar of marriages sent a notice to both bride and groom side for written explanation within 48 hours after expiry of 90 days validity of PMR, and after getting information, if the marriage registrar feels that the cancellation is not due to the valid reasons listed by registrar of marriage, then he should order immediate registering of FIR and investigation by the local police for probed, submit findings within 90 days.
Also either the bride or groom can approach the registrar of marriage & the local police before the expiry of the PMR Unique ID Number complaining regarding unreasonably / unilateral cancellation the other party.
Even if they want to cancel the marriage with mutual private understanding and agreement, the reasons should be within the stipulated reasons mentioned by the registrar of marriages rules and not suppositional. This measure has many advantages, one, superstitions do not have place/ consideration for cancellation of marriages, second even if any of the information provided by the bride or groom is wrong/ concealed information, in order to avoid further legal complications they may go for a private understating and compromise to cancel the marriage, so in order to punish for filing wrong information on affidavit, also in order not to give scope for unlawful agents/agencies/anti social elements for doing settlement/for private understanding. Also all the above measures will certainly ensure brides cannot be treated as commodities and dignity of the bride upheld.
10) MANDATORY DECLARATION BY BRIDE & GROOM WHETHER THEY ARE STRAIGHT SEX OR HOMOSEXUAL, IN PRE MARRIAGE REGISTRATION DECLARATION ; IN CASE FOUND LATER INDULGED IN HOMOSEXUALITY PRIOR TO MARRIAGE/ AFTER MARRIAGE HE/SHE SHOULD GET LIFE IMPRISONMENT. MERE DECLARATION OF HOMOSEXUALITY SHOULD NOT ATTRACT ANY PUNISHMENT.
It should be made mandatory that both bride and groom should declare the sex they follow, i.e only straight sex, only home sex, homo sex but can also indulge in straight sex. Concealing information regarding the homosexuality is a grave crime; it should attract life imprisonment for concealment of homosexuality (gay/ lesbian) in the Pre Marriage Registration data submission. As it is fact many marriages are broken/ domestic violence/ adultery/ divorce are due to the reason either of the spouse is homosexual and they are indulged in pre martial sex in the form of homosexuality and they cannot live straight sex life and they married simply because of the pressure from parents or just because for getting dowry. If there exists an information about homosexuality in the PMR form the marriage can occur if both prospective bride and groom are both straight. Or both parties agrees in case one of the partner is straight and other partner is homosexual, but willing to participate in straight sex, they shoul give their consent in a joint written affidavit Otherwise the marriage registrar will not give PMR unique ID number for going ahead of marriage. The cancellation of proposal on account of homosexuality should not attract punishment, Also n punishment for just declaring one is homosexual, only when caught red handed they should attract punishment under law. This measure will certainly reduce divorce cases, as well reduce adultery cases, and also reduce prostitution (female/male)
11) MANDATORY HIV & STD CLEARANCE CERTIFICATE FROM GOVERNMENT HOSPITALS FOR PRE MARRIAGE REGISTRATION; STD PARENTS CAN MARRY AFTER FULLY GOT CURED, HIV PATENTS CAN MARRY ONLY HIV PARENTS NOT HEALTHY OPPOSITE SEX.
Since no one knows how many pre matrimonial sexual affairs, live in relationships, visits to various brothels/prostitutes before finally entering a marriage or live in relation, it is necessary that every individual both bride & groom has to mandatorily undergo the STD and HIV test, Only on getting clearance for STD/ HIV negative one should get PMR unique ID. (the HIV & STD tests are certainly not the tests for confirming virginity/ chastity , but only to ensure the other married partner is not cheated)
This measure will certainly reduce the pre matrimonial sex/ visiting to prostitute to a great extent for the fear of getting caught before marriage/ before entering live in relationship. It is fact that even men may not exhibit openly but have certainly low opinion for those who has previous sex, even when he is a second hand fellow? This measure of mandatory STD / HIV test is to reduce the risk of the diseases getting transmitted to the healthy partner (female/ male), having STD/ HIV should not be an impediment to marriage, after getting cure for STD one can marry/ enter in live in relationship; but in the case of HIV he/she can marry another HIV patent only not a perfect health partner even a perfectly healthy person have no objection, if one has no objection in marrying a HIV patent it means there is motive behind it, in general no one will marry/ enter live in relation for just ding service like a hospital nurse? Obviously for sex?, If they say that they want to serve a HIV patent when they are fully healthy, it is either for acquiring property or wants to commit suicide in one or other manner? So non HIV affected patent should be allowed to marry a HIV positive patent. As HIV has no cure but only prolong for few years to live once affected? This measure will save lot of lives from getting chronic diseases.
12) MANDATORY FOR GETTING CLEARANCE FOR NO IMPOTENCY (DYSFUNCTION OF REPRODUCTIVE ORGANS) FOR MALE FOR APPLYING PRE MARRIAGE REGISTRATION
It is fact that many marriages are breaking / getting divorce/ happening of divorce since the family members of the male hiding the fact in (some cases) that their son is impotent/ not capable for sexual intercourse, in most cases they may not know that their son is impotent. They are getting married to normal women. So the problem starts soon after the marriage and the differences between bride and groom starts as the groom in most cases still try to hide the fact that he is impotent, some may reveal at early stages, this is nothing but deliberate cheating and spoiling of innocent girl/women life?. Also in case the newly married bride girl bares this impotency and continues the married life, then domestic violence is happening, as the husband always is suspicious about the wife for chastity break, adultery, character assassination occurs, there will not be peace at home, undue stress for both wife and husband even though they appear very normal for neighbours, outsiders, relatives and patents and friends but internally both couple are extremely anxious. Also there are chances that women may develop adultery in low & middle class, where in the elite/ upper echelons they even indulge in calling male prostitutes, risking their lives even more. So in order to prevent happening of all this unwanted things which are illegitimate, government must make it mandatory that all male who wish to marry / be in live in relationship should undergo the potency test in a designated government hospitals only, also stricter punishment of life imprisonment for the groom and his parents/ guardians, for hiding the facts, manipulating the facts.
13) MANDATORY TO FIX THE MAXIMUM AGE GAP BETWEEN BRIDE AND GROOM TO GET MARRIED; THE GAP SHOULD NOT BE MORE THAN 20 YEARS IN MARRIAGES OR IN LIVE IN RELATIONS.
It is high time that government must fix the maximum age gap between bride and groom. As it is a fact that even now in certain communities’ child marriages like things are happening, i.e the bride is as low as 18 to 21, where as the groom is more than 75 years of age right in the very heart of the cities in some cities in some communities/ religions. Strange, how come such age deference people can be called as couple?, in fact the maximum difference of age between male and female in marriages should not be more than 20 years, otherwise it is nothing but one way encouraging child marriages, suppose a 60 year old want to marry 21 years old, is there any meaning for marriage?, with average life expectancy is just 67.3 in males as per latest reports 2011-15, do the women want to become widow at young age, or in case he is already married and having children from previous marriage more than the newly married girl?, how do the parents, society expect that if there is more than certain age gap between man and women makes their marriage meaningful?, it is fact that marriages are made not for doing only service to the man like food preparing cook, or administering medicine like a nurse, but certainly marriages are definitely for physical relationship? It is hypocrisy to believe that women at young age is like the persons in mythological epics that she will be happy just to give birth to the child of the person and she will remain for rest of her life like that? as such government must make it a law that there should not be more than 20 years of age difference between a man and women either in marriages or live in relationships, also in addition that the man/ women should not marry below the age of their eldest children from previous marriage or previous live in relationship, whichever is higher either 20 years difference or the eldest child’s age should be the minimum age gap between the couple to be married.
Also it is a fact that marriages in age group of groom 40 + and bride 20+, majority of these families are more or less not happy families, if thought on biological changes, that if a man with 40 years of age marries a women of 20 years, then by the time the man reaches 50, the women is just 30, and the man if he is a working/ employee then he might reach the middle level management job, whether in government or private, where there is more work load, then he is over burdened with undue stress in life whether in office or at home? It is a known fact that with stressful mind one cannot perform work at hand; this principle applies to performing at physical relationship also? when the women in 30 having more desire for physical relation. the husband do not show interest in physical relation or use artificial stimulus to make her happy, all leading to serious overall health hazards for the man & over all family relations and harmony? Also in this the women if not happy at physical relation cannot concentrate on family life of rising children properly or if the women are also working/ employee, then she may not deliver the best at her work/employment. Also it is fact that when ageing happens the so called stamina of a man/ interest for physical relation start deteriorating? ; the case is same, if a women in her 40 marries a man with 20 years of age, when she reaches menopause, (around 50 years), the man in his 30 need more physical relation, at the same time the so called beauty of the women gets fading, so he starts filtering or searching adultery, or younger women? All these measure are potential causes for adultery? Of course there are some couple who life very harmoniously with or without physical relation, and such couples very meagre in percentage of total married couples or live in relation couples?
Also it is a fact if a man marries at 21, and has a baby child, then by 41 of age he will have daughter of 20 years, then how come one justify that a daughter like girl this 41 years fellow marrying? Shame? Is it not appearing that unknowingly the human beings are turning worst than animals? So it is high time that government must fix mandatory that the age gap between bride or groom should not be more than 20 years under all circumstances. This measure makes the the parents of the youth search for matches for their son/ daughter soon after their child gets job, so the marriages at young age (21 + below 30) happens, and in most cases both bride and groom are of same age group or + or – 5 years of age, this will make perfect understanding of the couple and this will lead to healthy and happy married life which will lead over all prosperity of the country. Also concealing information of age gap, by fabricating birth certificates etc should lead to criminal offence with life imprisonment.
14) MANDATORY FOR SOCIAL MEDIA SERVICE PROVIDERS TO CORROBORATE PROFILES WITH VOTER ID CARD OF USERS FOR AUTHENTICATION OF ACCOUNT USER; MANDATORY TO UPDATE THE STATUS OF THE INDIVIDUAL BY DEFAULT FROM SOURCING INFO FROM REGISTRAR OF MARRIAGES THE AGE, GENDER, THE SEXUALITY I.E STRAIGHT OR HOMO SEXUAL ALONG WITH LATEST PASSPORT PHOTO SHOULD BE DISPLAYED ON THE PROFILE
Also it should be mandatory that social media websites should ensure that every user in India should get register / update their account with voter ID card number. (in case of minors, with guardians/ parents voter ID) For authentication of the account user, he/she is not fake and a real user, also mandatory disclosure of mobile number in the account form of social media by all users. (it should be criminal offence to leak the mobile numbers to any private marketing agency or any unwanted promotion calls and in no way the social media agencies can use the mobile phone numbers for any promotional purpose of their own service, in case used they should be liable for billions of fine.) All minor accounts should be barred from getting any kind of advertisements related to adult content, pornography, or a minor should be restricted by default settings to surf/ browse, access to any pornography, adult content pages in the social media sites; Also it should be made mandatory that on real time bases the social media sites take data from the government websites of marriage registrar and update the profiles automatically by default regarding the married status of the profile creator without his/her consent by default, display with bold letters at the profile front page/ at the end of ID. Married, divorced & single, divorces pending, live in relation, if the name do not surface in any of the lists sourced from government marriage registrar, then the status should be shown as single after asking for final confirmation from the single status person. Also the profiles which lied in the status should be reported to the government for necessary action. Also the social media profile should display the unique ID of the married couple, live in relationship, divorce, etc, also the social media profiles should clearly mention that how many times got divorced, in case of multiple divorces similarly how many times break up in live in relationships should be by default kept as display information to their profile. Also it should be made mandatory that by default the social media accounts should display the age and gender by default, also it should be made mandatory that all social media users should disclose whether they are straight sex or homosexual, and it should be mandatory for social media service providers to display the same on the profile. If these basic content are not filed by the users the social media sites should be made defunct; All these measures are not infringement of privacy or curtailing liberty in any manner, These measures will certainly reduce the crimes on account of social media in many ways like alerting individual from getting cheated by any one hy hiding his age, gender, sexuality, status of mirage, also help to hotels, lodges; guest houses to get re confirm the status of the individual before giving room to them. These measures will certainly reduce the family disputes and also make a happy family, it is not a deterrent to the women, but it up holds the dignity and freedom of women, the male partners treat them with care and respect in case of live in relationships..
15) MANDATORY FOR MATRIMONIAL ADVERTISEMENTS TO VERIFY THE DETAILS OF STATUS OF THE INDIVIDUAL AND ALSO THE CRIMINAL CASES SHOULD BE MANDATORILY MENTIONED IN THE MARRIAGE PROFILE.
Also it should be made mandatory that all matrimonial advertisements whether in internet or on print media or through individual professionals should find the status of the person giving advertisement, before making it public, from centralised data bank of married persons, divorced persons, domestic violence persons, criminals in trail related to atrocities on women by a single click, on the registrar of marriages website. For advertisement in matrimonial services the bride or groom or their parents should submit the details in affidavit from; even in case of online, government should alter the definition of affidavit by making a bar coded stamp to be available in any post office, or government revenue department, can be purchased by individuals by providing an ID card number, of the person who wish to use; if this bar coding number entered in the online form, then it should be treated as submitted in affidavit form, and has all legal validity, sanctity.
Also it should be made mandatory that all matrimonial advertisements should contain the details of any police cases or Criminal cases under trail in the court, the reasons for divorce/ court cases like harassing women/ atrocity on women/trafficking of women etc by providing the ID number of such person. Also it should be made mandatory that in all the matrimonial advertisements the wealth of the individuals should be declared should be based on the income tax returns field, by the individual or the family as a whole and not arbitrarily? Otherwise liable for tax scrutiny and evasion, this measure will reduce lot of marriage related disputes as in the very first instance only the the two parties will drop the cases in case of found he/she is involved in criminal cases.
16) MANDATORY REGISTRATION OF ALL PRIESTS PERFORMING MARRIAGES, NO MARRIAGES IS VALID IF IT IS NOT PERFORMED EITHER BY THE PRIEST OR GET MARRIED IN FRONT OF MARRIAGE REGISTRAR, ALL MARRIAGES SHOULD HAVE AT LEAST 5 WITNESSES ON BOTH SIDES, STRICTER PUNISHMENTS FOR CONCEALING INFORMATION BY PRIESTS/ WITNESSES.
Also it should be made mandatory that all priests of all religions should mandatorily get registered with marriage registrar and get a unique ID number, and it should be mandatory that the ID number of the priest with signature / thumb impression is necessary in the marriage certificate even after PMR. This measure will certainly reduce marriage frauds, especially the child marriages, second marriages, the marriages of poor Muslim girls to the Arab Shakes ; it should be mandatory on the part of the priests to know whether the both bride and groom got jointly registered in the pre marriage registration and obtained PMR unique ID before preparing for marriage for conformation none has either already married nor none as on date indulged in a living in relationship.; if any wrong information / concealing information should amounts to life long life imprisonment for soiling the life of an Individual for both priest who performed marriage as well as to the person who committed crime. In case the individuals wish to marry without priest, they can, but in front of the registrar of marriages in the office of registrar of marriages. This measure of keeping onus on the priest to know the PMR will certainly ensures marriage related frauds of concealing information and getting married will be marginalised to a great extent.
Also it should be made mandatory by amending the law regarding the witnesses to the marriages, that the number of witness from each side should be 5 i.e total 10 number of witness required for a marriage, whether an arranged marriage or a love marriage for getting marriage registration certificate. The witnesses should give undertaking that they will be subjected to enquiry in the event of breakup of marriage for what so ever reason. Only persons who knows the bride or groom or for that matter any reason should be eligible to become a witness, not everyone who are by passers on road can become just witness for the sake of witness. Also the witnesses should give declaration in standard format with brief description that how do they know the bride or groom, and from when, who introduced them etc,; also it should be mandatory that the witness should know the person whom he/she supporting must me known to them for at least one year. The details of address proof, like voter ID card, pass port, copy and contacts of witness mobile, social media should be mandatorily disclosed in the witness declaration from. This measure will certainly eliminate the touts to act as witness, just by signing on the documents without address for contact; also this measure saves lot of uninterested marriages, performed under force/ coercion of the parents, as witnesses also liable in case of complaint by the bride or groom. Also the details can be used in case of domestic violence or dowry harassment cases.
17) MANDATORY FOR ALL MARRIAGE RELATED SERVICE PROVIDERS TO GET REGISTER WITH MARRIAGE REGISTRAR.
Also it should be ideal that government in order to better contain lavish expenditure through un accounted money at marriage functions, while on the paper making it limited to the maximum allowed limit for that income group (in the event of government fixing marriage expenditure limit), by putting a trach/ monitoring the expenditure indirectly, it should be made mandatory that all marriage function related activity service providers like priests/ match makers, marriage hall rentals, decorators, event managers, card printers, to food suppliers, to suppliers of furniture, jewellery & cloths suppliers / retailers with mandatory on the part of the marrying party i.e bride or groom to disclose to the retailer that the jewellery is for marriage, (when they file expenditure statement they should get reflected that from where they purchased jewellery, cloths) cooks, the travel agents, etc should register with the respective district marriage registrar and each one category wise should get unique ID number. If any marriage happened in that district should use services from the registered service providers only, all payments should quote the PMR unique id number, and it should be mandatory on the part of these marriage service providers to do service only those who got pre marriage authentication number. Precisely only after getting PMR any one can start the process of marriage related activities.
Also it should be mandatory on the part of the individual marriage service providers to submit annual income/ expenditure statement to the registrar of marriages where they were registered, by using the pre marriage unique ID code, the marriage register can get the details of expenditure, which should be reflected in the expenditure statement submitted by the married couple/ their parents/guardians, also the expenditure statement submitted by married couple or bride and groom should clearly mention bifurcation of total expenditure each category wise like expenditure on Jewellery, cloths, venue, decoration, food etc etc each supported by the purchase bills, if they purchased, in case third party purchase also the same should be submitted with the bills, and no gifts should be accepted in marriage without bills of purchase by the so called third party and a declaration in standard format that they are giving this gift to so and so on the so and so occasion. These measures will certainly reduce use of unaccounted money in the marriages.
18) MANDATORY MENTION/ DISPLAY OF PRE MARRIAGE REGISTRATION UNIQUE ID NUMBER IN ALL MARRIAGE FUNCTIONS.
It is necessary that those who know the prospective married couple, and those who do service for marriage must do some due diligence based on the information available on the PMR unique ID submitted by the bride and groom. As such it should be made mandatory that all the invitation cards, messages (e mail, sms or social media) / at the venue of the marriage the pre marriage authentication number should be displayed, with details of date of application, date of grant of authentication, for public understanding. Also all purchases for marriage after PMR should clearly specify the PMR number. This measure will ensure that the marriage is subjected to indirect due diligence of the public, and any concealed information will automatically come out, so in almost all cases the prospective couple will reveal the truth.
19) MAKING IT MANDATORY ANY GIFT PRESENTED ON ANY OCCASION TO ANY ONE, SHOULD ISSUE A SELF DECLARATION IN STANDARD FORMAT.
Also it should be made mandatory that hence forth for what so ever may the occasion whether it may be marriage/ birthday, office assuming, just greeting on festivals etc if any individuals gives any gift, they should provide a copy of the purchase of the gift, in addition also a declaration in a standard format that they have given so and so gift to the so and so individual on this occasion or just like on this date and time. This standard formats should be purchased from post offices or revenue departments or from banks, which are otherwise bar coded, with a carbon copy,by providing basic details of voter ID, phone number of the purchaser. This measure will certainly reduce the happing of corruption, circulation of un accounted money in the form of expensive gifts given to various sections of people, or people in order to avoid tax just say that this was a gift from their parents, relatives, friends etc, in order to ensure that all gifts sponsored are from tax paid money, this measure is necessary. Also it should be made mandatory, if any person gives the gift, he/ she should certainly get reflected in the personal expenditure statement, with the bar coded number of the declaration, signature from the receiver.
This measure reduces the wasteful expenses made by the youth or others in the pretext of getting the girl/ boy fall in their trap for so called love or adultery sex, and in case if any girl/ boy says that she got a gift, she / he should reveal to the parents that from whom she/he got the gift and the purpose of the gift, the occasion of the gift, the money for the gift, etc and no one claim later on they given gifts for sex or love?; in case parents can report to the parents of the boy/girl that his son/ daughter is giving so & so expensive gifts/ treats just like that, ask them to keep a watch on their son/ daughter. Similarly the spouses can track the gifts of the This measure will not only save lot of money, but also makes the youth follow the ethics, that without earning spending the hard earned money of the parents for tapping someone in the name of love is ridiculous, also in case of married people, the wife can track the gift, and couples will be alert in not wasting money on gifts even with un accounted money. Also this measure will certainly creates responsibility of the giver and taker, taker should not accept gifts from strangers with motives, which otherwise common in political, bureaucratic circles that most of the people who wish to get some or other work done from these people will throw expensive gifts on festive occasions or just like that, which is the root cause of corruption/ bias towards those who favoured them.
20) AMENDING LAW FOR SIMPLIFYING AFFIDAVIT SUBMISSION ONLINE USED FOR VARIOUS PURPOSES , ESPECIALLY MARRIAGE RELATED PURPOSES
Also government must make the affidavit submission simple, what all required is every stamp paper should have a unique bar coded number, which should be purchased from the government either in post offices or revenue department by giving basic details of the purchaser, and the stamp paper number should be quoted online, by quoting the number online to the register of marries itself should be treated as submitting to government, and bound to be legally valid. In this the stamp paper should have the buyer, the individual who is submitting the details, and the submission through the official phone number/ e mail of the Individual who is submitting, is mandatory, in order to protect the interest of the individuals, there should be some security codes should be forward to the individual mobile numbers for final submission of the details, just like the online banking transactions in order to prevent fraudulent / vested interest submitting the details without knowledge of the individual.
For those who do not have the e mail, mobile phone, must physically visit the marriage registrar office/ or post office (post offices must be used for this purpose) and pay a nominal fee and submit paper affidavit. And the marriage registrar / post office should give copy of the attestation of what is submitted by the individual in the standard format, in order to ensure there won’t be any frauds by the corrupt staff wrongly registering the details/ any other frauds tampering the details/ doctoring the affidavit for vested interest colluding with vested interests in this regard.
21) MANDATORY THAT GOVERNMENT VERIFY STATUS OF NRI BRIDES/ GROOMS IN THEIR RESPECTIVE COUNTRIES THROUGH INDIAN EMBASSIES IN THAT COUNTRY WHERE THEY ARE RESIDING FOR GRANTING PERMISSION FOR MARRYING ANY INDIAN RESIDENT BRIDE/GROOM, FOR PREVENTING CHEATING / DECEIVING, ALSO FOR PREVENTING POOR GIRLS/WOMEN IN MUSLIM COMMUNITY GETTING MARRIED TO ARAB SHAKES, FOR FEW MONTHS, LATER ON THEY VANISH, SPOILING THE LIFE OF YOUNG GIRLS/WOMEN.
Also it should be made mandatory that all the abroad pre matrimonial matches should be go through the Indian embassy in that country, all the abroad matches should mandatorily do pre marriage registration at least 60 days prior to such marriage with the marriage registrar in INDIA and the marriage registrar will forward it to the external affairs Ministry of Government of India and MEA will forward the details to the respective country INDIAN embassy where the individual lives for authenticating the claims individual, that his/her visa is valid, do he/she having permission to get spouse to that country, do he/she was a permanent residence of that country, from when he is staying in that country, till date how many times the individual visited INDIA, where the individual is employed/working, what is the salary the individual getting etc, in addition the details of the individual as mentioned by the individual to the marriage registrar should be kept in the separate website in that country, and the INDIAN embassy should do due diligence with the marriage registrars of that country for information regarding marrying in that country, (also may give advertisements in the respective country media that anyone individual who are known to these person (who are in the process of getting married in INDIA) should see the website and contact the embassy in case they found the Individual who is willing to marry in INDIA either already married to anyone in the country or in living in relationship with someone in the country, in addition Indian embassy must sent the details posted by the individual to the INDIAN associations living in that country for information and due diligence. by this way a lot of fraudulent marriages of abroad matches can be contained to a great extent. Also making it mandatory that marrying an INDIA by Foreigner on visit visa is banned and a serious crime.
Also this measure will certainly reduce the so called Arab Sheks (irrespective of what age group they belong to) getting in to marriage for one month with young Indian girls (as low as even 12 years, but in nikha inflating their age as 18 fraudulently) in the name of nikha due to corrupt mullas and mediators, the parents of the girls are indirectly selling the girls into one kind of prostitution to live with these arab shakes for one month or two months in the name of marriage, and just before their visit visa expires these arab shakes left these young girls in INDIA and go back totheir countries, and either never returns to India, or even returns never visit the married young girls, later on these married young girls either never get divorce or become a victims / hounded / forced to prostitution by these middle men/women? Shame, all this kind of marriages can be controlled if there is pre marriage registration is mandatory? ;
In order to prevent abroad marriage frauds, the abroad matches should apply for PMR, 60 days before marriage date if both bride & groom are Indian Domicile, where as if the marriage between any one of them are living in India and other partner is in Abroad whether Indian Origin or FOREIGN national, then at least 90 days before the marriage they should apply for pre marriage registration, for obtaining PMR unique ID. Prior to this permission, if any one get marries then both the individuals are liable to rigorous imprisonment, if the parents force the children to perform the marriage then parents/ guardian are also liable for imprisonment, also those who performed the marriage should be liable for punishment, also those who attended the marriage should be liable for punishment.
22) MANDATORY SUBMISSION OF LIST OF INVITES, TO THE MARRIAGE FUNCTIONS ALONG WITH THEIR CONTACT DETAILS, AND ADDRESS; FIXING RESPONSIBILITY ON THE RELATIVES IF THEY DO NOT REVEAL ANY CONCEALED INFORMATION KNOWN TO THEM REGARDING BRIDE/ GROOM OR THEIR FAMILY AS PER DATA OF THE PRE MARRIAGE REGISTRATION; INDIRECT WAY OF CONDUCTING SOCIAL AUDIT ON THE COUPLE.
Also government must enact law in such a manner that all marriages performed in a function form must mandatorily submit the details of invitees to the function by filling a standard format to the marriage registrar. The format should classify the invitees into various categories.
1 Blood related relatives with their relationship to bride/groom
2 close friends, friends, from when did they know (tentatively)
3 acquaintances neighbours, old neighbours in their residence, etc
4 office colleagues
Also how long you know them, approximately
Also it should be made mandatory that while PMR submission that it should be made mandatory that details of the bride/ groom parents in case of arranged marriage, in case of love marriages by both bride and groom that when did they know each other, who introduced them, how many times they met / be in contact before marriage (tentatively), the details of phone numbers and address of the persons introduced; the family tree of the bride and groom from their grandparents onwards. These details should be submitted one week before marriage date/ function, after obtaining PMR either through e mail or fax or personal submission in affidavit, form All these details should be useful for future needs;
The registrar of marriages must send the details of the bride and groom as declared by them and their parents while submitting for PMR should be shared with the invitees for information in the form of e mail, sms to go through the details for information from the website of marriage registrar by typing the PMR number. This measure will certainly ensure that by and large the bride and groom will reveal the truth not only about their personal details, but also the assets of that they and their parents holding. In case they feel that if some of the friends, relatives, neighbours who knows much about them and they may reveal if the info sent to them by the government marriage register (in the event of concealment of any information especially the assets) , then they may not invite them for marriage, in that case there is every possibility that these people who are not invited by the bride and groom side will personally feel insulted and there is every chance they may anonymously reveal the details to the marriage registrar as informers. Also it should be made mandatory that after the marriage function is over the registrar of marriages has to put it on the web that details of invitees (only names, under which category they are invited, not their contact details) by the couple. (each couple should have a webpage in the registrar of marriages website).
Also it should be mandatory that in case the invitees knows the information / truth but will not expose due the friendship or any other reason, they are liable for criminal act in case of the crime proved at a later date and in case found in investigation that they are aware of the concealed details. The details if concealed that attracts criminal case are any previous marriage/ live in relation/ adultery, concealing of information regarding dowry, concealing information regarding domestic violence, concealing of assets of the parents/ bride/ groom. Also in case of love marriages the friends introduced them or the friends who are acted as witness etc will be used for future needs.
All these contacts in both arranged marriages and love marriages used in case of divorce cases, domestic violence or any other atrocity done by either of the spouse / their parents/ in laws, all these contacts will be sent information regarding the case and use them for ensuring that divorce proposal be dropped for amicable solution reached between the wife & husband; also in case of domestic violence the contacts can be used to make the husband/ wife understand their mistake and get rectified in the first instance and as a last resort of repeated violence either husband/ wife should be booked under domestic violence; Also in case of dowry harassment the contact should be questioned for their knowledge and in case they conceal they should be punished as per law, These measure will certainly yield the desired results.
All these measure ensures that the couple in marriage is subjected to social audit so the chances of concealment of information are very minimal.
23) MANDATORY FOR THE BRIDE AND GROOM TO MENTION TWO NEIGHBOURS IN THEIR PLACE OF LIVING EITHER ADJACENT TO THEIR HOUSE, FOR MULTIPLE ADVANTAGES; ALSO MAKING IT A SOCIAL RESPONSIBILITY OF NEIGHBOURS TO KNOW EACH OTHER AND ACT AS WATCH DOGS
Also it should be made mandatory that the bride and groom should mandatorily provide contact details/ reference of at least two neighbours adjacent / besides/ opposite their house of stay whether they are acquainted or not, with address and contact numbers in the PMR form who are neighbours of both bride and groom as well as their parents.
Also it should be made mandatory while applying for PMR they should reveal the place of living after marriage, both transit accommodation and permanent accommodation. In case of permanent accommodation of separate living is not known at the time of applying PMR they can reveal within one month of such occupation of such new accommodation after marriage. Also it should be made mandatory to provide the details of neighbours of transit accommodation as well as permanent accommodation. This measure is necessary to ensure that every one will develop better interpersonal relationships with neighbours, in addition they get acquaintance, also they are also act as watch dog on each other, as part of social responsibility, and try to know more about each other and they will be useful in case of domestic violence etc as a witness. Also it should be made mandatory that the neighbours of each residential colony/ apartment should know each other and must act as watch dogs for preventing happening of prostitution, Adultery, domestic violence, un accounted property, property in benami name, where the actual owner is someone but on record some titular one, etc This measure will certainly yield results in multiple ways, as people themselves act as social audit agents in building prosperous INDIA.
24) ENCOURAGEMENT / REWARD FOR INFORMERS FOR REVELLING UNDISCLOSED/ CONCEALED INFORMATION/ FALSE INFORMATION SUBMITTED IN MARRIAGE DECLARATION DURING PMR PROCESSING.
Also in order to ensure that all the information submitted by the prospective bride and prospective groom who wish to marry is correct and truthful, and the financial details are true, an external pressure is created in them in the form of encouraging informers. So if any one who wish to get reward or for that matter any one whish to uphold the legitimacy, truthfulness in the marriage relationship and no one get cheated can visit the marriage registrar website, just type the either name/ voter id card/ passport number on the website of centralised data base of marriage registrars and just know that whether what is disclosed by the individuals is true or not; in case if they found that the information submitted by the bride and groom are not true, or if they have any details to prove that they concealed information, they should sent an e mail, send letter with required proofs, to the marriage register, only those objections with proofs should be taken into consideration and an explanation should be sought from the party on whom the acquisitions are made, in case of proofs of crimes, the marriage registrar should refer to the police, On getting the explanation from the party, on examining the details, if found satisfactory, the register should give permission for getting married by allotting PMR unique ID within 30 days of submission for PMR.
Also alternatively, like passport verification by police, the marriage verification service should be initiated by the police department, on payment of certain amount, they should visit the bride and groom and gather the info and re check it with the information submitted and give clearance. This measure eliminates lot of marriage related crimes to a great extent.
Also government must provide reward of 10% of the value of the property/ assets of the person who concealed information/ cheated the other party as reward, which was otherwise not declared in the income tax, or to the marriage registrar, whether it is movable property (like gold, jewellery, vehicles, articles, shares, investments etc) or immovable property (land, buildings). Also these informers can find out the new purchases after the marriage and inform the marriage registrar/ income tax authorities which was otherwise purchased from the dowry money mostly, for this also they should get reward. People who know the correct information may at any time contact the income tax authorities or marriage register with the PMR unique ID number. This measure will certainly reduce un accounted money circulation, dowry, as with dowry money lot of men purchase vehicles, land and property and jewellery etc. Since the groom & bride and their parents submit their bank accounts and assets, for PMR it is easy for the investigation agencies to establish the un accounted money/ dowry transaction based on the either specific information or otherwise keeping such bank accounts under scrutiny. This measure reduces corruption as well as dowry to a great extent.
25) MANDATORY TRAINING/ COUNSELLING OF PROSPECTIVE COUPLE AFTER PRE MARRIAGE REGISTRATION UNIQUE ID FOR ENABLING THEM TO UNDERSTAND EACH OTHER FOR BETTER HARMONIOUS RELATION, HOME MANAGEMENT AFTER MARRIAGE
Also it should be made mandatory that after getting pre marriage registration PMR both bride and groom must attend training/counselling secessions either before marriage or after marriage,(within the valid period of PMR i.e 90 days) regarding the family values, home making, kitchen & budgeting, time management, issues rated to pregnancy, child care, issues related to nucleolus families, financial management Investments & savings for future needs health care & stress management, spirituality, yoga/ fitness, occupational health hazards, issues related to various occupations for better understanding by others, sharing of responsibilities, for reducing the misconceptions/ notions in future, care for the elderly, legal rights, government support for the females etc certain sessions gender exclusive and certain sessions jointly. Also certain part of training should be based on the income group, to suit their budget in the financial management and stress management.
The training sessions, should be for four days, with weekly one day for four weeks, one day training starting from 10 am to 5 pm with adequate beaks for tea, lunch, snacks for ensuring this time is utilised by the prospective couple to understand each other in the back drop of training, also at the end of each secession there should be a questioner in local language, separately for bride and groom, to know each other ideas and discuss it better during the breaks, for better understanding each other and rectifying the shortcomings at their end to live a balanced life. For this the government must create district wise centres with necessary infrastructure & professionals related to the respective fields recruited permanently for providing the training for the prospective couple. For this fee should be charged as per income group of the couple. For BPL families, low income group no fee, for middle income group nominal fee, for higher income group higher fee. This measure will ensure perfect start of family life after they wed each other as it develops ways and means for better understanding of each other before marriage and after marriage.
26) MANDATORY SUBMISSION OF TENTATIVE EXPENDITURE PLANNED FOR MARRIAGE, SOURCE OF FUNDS FOR MARRIAGE, FOR GETTING PRE MARRIAGE CERTIFICATE.
Also it should be made mandatory that for getting pre marriage registration PMR approval from marriage registrar, it is necessary to submit the total expenditure planned and the source of funds, without required minimum funds / adequate funds as per their marriage plan expenditure in the bank account for the expenditure planned on marriage while applying to PMR, the pre marriage registration approval clearance should not be given, as without source of funds who come one perform the marriage?; in case of simple marriages at registrar of marriages office or otherwise need no expenditure, but certainly minimum amount of 15,000 in urban areas and 11,500 for rural areas is required for 3 months living.
27) ENACTING LAW LIMIT FOR FIXATION OF MARRIAGE EXPENSES BASED ON THE INCOME GROUP OF THE BIDE AND GROOM; MAKING IT A CRIMINAL OFFENCE FOR PERFORMING MARRIAGE BEYOND THEIR FINANCIAL CAPABILITY OF THE PARENTS OF BRIDE/GROOM WHO EVER PERFORMING MARRIAGE;
Also making it a criminal offence to perform marriages beyond their financial capability, as even till now millions of parents are in acute financial stress/ debt for the marriages performed 30 to 40 years back, then one can imagine how far the marriages makes the family suffer?, as such government must enact law in such a manner that no one should perform marriages beyond the limits set by government for each income group.
The annual income, should be considered as the bases for determining the maximum expenditure that the performer of the marriage on each side can spend for the purpose of marriage can be determined; for all those whose annual income is below Rs 1,00,000 (parents and un married children all put together s the total income for consideration), they can spend a maximum amount of Rs 30,000, (this maximum limit of expenditure is irrespective of savings in the bank), like that several slabs should be created with maximum amount on ultra high net worth income group should be restricted to maximum of Rs 50,00,000 Any expenditure above the limit should be liable for penalty/ rigorous imprisonment;
Also government must track the bank accounts of the prospective bride or groom for one year before the marriage, one year after the marriage for large transactions/ loans, deposits, issue of cheques etc for tracking the financial capability of the individuals and track the happening of dowry, also the government tracking of marriage service providers, who all are got service for what value, this will make the parents of the married couple adhere to the norms.
Also it should be made clear through advertisements in media also through road shows that financial health of not only the newly married couple, but also the parents of the bride should be healthy in order to have a happy life. Also if anyone over spends beyond their financial capacity for so called false prestige, that the marriage celebrated this grandly/ that grandly etc etc is just a notion and short lived after all people come eat and defecate within 24 hours, the decoration of so called flowers/ lighting etc will be removed soon after the marriage is over, but the financial burden on the parents for performing marriage beyond their financial capacity will remain lifelong till they are alive (in some cases the left over burden carried by children), they live with rest of the life in stressed, will any person get blessings of almighty if someone put in misery and enjoy?, if this sort of thoughts repeatedly placed on the people, with sowing some real cases how pathetic they are living due to the debts on account of performing marriage of their child., at least some % of population will adhere to their financial capability when performing marriages of their children in future.
Also government make it mandatory media whether print or electronic completely barred from airing so called big fat weddings and writings about the big fat weddings that this family spend this lavishly, that lavishly etc etc, in addition individuals and their family/ friends are barred from posting material related to the so called big fat weddings on social media.
28) BANK LOANS WITH LOW INTEREST RATE FOR MARRIAGES WITH 75% IN DEBIT CARD, 25% CASH, DEBIT CARD USED FOR OBTAINING MARRIAGE RELATED SERVICES.
Also only bank loans should be provided for marriage in case no cash in bank accounts prior to applying for PMR, by mortgaging the movable assets/ fixed assets they possess with the loan amount restricting to the maximum of loan to 25% of the value of assets, or the maximum limit of, and that too based on the repayment capacity. In case of taking marriage loans they should clearly specify that the loan is for marriage and all marriage loans should be of nominal interest, and they should be given in principle loan sanction for marriage purpose and once they get PMR it should be released. This loans should be 75% in debit card, 25% cash and the debit card should be useful in all out lets that are registered with registrar of marriages for marriage service providers; And there should be complete ban on availing private loans used for marriage purposes (ideal government must make it mandatory that all); this measure will certainly reduce a lot of burden on most of the parents in the country, especially the middle class and low income group; Also it should be made mandatory that the planned expenditure amount should be deposited/ transferred to a special marriage purpose account, and a debit card issued, in this also 75% amount should be used in debit card, and 25% cash they can use; the all marriages should have special debit card and all expenses for marriage should be through that debit card only, so that majority of the expenditure is tracked, and while filing the expenditure statement it will be reflected and can be cross checked online with service providers payments. This measure curtails happing of dowry, use of unaccounted money in the marriage related activities.
29) CREATION OF CORPUS FUND FOR MARRIAGES OF BRIDES & GROOMS BELONGING TO BPL FAMILIES
Also it should be made mandatory that government must create a corpus fund for the marriages of downtrodden BPL family members or whoever seeks support from government, if they do not have funds for marriage, this corpus fund should be joint contribution of state and central government in appropriate percentage of sharing, also Corporate and the individuals who wish to contribute for a noble cause can contribute, such contributions should be exempted from tax. All non government contributions (already some state governments are encouraging mass marriages/ inter caste/ inter religious marriages) should get 100% income tax relief. And this also should be part of CSR, so that any corporate can donate some extent of money as CSR. The government must not only perform marriages in their respective religious faiths on any of the auspicious occasions of that religious faith on mass marriage functions and such BPL couples should be provided with basic living facilities like utensils, cloths, etc in addition they should get registered in the BPL Housing scheme, and also in the SHG/ MNGEGA etc so that there will be regular source of income for the couple. This measure is only for those who could not save minimum amount of 15,000 Rs in urban areas and 11,500 in rural areas, as part of PMR submission because they are poor, all such cases government select by lottery that year from the applicants for getting married through the corpus fund, only limited number of such marriages should be supported by government. These measures will certainly improve the quality of living of the BPL families and in addition the children are healthy and lead to a better INDIA.
30) MANDATORY SUBMISSION OF EXPENDITURE INCURRED ON MARRIAGE WITH DETAILED BREAK UP STATEMENT BY PARENTS OF BRIDE & GROOM / COUPLE WITHIN 7 DAYS OF MARRIAGE.
Also it should be made mandatory that all the married couple/ parents / guardians of both sides who performed the marriage should mandatorily file the marriage expenditure statement to the marriage registrar with total video of the marriage function, the expenditure on invitation cards, to venue to decoration, to food, stay of the guests to transportation etc; This measure is necessary to ensure the expenditure is limited to the maximum limit allowed, also this measure contains dowry to large extent for tacking all the details of income and expenditure of both bride and groom.
31) RECOVERY OF EXPENDITURE INCURRED ON SECURITY ARRANGEMENTS FOR ELECTED REPRESENTATIVES/ CELEBRITIES VISITING MARRIAGE FUNCTIONS.
It is very strange that so called VIP elected representatives, so called celebrities uses common person’s tax paid money for pleasing someone by attending the marriage or function of his/her acquaintance is how far justifiable? (Even a BPL family member paying tax on soap, tooth paste etc?)? Why does tax payer’s money should be allowed to spent on private purposes? As such it should be made mandatory that the expenditure incurred for the security arrangements in the event of any so called political class/ bureaucrats, celebrities attend the marriage/ function, the cost incurred on the state police/ municipal authorities for extending, security, service at the venue etc should be borne by the marriage function invitee or by the person visiting; Also all elected representatives/ bureaucrats/ celebrities who are under security cover provided by government should not use official vehicle to attended any private functions, also should not use the personal security when visiting the function, in case they feel that they should use government provided vehicle, government security, such individual elected representative/ bureaucrats should pay to the government the expenditure incurred on their vehicle/security to government. In case of so called celebrities government must charge the organisers for controlling the crowed in that vicinity, clearing traffic etc.
The amount recovered should be equivalent to the salary paid for that period (per hour expenditure can be determined based on his /her salary per day/8 hours duty, the duty of how many police, municipal authorities on duty should be calculated in a standard formula, the same should be calculated the total number of hours the personal security, the police at the venue/ in bando-bast duty from the residence/place of such security covered person to the venue of the marriage function or any function and return), this measure is necessary, after all tax payers money should not be spent on the private events? .
Also there should be special fees from the traffic police, municipal authorities and electricity authorities and water supply authorities for use of their services for the event for marriages/ functions attended by so called VIP political class, bureaucratese, celebrities, as for such marriages there is lot of traffic jams, and more police need to be deployed, also more municipal waste get generate after the marriage function/ any function happens, similarly more electricity used for lighting and other uses, so additional cost for power should be charged, also more water charges for use of more water. The same should be applicable for any celebrity opening ceremony of any establishments/ attending any functions etc.
32) INCENTIVES, TAX CONCESSION FOR MARRYING IN A TRADITIONAL MANNER, FOLLOWING THE RELIGIOUS CUSTOMS OF THEIR RELIGION AND REGION.
Marriages are made in heaven, etc etc are no logical reasoning if think rationally, but once can come to logical conclusion with rational thinking that certainly birth and death are not in the disposal of humans and certainly there is some unknown external cosmic forces have full control over them, majority of the people in the world believe it as god, some believe in cosmic forces, the very minute if any one feel everything what majority thinking is foolish and no existence of god/ cosmic forces, it is nothing but hypocrisy, as they think that they are larger than life, and certainly these kind of people are with jaundice eyes?
So whatever majority of religious leaders say (all religions), certain customs and traditions preached and practiced by our ancestors are very logical and even have some scientific validity for sure. Example tying the house with green leafs, spraying cow dung water on the open mud on the ground is to protect from harmful bacteria killed , etc etc greenery like mango tree leaves/ neem leaves, and fresh flowers certainly have some essence of giving some medicinal values, fragrances of flowers act life air fresheners, also applying the turmeric, taking turmeric and neem both has its own medicinal values, similarly the hymens chanted, the traditional music played with traditional instruments has some therapy values to the mind and thus to the body. Also traditions and customs gives a sense of inclusion of entire family members and immediate relatives, Since the newly married is the future of the world, and certainly the new wed couple have some gratitude in that their family members/ immediate relatives was part of their marriage (not as a visitor in the modern day marriages, but doing some ritual as a part of marriage if one follows the age old traditions and customs during marriage), they keep in touch with them and with a sense of gratitude, also making them to do some rituals by the elderly is to ensure that these young new couple will take the advice from the experienced elders in the new life and also to take care of the elders when in need to exhibit their gratitude.
So many things can be learned from traditions and customs of the religion and region, as every religion as some faith embedded in it, also every region (territory) has its own traditions based on the geographic and climatic conditions. These traditions and customs must be preserved and carry forwarded to generations to come. This measure also provides some employment to the hereditary traditions carriers like priests, the traditional musicians playing traditional music, the artisans etc etc.; also in case marriages are performed following the traditions and customs, there is a possibility of reduction in divorce cases, reduction in domestic violence, reduction in dowry harassment, of course these maladies have multiple reasons but once they followed traditions the chance of occurrence of dowry harassment may be low. So government must encourage by way of concession on tax to perform traditional marriages. This measure is necessary as the country is getting digital and rapid urbanisation, the younger generation is completely out of sync with the traditions and customs of the religion and region, so in order to preserve age old traditions and customs for generations to come, also to make the youth aware of the essence and goodness, long term benefits of following traditions and customs, it is necessary to provide concessions to encourage them to follow.
33) INCENTIVES FROM GOVERNMENT FOR MARRYING FARMERS CHILDREN/ TRADITIONAL ARTISANS CHILDREN FOR ENSURING THE AGE OLD TRADITIONS ARE CARRIED FORWARD FOR NEXT GENERATION; INCENTIVES FOR MARRYING WIDOWS, MANDATORY RE MARRIAGE FOR YOUNG WIDOWS
Also government must provide incentives for marrying the persons / children of certain sections of people, as it is very sad state of affair that the persons who are feeding the country with their hard labour, i.e the farming community, are now a day’s encouraging their children leave the farming profession and go for migration to cities even to do as an unorganised labourer, all this with heavy heart, just because, they cannot see that their young children (especially male), even though are handsome, but still not getting matches, no one ready to give their daughter for a farmers son, because, he do not have regular income, and his earnings are volatile, fully depended on the luck, mercy of not only nature/ rain god, but also on the mercy of the sellers of seed, fertilizers, and pesticides for not cheating them with duplicate/ spurious seeds, which will spoil their all hopes, makes them to languish in debts, also in case the crop homes by the grace of god, then the middlemen at market yard will loot them by denying the minimum support price, forcing the to sell at price less than the investment ? all these leading to continue the the profession of agriculturist very difficult, which once up on a time a people are proud to say, honoured to call agriculturalist, now a days are fearing to say they are agriculturists, so government must provide al support to their children in all possible means at least that they should get married .
Also similarly the priestly class who are the otherwise install religious faith in several people and carry forward the customs and traditions of the religion has hardly any regular income, except in some urban areas where they are paid salaries for working in temples, masjids, churches, So if any one of the priestly children want to continue their hereditary profession, for carrying forward the age old traditions and customs to the future generations, they are not getting matches, most of the girls are not willing to marry, so government must provide all necessary support for getting the children of the priestly class to get married in order to ensure that they carry the hereditary family tradition of priestly-ness, it is necessary that next generations should have full religious knowledge, these hereditary priests of all religions are necessary to be encouraged to carry forward their profession. Also hence forth government must provide regular salary for all the priestly class of all religions equally for minimum maintenance of family by putting 0.1 percentage of religious cess on all income earnings of all sections, to form a corpus fund for paying salary for the priestly class as per percentage of population of religion.; Also similarly matter children of all artisans who are continuing the age old traditions like hand weaving, pottery, cobblers, haircutting etc who are following their profession by hereditary (not employed in any organisation, but running their own, handmade, not machine made); also government must extend concessions for marriages of persons with any physical disability (complete ban of marriages of mentally in stability/ mentally disabled);in addition government concessions/ incentives for marrying army soldiers.
In addition government must extend maximum incentives for widow re marriages, they should be provided with tax concessions on personal income, increments in employment, etc, it is necessary there might be several young widows due to accidental deaths or due to any grave illness or what so ever reason may be, as it is a fact that India is having more than 1.5 lack accidental death cases every year, and may increase year after year, in addition many youth lost their life due to consumption of tobacco, smoking, also due to work load stress even youngsters in their 30 + years of age are getting heart diseases and heart attack, facing death at very young age; as such government must make it mandatory that all young widows who are at the reproductive age, i.e who not attained menopause should mandatorily re marry within 24 months of the death of first husband (if no criminal cases pending related to marriage, involvement of the widow related to the death of the husband); for this government must not only extend the incentives for widow marriages like providing preferential employment opportunity for re-married widow both in government as well as in private employment, mandatory providing one time increment in salary / fixed amount hike per month for the re married widow or her husband if they are employed either in government or private, also if the MNREGA employee should get special pay of 25% hike in her pay for rest of her life; in case she re-marries either to her or her husband in case he too also an MNREGA employee, also in case a MNREGA widow employee do not re marry within 24 months of the death of her first husband (it is a fact the more the widow women poor/ economically weak, the more she is vulnerable for atrocity on her, as the male will eye on her to poach her for adultery by exploiting basic economic needs?) all these measures are in order to ensure widow marriages happen, government must make that in case of no re marriage within 24 months of the death of the first husband the widow should lose government support like widow pension, and also she should lose right over her inherent properties; this measure is necessary to ensure young widows re marry for happy life for rest of her life; this measure of mandatory remarriage of widows is necessary purely in larger interest, welfare of the women, as it is a fact that many men will eye on/ lure with lust, the young widow women for extra matrimonial affair/ adultery, if incentives are given for re marriage of widows many male will come forward to marry, the safety and security of the widow women is also taken care due to re marriage; For all incentives (providing monitory/kind) support to these sections (farmers, artisans, widows etc), government must create a corpus fund and also extend 100% tax concessions for contribution to the fund and should under CSR, also ideal to impose 0.05% cess on petrol/ power for using the fund for creation of corpus fund for this purpose.
34) ENACTMENT OF LAW FOR CREATING RIGHT TO KNOW TOTAL INCOME, SOURCE OF INCOME /EARNINGS/ASSETS OF THE SPOUSE EACH OTHER, ALSO BY PARENTS IN CASE OF UNMARRIED YOUTH; MANDATORY MAINTENANCE OF EXPENDITURE STATEMENT AND UP DATE EVERY DAY BY ALL INCOME EARNERS
Since income earned and expenditure made is the major factor that determines the health & happiness of the family, if there is no monitoring by the parents what their unmarried young son/daughter earning per month and expenditure per month or by the spouse (wife/husband), then there is every possibility that the un married son/daughter may not spend judiciously and may exhaust money early for luxury/ fulfilling wises like partying/ alcohol/ womanising etc and without knowing the parents, in order to maintain the false status or wises, he/she may take loans from fiends are known people, also may not do any savings for future when the parents are struggling to lead the family due to financial burden on account of repayment of loans taken for education of their child/ house loans and running the family? This is most common syndrome/ phenomenon seen most of the houses; Also the case is same in most of the married couple, mostly if the wife is home maker then the case is same as parents, of course to some extent better if both husband and wife are employees. Also in order to ensure that the youngsters will earn money in righteous legitimate manner, it should be made mandatory the parents, spouse should have the right to know the source of income, and it should be mandatory obligation on the part of the un married child, on the part of the married spouse to disclose the source of earnings to the parents/ spouse. This measure will certainly ensure youth do not indulge in criminal activities, un lawful activities to earn the money quickly without much effort. In case the un married child/ married spouse did not disclose the source, they should inform the government authorities to keep track on the person, to start with ethical hacking, then personal enquiry; failure to do so, in case the un married child caught in any illegal earning of money, the parents are liable for criminal offence for either wilfully encouraging un lawful earnings by their child, or concealing the information in case of married couple the spouse should be liable for criminal offence for not reporting to authorities wilfully or wilfully encouraging the spouse to earn money illegally.
So in order to make young age behave responsibly and adhere to financial discipline and making them adhere to judicious spending (certainly not making misers), and also inculcating good habits though monitoring of expenditure by parents till marriage and by spouse after marriage, for this government must enact law making it mandatory that all income earners whether they are MNREGA employees or class 4 employees or the presidents of MNC or even elected representatives they have to mandatorily maintain the expenditure statement, by maintaining an account book in the mobile or computer system and update every time when he spends / expenditure is made, either in cash, or bank debit card, cheque or credit card to a have track of daily expenses, even though statements of credit/debit cards comes. And the cash payments / with drawls should not be more than 10% of total earnings.
Also it should be made mandatory that every parent (for unmarried son/daughter) or spouse (wife& husband) has the “right to know the income, expenditure & Assets” (RTKIEA) statement every month / quarter/ half year/ annum with all required supporting documents i.e bills/vouchers for expenses and supporting documents for assets whether they are movable or immovable. If any of the parents/spouse complains that they have not received the statement to the concerned government authority, then they will issue notice to the person for explanation for reasons and submit it to the authority, in case it is intentionally not given details to patents/ spouse, they should be fined for that which should be equivalent to 1/4 of the annual income or three months earnings.
In addition, also it should be made mandatory that every individual should submit the IEA statement should be submitted in an affidavit form whether they are income tax payee or not, to the government, For this government must make create a mobile app and it is mandatory that every individual should download in their mobile, for smart phones and for ordinary phones through sms form. And update their income and expenditure statement and the cumulative will automatically get displayed every month/ quarter/half year and annually.
This measure will not only reduce the misunderstandings/ myths among the spouse/ parents& children but also reduces happening of domestic violence & divorces and also it leads to healthy family for using the hard earned money judiciously and most of expenses will be inclusive decisions, it reduces corruption, since the chances of hiding the expenditure/ savings is less, no one can reduce the bills paid.
35) ENACTMENT OF LAW MAKING IT MANDATORY FOR BOTH WIFE AND HUSBAND JOINTLY FILE “EQUALITY PLANNER” IN AN EXCEL SHEET WITH BIFURCATIONS OF WORK ALLOCATION, WHO PERFORMED WHICH WORK FOR ENSUING BOTH WIFE AND HUSBAND IN A MARRIAGE SHARE RESPONSIBILITIES EQUALLY WITH MUTUAL UNDERSTANDING, FOR ESTABLISHMENT OF EQUALITY OF BOTH GENDERS AND REDUCTION OF DOMINATION OF ONE OVER OTHER DIRECTLY OR INDIRECTLY TO LEAD BY EXAMPLE, FIRST STEP IN ESTABLISHMENT OF SOCIAL EQUALITY
It is a fact in most of the marriages wife, is a home maker as still the country, it is because that women do not have equal opportunities in employment in the country, due to lack of 50% reservation for women in education, employment and electoral system.? They are subjected to domination, more or less becoming bonded labour to the husband or in laws; Even though women are working, the percentage of women working class is much less than the male working class, as such most of the women still remain at home, and working like cogs in oil mils in majority of the homes from dawn to dusk, whereas man just poses as if he is working hard to earn money (of course without some work no one can earn), but strangely, the case is same, even if the women is also working / employee in majority of the homes that women has to take of all house hold work and then should go for work, at the same time more strangely, in some homes especially in upper middle class and elite, or even in other classes, some husbands become bonded labour to the wife’s and do all the work at home (they may employ a maid servant for limited job just to wash utensils and sweeping/ broom-ing), but remaining all work done by husbands and the women just indulge in taking rest or practicing beauty tips for maintaining beauty, to look pretty or doing kitty parties or going for clubs or shopping’s?
So in order to ensure balance of work, equality of responsibilities prevail in the married life, it should be made mandatory that both wife and husband share work equally more or less (even in joint families), for this either they should have personal understating orally and also in writing which they should keep among themselves, but if they fail to have equality and domination prevails, it can be one of potential the reason for granting divorce in future in addition to punishment for the person who dominates ot forces others to do more work indirectly.; in case government restricts number of marriages/ live in relations to 2 in any individuals life time, the couple will certainly practice equality for avoiding divorce.
So in order to ensure equality be practiced by both wife and husband, they should mandatorily maintain a standard format “Equality Planner” dividing the work at home, and maintain the record and keep it with them and submit annually in an affidavit form on oath i.e the “Equality Planner”, to the registrar of marriages with joint signature; It is up to the couple to distribute the work allocation/ sharing of the work either on day to day rotation or weekly or fortnightly or monthly or quarterly, rotation of work, or share the day to day work each day ensuring more or less they should have equal responsibility, irrespective of whether wife is just a women maker or both wife and husband are working, irrespective of so called position/ status / income earning of the husband/wife. For this they should tabulate and list all kinds of works each day required to perform (cooking, cleaning, washing cloths, etc), works that needs weekly attention (washing floors/dusting, etc), the works that need monthly attention (paying electricity bills, EMI’s etc etc), other periodic works (vehicle servicing, servicing of refrigerators, etc), along with wife and husband columns and trick mark each other every day who performed which work, at the end of the week,/ month or quarter the works done by husband and wife in washing category / entry of work (cooking is one work, washing clothes is one work etc ) should be more or less equal This measure will certainly ensure equality of both gender and no kind of domination of any gender directly or indirectly on each other. If the equality begins at home, then only one can think of social equality, if one cannot lead by example, how can one talk about and achieve social equality. Not filing the equality list annually should attract penalty / punishment to husband/wife for ill-treating the spouse.
36) MAKING IT MANDATORY TO OPERATE JOINT BANK ACCOUNT FOR MARRIED COUPLE; ALL EXPENDITURE SHOULD BE FROM JOINT ACCOUNT ONLY, WITH EQUAL EXPENDITURE LIMIT FOR BOTH INDIVIDUALLY, OVER AND ABOVE JOINT SIGNATURE.
In order to ensure equal treatment/ equal rights for wife and husband, also for having harmonious relation and also ensuring financial discipline, and also fully establishing the ethos of any marriage the decisions in their life are consensus and have knowledge about each others expenditure, government must enact the law that soon after the marriage the individuals should open a joint bank account, all their earnings should be automatically transferred from their individual bank accounts to the joint account on auto debit method (in case of wife and husband are salaried employees working in different organisations, possessing different bank accounts to receive salary, then the salaries received by them individually in their respective bank accounts should go the joint account soon after it credited into their account by the respective organisations). Also there should be two debit cards issued to the wife and husband from the joint account, also it should have by default have mobile numbers of wife and husband, soon any transaction happened from the joint account, both the mobile numbers should get information about the transaction. Also there should be limit for value of transactions individually one can do which should be equal (say 25% each of the total value of available credit at the beginning of the month, rest 50% by joint signature), over and above the limit the joint signature is needed to operate the account. This measure ensures & inculcated financial discipline to both wife and husband, also the expenditure made is judicious and need based, any investment/ expenditure above the limit will be a joint decisions and inclusion of wife in decision making by husband for such high value purchases, investments, this measure also gives financial freedom to house wife’s and other wise working wife’s to spend according their wish at least to some extent; all this lead to harmonious living for having each other cooperation in all decisions.
Also this measure will ensure more ethical behaviour in men, not spend money for luxury, wises like visiting alcoholic bars, or spending on other women, girlfriends hoping to get closer to them for developing intimacy & covert that intimacy to relationship later on etc etc will not happen, as every payment is through bank card the information of every rupee spent is recorded, not only that immediately after the transaction SMS will be received by the wife, also they can access the statement in the internet banking. Also in case of women is the only earning member in the married couple and male is un employed then the bank account should be only with women and till the male gets some regular income all the assets should be in the wife’s name only, this measure is necessary to create some sense in the unemployed husband to earn livelihood rather than completely depending up on the wife forever?
37) ALSO MANDATORY THAT ALL ASSETS PURCHASED AFTER MARRIAGE SHOULD BE JOINTLY BY WIFE AND HUSBAND
Also in order to create more security to the family, as well as women it should be made mandatory that all assets whether movable (vehicles, jewellery, shares in stock market, business investments) or immovable (land, buildings) after marriage should be in the joint name of wife and husband. In case of mortgaging property or selling such property should require joint signature, so all decisions in the family will be inclusive and certainly harmony exits as, for every decision they cannot get done by force, if force issued then it will turn to domestic violence? In case they wish to purchase in their minor children’s name or their minor children get gift from any relatives like grandparents or any others, the guardian of such properties should be jointly both wife and husband, once the child becomes major, the child will get authority over such properties.
38) ENACTMENT OF LAW MAKING IT MANDATORY THAT TILL MARRIAGE THE CHILDREN’S SHOULD HAVE JOINT BANK ACCOUNT FOR MONITORING OF THEIR EXPENDITURE BY PARENTS, ALSO ALL ASSETS PURCHASED TILL THE CHILD GETS MARRIED SHOULD BE IN THE JOINT NAME OF PARENTS AND UN MARRIED CHILD.
Also the law should be amended that till the child gets married the parents should posses the final absolute authority over the assets / income earned by the child. As such it should be made mandatory that once the child starts earnings either through salary or self employment it should be deposited in the Childs bank account, but all children should have separate joint bank account with both parents when he/she started earning,; the earnings of the children once get deposited in the Childs personal account, it automatically transfer into the joint account, the limit for expenditure on joint account debit card for parents and child can be set as per mutual understating, and any expenditure made on the joint debit card will reflect on mobile numbers both child and parents; this measure will certainly ensure whether the child is working in the same city/district where the parents are living and living with parents or child working in far way city/place, the expenditure made by child is tracked, this measure will certainly enforce some discipline and ethical, moral behaviour in the child till married. This measure is necessary after all the parents raised the child to that level baring great pain, with care & love in raising them from infant till that age, making them educated, taking care of their health, etc, and but once the child started earning how come he/she forget all the pains undergone by their parents and just because his senses are urging for some enjoyment of what so ever nature , he/she will get indulged in enjoyment, spoiled just because he/she is earning money is how far justifiable???
It is a heart burning pain for most of the parents even in this age/era, because most of the children after start earning are becoming arrogant, adamant, and value for parents get diminished, degraded and with their mediocre mind they think that enjoyment, partying, sex is only life for many youth, completely forgetting what hard ships their parents went through to rise this child to that level? as such many parents in the age group of 40 to 55 in this present era are getting lot of stress related diseases like BP, SUGAR, HEART DISEASES, etc, because of worry of the youth are spoiling their health & future?.
Since INDIA is a country with most young population this measure is very necessary for ensuring the youth of the country adhere to ethics, morals and sentiments of parental care. This measure will ensure more youth are disciplined, (it is fact that due to lack of monitoring of the expenditure of the children, lack of knowledge of how much the child is earning, also since due to globalisation and rise of pay per month with fat salaries at very young age, many youth are getting perverted and start with smoking, boozing at weak ends, then becoming addicted to consuming hard alcoholic drinks, even some going for drugs & narcotics, then going for high tech prostitution in the weekends, or else spending on the social media friends, office colleagues with the presumption they get intimacy, to concert intimacy to relationship, etc etc, which otherwise has lifelong impact on their life even after getting married?, even some are starting so called “live in relationships”, and parents have literally no idea about what their child doing? And how come society blames the parents for the wrong acts of their perverted children. In order to prevent happing of such incidents to the maximum extent possible, making children to adhere to moral thinking and better future, children prefer more arranged marriages, also in case child prefers love marriages, the love marriages will be pure, as love is not blossomed just because the boy/girl is spending luxuriously and giving expensive gifts etc.
Also it will be ideal that till marriage the unmarried child joint bank account should have limit of withdrawal of the child should be not more than 50% of their earnings or as mutually agreed by parents and children for meeting their basic living expenditure if the children are employed In outstation, this measure will certainly compel most of the children to adhere to ethics. Morals?, after all the new age parents are mostly educated, mobile savvy and also in future internet savvy?
Also it should be made mandatory that once the unmarried child start earning, the amount earned should go to clearing the loans that parents taken for education, then for housing etc, then only can be used for buying assets whether movable or immovable, Also all the assets purchased till marriage by the unmarried child should be in the joint name of parents and the youngster, And any movable assets/ immovable assets the youth purchases, acquires it should be in the joint name of parents and the youth. This measure will certainly reduce the burden on the parents, also it is some sort of gratitude and repaying to parent’s fraction of the debt that the children owe to their parents, after all the child what he/she is due to the parents?, if any youth of the world, country feel it is ridiculous they should hang their head in shame for reducing them/ becoming less than parasites??Parents should abandon such crooks? Who is otherwise a burden to the society?? society do not need such self centred selfish crooks?
These measure will censure tracking of the expenditure of their young child?; also this measure ensures the children get married at the early age, so that they can have better healthy life, and more disciplined way of living, not adhering/ addicting to any kind of wises, especially smoking, consuming alcohol, going for prostitution/ doing adultery. This creates responsible youth in the country, also when married at young age they get the taste of what is life, and also responsibilities make them to think straight forwardly rather than getting their mind perverted to the sensory urges. This creates better society, and better nation. In case of youth wants to start live in relation he/she should forfeit their jointly earned property and start a fresh life. This measure will certainly reduce live in relationships and reduce “fruit of adultery” children?.
39) MANDATORY RESPONSIBILITY OF EVERY MARRIED COUPLE TO PAY PART OF THEIR EARNINGS FOR BASIC LIVING OF THEIR OLD AGE PARENTS. THIS PAYMENT THOUGH AUTO DEDUCTION IN SALARY /INCOME FROM BANK ACCOUNT.
It is fact that nucleolus families are in raise, and the value, affection for parents getting drastically seized soon after they got married, for most of the youngsters either abandon, or isolate most of the parents. If the parents are not having government employment, then the parents are not getting even pension for meeting their basic living, forgot about caring them. In these circumstances it is heinous that the children are enjoying life to the maximum possible extent, getting their self centred urges fulfilled, but strangely leaving their parents to suffer. This situation needs to be changed. In case the parents do not posses any source of income, not in a position to earn due to any illness/ due to aging, then an additional amount of Rs 10,000 per month or 10% of the earnings per month/ annual earnings whichever is lower should be deducted from the joint account earnings per month of the married couple and should be auto credited to the parents account every month for self caring (this measure is for the parents of both wife & husband). This measure is only if the parents do not possess any assets with them and left with no other way of living. This measure will certainly help millions of parents. The same amount should be deposited in corpus fund of old homes run by government in case parents wish to stay in old age homes. In case of more than one child they should share the expenses/ responsibility equally.
40) MANDATORY RESPONSIBILITY OF THE SON/ DAUGHTER THE RESPONSIBILITY OF HEALTH CARE OF THEIR PARENTS
Also it should be made mandatory that the children will take care of the health of the parents, till the natural death of parents, whether they stay in the same place of living/city where parents live, they may stay with parents or separately staying or they living in faraway place in the country or even in abroad they should ensure their parents health care is taken care by making periodic health checkups for them, by paying for the health checkups online so that the corporate hospitals visit home and pick up the parents and conduct the tests and prescribe the medicine as per requirement if needed, the children should keep the dossiers of heath records and submit it the government. The tests should include eye care, teeth care, diabetic, BP, ulcers, urinary tract infections, breast/ ovary cancer, prostate cancer etc etc, the full body checkups should be conducted.
Also it should be made mandatory that health insurance for parents should be bared by the children only for any sudden need for operations for cancer, or any accidents or heart surgery or any other surgery. To make it a habit for the young children, once they start earning, the responsibility of health care and maintains of heath records of parents is on the child; the same thing will be done by government for the old aged people who do not have children or they lost their only child due to death for what so ever reason; in case of low income group/ BPL families it is the responsibility of the child to take them to the nearest government hospital use the health care card of the government. Also government must make it mandatory that all government hospitals will be equipped with instruments and trained staff for conducting full body checkups like in the private hospitals, also all specialities under one roof from eye care to tooth to heart to bones to brain to gynics etc, also government will do the same in case of very old people that government itself will pick up and do the tests periodically and provide required medicine.; This measure will provide a great relief for many, failing to do so they will lose government benefits with immediate effect.
41) ENACTING LAW FOR MANDATORY VISIT TO PARENTS HOME BY THE MARRIED COUPLE ALONG WITH CHILDREN AT LEAST ONCE IN A YEAR FOR WEEK DAYS ON ANY OCCASIONS
Also it should be made mandatory the married couple will visit their parents jointly once in a year mandatorily and spend/stay there for at least week days for ensuring family values are intact and the children know about the grandparents, also for prevailing of customs and traditions, also should mandatorily visit once in a year their ancestral villages/ spend time in village of their choice in case their families are based in cities for week days in a year. This measure will certainly ensure their children will know what is village life and their roots are not forgotten.
42) CREATION OF MORE OLD AGED HOMES
Also there is need for creation of old age homes by the government itself, as many youth migrates to the cities, and also in the cities they wish to live in nucleus family, the need for old age homes arises, even though in the event of government making it mandatory periodic health care of parents is the responsibility, but still they need personal care, it may not be possible for young couple to take care personally on day to day bases, in the event of both wife and husband are employed; in such circumstances if old age homes exists, wither in the city or in rural areas (for healthy couple), the children can pay or if the parents have pensionable job they can pay themselves or government can take care of them. This measure is necessary for healthy and happy life of both young couple as well as elderly.
43) MANDATORY FOR ALL COUPLES WHETHER MARRIED OR IN LIVE IN RELATIONSHIP TO REGISTER WITH GOVERNMENT SOON AFTER BECOME PREGNANT; STRICTER PUNISHMENTS FOR ILLEGITIMATELY TERMINATING PREGNANCY
Also it should be made mandatory that every couple/ female has to get register at the government soon of conceiving pregnancy (like the one formulated by Haryana state government very recently); only under medical emergency the abortion of the pregnancy should be allowed, for terminating pregnancy they should apply to the government, or in case of emergency in any private hospital/ nursing home they can do but soon they should inform the designated government hospital the reasons for termination, in case of no emergency, but medical care needs that pregnancy be terminated in such cases they should inform the government hospital only after a government doctor certifies then only the pregnancy should be terminated;
Also government must amend law that in case of illegitimate means of termination of pregnancy by illegitimate means, if found by doctors the reason for illness is due to illegitimate means of termination of pregnancy by self medication or any other methods, not approaching hospitals for legal termination, should be treated as murder & suicide case and the punishment should be awarded to both male and female partner involved in this act, in addition, if any relatives, friends advise/force to do termination of pregnancy by rude methods, they also should be charged with abetment of suicide. This measure will certainly reduce adultery cases, in addition it increases use of contraceptives like condoms, will increase, which will certainly reduce STD and HIV cases drastically.
Also the law should be amended making termination of pregnancy even by medical doctors without valid medical reason should be equated to the murder, and punishment should be given to all involved in this act; also it should be made mandatory that the pregnancy whether due to legitimate relationship or illegitimate relationship the women has to bear the pregnancy, only in the event of rape cases, if pregnancy occurs then the female has the right to carry the child or not, however the case of rape should be registered before the pregnancy confirmation based on her LMP (last month period), in order to ensure that fabrication of rape cases in the event of differences between male and female in their illegitimate relation/ adultery. If any pregnancy occurred due in an illegitimate relation, i.e without legal marriage, legal live in relationship, the case of adultery should be booked on both male and female and should be liable for punishment for adultery. Adultery should receive life imprisonment.
Also it should be made mandatory that all pregnant women register should be given some tag with number or non erasable ink mark on her wrist, each time she visits for check up to get identify by others that the pregnant women get registered or not; Also the chances of pregnant mother not registering to government is very remote, in case government makes it social responsibility for friends, neighbours to inform the authorities in toll free number about the pregnant women by identifying the marks on her wrist.
44) MANDATORY SALE OF PREGNANCY TERMINATION KITS, MEDICINE ONLY AFTER QUOTING THE MARRIED COUPLE ID NUMBER, LIVES IN RELATION ID NUMBER. HOW EVER CONDOM CONTRACEPTIVES CAN BE SOLD WITHOUT ANY RESTRICTIONS.
Also it should be made mandatory that the pregnancy testing kits, pills used for preventing unwarranted pregnancy, pregnancy termination medicine/drugs should be sold only by quoting the unique ID of the married couple, live in relation couple and selling only on medical prescription, and the details of doctors also should entered, without this it should be a criminal offence on the part of the seller, also it should be criminal offence on the buyer. However condoms can be sold in free market without any restriction. This measure will certainly reduce the adultery cases, pre matrimonial sex cases to some extent.
45) ENACTMENT OF LAW FOR PROTECTING THE MARRIAGES OF CHILDLESS COUPLES
Also since there exists lot of childless couples, especially in the present era due to various reasons, especially due to low sperm count of male or egg count of female. So it should be made mandatory that in the pre marriage registration (PMG) submission both the individuals should give declaration that they will not seek divorce on the grounds that pregnancy could not be conceived for either low sperm count of male or low egg count of female or for any other health reasons and they do not have any objection if mutually agreed in future to adopt a child from the orphanage in such event of childlessness or may simply live life long as a childless couple. Or in case of pregnancy could not be conceived due to health problems of the female then they may go for surrogacy child, provided the male health is perfect. This measure is important because lot of stress related issues are faced by the childless couple.
46) AMENDING LAW FOR ADOPTION; BAN ON PRIVATE / NGO ADOPTION CENTRES; ALL ADOPTION CENTRES SHOULD BE RUN BY GOVERNMENT.
Also since India is having lot of youth population, and there is rise in live in relationships no doubt there are lot of children going to be either abandoned or treated carelessly. Also there is a rise in childless couple, Also there are rise in nucleolus families and both wife and husband are employed, in such cases there is room for negligence of child care, abuse of children, in order to prevent child is being abused or ill-treated Government must enact stricter laws for the keeping the child away from the parents. For this lot of orphanages required, so government must make orphanages in every district with adequate facilities. Also the laws related to adoption must be simplified. Government must have regular monitoring of the health of the adopted child. The couple who adopted must periodically get checked the health of the adopted child and record details of vital parameters growth in a government hospital and send the reports to the adoption centres. If a female child is adopted, there should be surprise checks to the residence of the couple who adopted, once the child cross the age of 11 or after the female child becomes adolescent, in order to prevent the child being trafficked for prostitution, also there should be surveillance on the residence of the couple where the adopted adolescent child is living for ensuring that the child is not subjected to forced flush trade in the residence, and a set of female health councillors should visit the house and examine the child periodically to find out any pressure on her for doing any wrong acts. Also it should be mandatory condition for the people who are adopting that they will pursue the education of the child at least till degree. And they will bear all the necessary expenses.
Also government must ban private adoption centres, all adoption should be done at the government adoption centres, if private NGO are interested, they may do service at the adoption centres by providing manpower, material. In the event of government making it mandatory registration of pregnancy, the chances of abandoning of child ruthlessly do not arise, in case willingly any parent want to abandon the child they should do it at government orphanage/ adoption centre; in case if any one abandons the child they can be caught easily in the event of registration of pregnancy, and abandoning on the without proper procedure should lead to life imprisonment for both mother and father of the child. In these circumstances the need for government run orphanages/ adoption centres yield the best results, as the care for children can be assured.
47) MANDATORY FOR MEDICAL CHECK UP FOR MARRIED COUPLE/ LIVE IN RELATIONSHIPS, EVERY HALF YEARLY, MANDATORY TO MAINTAIN MEDICAL RECORDS OF THEIR CHILDREN, ISSUE OF SMART CARD FOR CHILD HEALTH RECORDS, PERIODIC CHECK HEALTH CHECKUPS.
Also it should be made mandatory that both wife and husband should go for medical check up once in every half yearly. This measure will ensure that the wife and husband are given preventive care, all the time for most of the disease, that are occurring due to stress, also for chronic hereditary disease can be detected early, also in case of deadly disease like cancer etc can be detected in the very early stages so that the cure can be easy, life expectancy can be prolonged. Also this measure of periodic heath check up for wife and husband will ensure that the husbands behave themselves and do not indulge in domestic violence, as it can be easily found, during checkups, as the wife’s should under psychological check up in addition to other normal checkups. In case identified that the injury marks on her body or psychological depression is due to domestic violence, then the doctor should do immediate medical treatment, in addition should inform the local police, in case failed to inform to local police, in the event in future a domestic violence case filed by the victim, then action should be initiated on the doctor who conducted medical check up. This measure not only reduces happing of domestic violence but also ensures both wife and husband is healthy life long for periodic check up of health and maintaining the health records for future medical needs.
Also it should be made mandatory that every married couple to make a record of the medical history of their children. And government must provide a smart card for every child for medical history record, and it should be mandatory for all paediatricians, doctors to quote the number / unique ID of each child in the prescription form, also it should be mandatory that medical shops should issue medicine based on this number/ smart card, as far as paediatric medicine is concerned; the idea of smart card is make the medical data of the child recorded periodically. From the date of confirmation of pregnancy onwards and they should submit to the government regarding the periodic vaccination, periodic checkups for BMI, and other parameters for ensuring proper care of the children, this measure ensures the event of any kind of illness/ diseases the history can be readily available to the concerned doctor conducting the check up for the child, also the data of visit of the doctors and the medical bills should be kept on record. This measure should be linked to the school / college admissions. In the event of failure to submit the quarterly medical report online to the government, the couple should be liable for penalty equivalent to three month salary or 1/4 of the annual income in case of business/ self employed. This measure ensures healthily child, thus healthy nation.
48) MEASURES FOR CONTAINING HAPPENING OF DOWRY
It is a fact that even though anti dowry law is in existence, still till date dowry is happening either directly (cash) or indirectly (kind like jewellery, vehicle, property etc) in majority of the marriages, and it is an open secret, it is all because that there is no mechanism to monitor the happening of dowry, mechanisms to indentify the happening of dowry, As such in order to contain the Dowry issues, it should be ideal to keep observation on each marriage by the local authorities in revenue department (income tax) regarding the purchase of any fixed assets/ movable assets, deposits in bank by the groom and their parents are immediate family members. This measure will certainly reduce the happing of dowry to a great extent, otherwise the anti dowry act is just a name sake an even though there is mention for punishment for the dowry, but due to lack of mechanisms to establish the dowry happened, the law hardly able to prevent happening of dowry, only in very extreme cases of dowry harassment the women are coming forward to complaint, and in this also the police are not sensitive, most of the cases once the case is registered, the family of the accused do all sorts of manipulative management with police to delay/ stop action against the accused family, also in the absence of fast track courts in this regard life’s of several young women are getting spoiled, as without the case getting resolved they are not able to get divorce/ get married to new person to start new life.
Also in order to monitor the happening of the dowry, the investigation authorities should gather the information from the marriage registrar regarding the details of pre marriage clearance certification issued persons and the bank account details of the groom/ bride and the parents should be tracked, also the income tax CIB should collect the details from the movable assets retailers like motor bikes, four wheelers, the properties, the jewellery shops, for the purchase of assets in the name of bride/ groom/ parents/ immediate family members. This should match with the expenditure statement submitted by the bride and groom and their parents to the marriage registrar. In case of discrepancy, they should be called for explanation. Also in order to make this measure of containing happening of Dowry a success, the government must introduce reward of 10% to the person who gave information regarding the happening of dowry, any relative or persons working with the bride/ groom, or with their parents or any neighbours who has information regarding the happening of such dowry, may not be in cash transition, but purchase of new vehicle, or house or house plot, commercial space/ agriculture land etc. This measure will certainly contain the happing of dowry to a great extent.
49) CREATION OF CENTRALISED DATA BASE OF OUT OF COURT SETTLEMENTS OF DOWRY HARASSMENT CASES
Also the proposed amendment of government allowing out of court settlements in dowry cases is ideal, but there should be some safe guards to be incorporated like in case of found this out of court settlement is due to force or coercion of what so ever nature on the petitioner to withdraw case and come for compromise, all such involved in such case at a later date after the compromise is over, should get life imprisonment. Also it should be made available on the web the data bank of such out of court settlements, so that public should know that who are all indulged in dowry harassment cases and they can keep an eye for preventing happening of domestic violence. And also all those who wish to give daughter in the family of the out of court settlement will think twice before giving her daughter, may take all precautionary measures, this measure will certainly prevent happing of dowry harassment in the first place, if they have more than one child, or within their family.
50) MANDATORY FOR GOVERNMENT TO CREATE THE CENTRALISED DATA BASE OF DOWRY HARASSMENT CASES PENDING IN COURTS ANY WHERE IN COURTS, CONVICTS DETAILS AND THE FAMILY TREE OF THE CONVICTS, PENDING CASES.
Also it should be made mandatory that government must display in the website of central data base of marriage registrars the details of those who got convicted in the dowry harassment cases and also those in the trail for dowry harassment cases so that people across the country are alert to others before marrying in the same person/ family. This measure will certainly create positive pressure on each family not to indulge in the dowry harassment, as it leads to name & shame the entire family in the country by displaying the family member’s photographs; there will certainly reduction of dowry harassment cases.
51) CREATION OF DISTRICT WISE PSYCHIATRIC COUNSELLING CENTRES TO TREAT MARRIAGE RELATED DISORDERS, ESPECIALLY THE DISORDER OF SUSPICION OF CHARACTER OF SPOUSE
It is fact that suspicion of character or chastity or virginity or suspicion of having an affair with someone or suspension that wife/husband was leaking family secrets to the near and dear etc etc, or suspension that husband is giving money to their parents/ sisters or caring his relatives etc, etc or wife caring their parents with husbands money, etc etc are many types of suspicion prevailing among wife & husband, which are main reasons for domestic violence, it is because of suspicion they are becoming perverted/ restless in their life, harmony is just a mirage if once suspicion bug enters their mind; as such in order to prevent/ rectify such suspicious sickness, government must maintain district wise psychiatric counselling centres, any of the family member or friends or near and dear, or neighbours or office colluges of the couple can call for a toll free number or register a compliant, and the psychiatric experts will conduct tests to find out whether the complaint is true or not, in case the complaint is having such characteristics he /she will be sent on forced leave if they are employed and get counselling done, if the case is serious they should be admitted for some time in the psychiatric cure centres. This measure will saves lot of marriages and reduces lot of domestic violence cases, also reduces divorce cases as suspicion is one of the reasons for developing hate/un interest on the other partner which is leading for divorce.
52) ENACTMENT OF LAW FOR CONTAINING DOMESTIC VIOLENCE, AND CREATION OF AWARENESS OF VIGILANTERIAN-ISIM/ INFORMER NETWORK, AND INCENTIVES FOR REVEALING INFORMATION REGARDING OCCURRENCE OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE; PUNISHMENT FOR NON REPORTING OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE, ANY ILLEGAL ACTIVITIES BY THE NEIGHBOURS, DOMESTIC HELP, SERVANTS, RELATIVES, ONUS SHOULD LIE ON THEM TO PROVE THEY ARE NOT AWARE OF SUCH INCIDENCE TO MAKE THEM ACT AS WHISTLEBLOWERS.
Also it is a fact that domestic violence is a major concern and is on the rise year after year, even though it is not being reported by many women, (even some men are feeling they are under domestic violence due to excessive stress created by disgruntled/perverted wife’s. But hardly there is no kind of monitoring system to detect the happening of domestic violence and the case of domestic violence is coming into light only when the victim complains to the police, when the atrocities on her becoming un bearable?, so in order to reduce the happening of domestic violence in the very first place, there should be an indirect monitoring by encouraging informers and vigilanterains/ whistleblowers, who are either working as domestic help, drivers, servants etc or neighbours or friends/ relatives / onlookers.
Also government must maintain a multilingual toll free number for complaining about domestic violence, soon after receiving complaint, base on the nature of atrocity, advise the effected person/victim and police/ anti domestic violence squad persons should visit the home when the accused is at home and call the neighbours and council the accused for correcting his/her mistakes and change the mindset/ mistakes, after the counselling still the accused continues atrocities on the victim, whether the police got complaint or the informer gives the happening of such domestic violence then the police should immediately register a case and arrest the culprit and proceed legally.
Also it should be made mandatory that Anti domestic violence groups (ADVG) should be formed in each ward/ village comprising of women from different age group/ caste/ religion and political parties with the sarpanch/ ward member as members. Government under W&CW department, Police should do basic training for these members regarding ways and means of identifying the domestic violence and also the basic law for protecting rights of women etc The duty of the ADVG members is to identify informally about the happing of domestic violence in the their territory i.e in the BASTI, Village as most of the villages / basti live in very limited space and adjoining houses, it is very easy to identify the happening of domestic violence, initially the sapanch/ ward member should go along with the ADVG members and do council the victim and accused, in case he repeats after wards they should take it police station for FIR registration.
Also it should be made clear that in case of joint family the members of family, servants, domestic help, etc witness any kind of domestic help, or find un usual marks on the body of the married women like marks of beating with stick, belt, burning marks on skin with cigarettes or always the women getting in depression/sadness/ weeping etc they should immediately inform the domestic violence prevention & counselling centre, in case the victim women complaints for domestic violence and says these people are present at the time of happing of violence by the accused, then all those who are mute spectators for such domestic violence should get punishment and not reporting to police even though they are aware of happening of such violence. The onus should be on the individuals spectator’s to prove that they are not aware of such incidents, in the absence of failure to detect / report such incidents, after all every individual in the society should be a whistleblower and have the responsibility as a citizen to curtail the illegitimate acts? This measure will certainly make people alert to be whistleblowers, informers should get reward for rescuing, life of accused, These measures will certainly reduce happening of domestic violence.
Also government must develop a mobile app for Anti Domestic Violence ADV, which if once the app is pressed the app records both audio& video and automatically forward to the ADVG group and local police & police hierarchy & W&CD on real time bases, and the police/ ADVG team can get exact location of the mobile phone and any ADVG member identified through GPRS near to the incidence will be alerted and they should reach the site and immediately record the version / find out the fact and based on that they can do counselling of the couple can be made later. Government must provide the app to all mobile phones by default for all future phones, all existing phones can download free of cost this app. Any of the people who witness the happing of the domestic violence just press this button for recording audio, in case possibility they can make the video.
Mandatory to keep cc cameras in all houses in the common living room or at the entrance, who has complaints about domestic violence, whether in the pukka houses of economically stable families or kutcha houses of the poor; Making neighbours complain in case of found domestic violence whether in economically stable residential areas or in the slums and villages where poor, BPL/ low income group lives, Also providing cash incentives for the informers of domestic violence should be made, these measures will yield result in reduction of domestic violence as many informers will start taking photo/video/ voice record the incidence of happing of domestic violence by their neighbours family or in the locality in the slums dwellings, as it is fact near about 50% of the domestic violence happens in the poor/ low income group. due to lack of education, due to habit of alcoholic addition by the husbands and also lack of proper earnings make them feel frustrated and their inner frustration be exhibited on their innocent wife un necessary without any rhyme or reason or sometimes very pity issues. So by giving incentives the youngsters in the slums/ neighbours in the slums will become informers and make domestic violence creators caught red handed/ caught on tape. Also if few get punishment, remaining people will defiantly fear and do not indulge in the domestic violence; also it should be made that onus on the elected ward member to contain/ report the domestic violence; the persons who indulge in domestic violence should lose government support to them like cancellation of MNREGA card, suspension of trading/ driving licence etc, along with imprisonment.
53) NEED FOR EXPANSION OF SCOPE OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE; EXPANSION OF SCOPE OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE TO INCLUDE THE HARASSMENT BY DISGRUNTLED YOUNG WIFE’S ON THE IN LAWS, CROOK SONS ON THEIR PARENTS BY LISTING FALSE ALLEGATIONS OF THE WIFE’S
Also it should be made by amending the law for expansion of scope of domestic violence that even slapping the women or dragging by hair should be treated as domestic violence either by husband or brothers or father or any male or female relative or in laws.; similarly wife beating the husband also should be treated as domestic violence, also ill-treatment/ abuse/ humiliation by wife towards the parents of husband should be considered as domestic violence, Also the anaemic condition of women should be considered as domestic violence for not having giving proper nutritious food, proper care, for the first time it should attract fine, second time it should be booked for violence and should be imprisoned.
Similarly the scope for domestic violence should be expended rescue the old aged parents of the son, or old aged from the daughter in law/ son in law, it is a fact that nucleolus families are in raise even when the parents living in the same city/ town/ rural area the newly married couple are shifting to new houses either owned or rented and starting new life, abandoning the old aged parents, taking example from the friends who got separated soon after the marriage i.e with in few months of marriage, most of the daughter in laws who are staying with their in laws starts abusing/ ill treating/ humiliating the old parents so that they will be shunted out of the home in case the house belongs to the husband whether it is own house or rented house, or they will move to new house in case the present house where they are staying along with parents of husband belong the parents of the husband.
Also since there is no law for protecting the abuses by the disgruntled daughter in laws, and also adding insult to the injury, some of the crook sons joining their wife’s in humiliating their parents; so there should be a law to protect the domestic violence by the son/ daughter in law for either for property or pension amount of the old parents or just like that without any reason since the old parents become watch dogs for acts of daughter in law otherwise she wished to enjoy life with so called kitty parties at homes etc etc and enjoy life with old friends in all possible manner etc ??? Also these old aged in laws are judicious in spending, where as the newly married daughter in laws wish to have every luxury at home immediately they come home, buying everything in EMI;’s without having sense for budget balance of the income per month, buying everything on credit cards and all this for the false prestige to the so called neighbours and friends, also buying expensive clothes for her or for her siblings / parents but do not spend single penny on the health of the in laws , even if the eye sight glasses of the parents broken, they do not spend couple of hundreds but spend thousands on LED TV’s? ; Also old age parents room do not have even fans for air circulation especially in summers, but these type of ladies buy air conditioners for their room?, also these type of lady and their kinds eats nutritious food and fruits and juices, but the old aged in laws has to live proper nutritious diet? It is high time tall women’s right activists and feminists should think that is it appropriate to justify that, if the girl/ women is young and having sexual reproductively then only so called domestic violence should apply, but if a women becomes old and crosses the menopause age, she should lose the right of domestic violence? Is it not hypocrisy?? Strange, this is gross injustice and insult to the entire motherhood-ness?
Also some percentages of sons who are married becoming crooks by ill-treating the parents just to please his newlywed wife / wife, just for few minutes of sexual pleasure, this kind of crooks forget that his parents raised this fellow bearing all odds and just because of their parents, he is what is today is due his parents blessing? Shame, such crooks deserve punishment harshly? also it should be made mandatory that in case of deterioration of health of the parents on account of lack of care/ lack of food then also domestic violence act should be applicable on the son & daughter in law.
Also it should be made mandatory that in case domestic violence case on the son & daughter in law booked, then they are not eligible for inherent properties, and the assets of the inherent properties after the death of both parents should automatically go the government old age homes; Also it should be ideal to take declaration on oath at the time of applying for PMR that they would like to live separately or will live with parents till their natural death and will care them all the times, will not indulge in domestic violence and in case of indulged in domestic violence they are ready to forfeit the inherent properties. Also ideal to suggest that in all joint families CC cameras should be installed in the living areas. This measure reduces lot of domestic violence? This law should be not from retrospective effect, but hence forth after enacting the law; this measure will be great relief for millions of parents.
54) ENACTING LAW THAT ANY OF MARRIED PARTNER CAN NOT STAY AWAY FOR MORE THAN 30 DAYS OUT OF HOME, WITH EXCEPTION TO SOME PROFESSIONS. ; MARRIED WOMEN SHOULD HAVE RIGHT TO SAY WITH HER PARENTS FOR 30 DAYS IN A YEAR; FORMULATION OF RULES UNDER WHICH CIRCUMSTANCES MARRIED COUPLE CAN DENY PARTICIPATING IN SEX, FOR BETTER UNDERSTATING EACH OTHERS RIGHTS FOR BUILDING CONSCIOUS AND HARMONY IN MARRIED LIFE, REDUCTION OF SEXUAL HARASSMENT AT WORK PLACE, ACHIEVING MORE PRODUCTIVITY DUE STABLE MIND.
Also it should be made mandatory that only for discharging official duty an employee, a married person can stay alone/ away from spouse for not exceeding 30 days in out station (exceptional for certain employments like armed forces, merchant navy etc), in case of stay in out station is more than 30 days, they has to take the spouse along with them, also making it mandatory for the government or private employers to provide conveyance and stay arrangements for couples in case of more than 30 days at a stretch for any work, if the employee wish to take the spouse along with them they should be allowed to take them, in case they don’t want to take their spouse, they should be able to en-cash the monitory benefits, in any case away from home by spouse should not exceed 180 days at a stretch even in military/ merchant navy or any other profession.
Also it should be made mandatory all married women should be entitled to take 30 days leave from the husband, she may use the leave to visit her parents, or siblings house or she may simply do what she likes to do legitimately, for this wife need to take consent/approval from the husband for going to parents home, the husband should not object her wish to take leave, unless there is some emergency of hospitalisation of the parents of husband in case joint family or children having examinations or he has some official office work, etc etc; also the approval or consent of husband need not be prior, wife can take permission after reaching parents home through phone call, with voice record/ text/ e mail, it should be the responsibility / onus of the husband to take the call and give reply, in case he says no, he should give reasons. It is the duty of the husband to accept her once she is back home when she feel to join him.
In case of more than 30 days stay, she should give reasons for extension of stay, in case the husband feels that the reasons without any supporting and reasons are petty/ gullible he may ask her to join her immediately within a specified time period, in case she fails to join the husband can give one more chance as a remainder after a gap of few weeks, in case she still not responding or still gives excuses, he can give final chance after another chance of few weeks and after that he may approach court for divorce for not fulfilling the duty as wife. All correspondence should be in writing in e mail or letter with acknowledgment for receipt of letter.
Also in case wife do not wish to have sex with husband for more than 30 days at a stretch when staying with him in the same premises, the husband can give a remainder to her as a warning, after 15 days second remainder, and after 15 days final remainder, all this again through mobile text message, voice record/ e mail, video record, If still wife do not cooperate and denies the right have sex, unless otherwise on medical grounds, with medical records, he may approach court for divorce. It is a fact that most of the married women uses sex as tool to get control over husbands and that is why hen pecked husbands are on the rise to great extent, this why adultery is on rise, this why prostitution is on rise, to some extent, and how for it is justifiable to make husband plead for sex, just to put him under her control/dictatorship.
Since most of the women buy the husband prior to marriage like a commodity, in one or their way by paying dowry, so she wish that her husband should be under her control to recover the amount paid to him in the form of controlling him not to look after his parents, because for taking dowry at the instance of parents of husband, also she wish he should not look after his siblings mostly his sisters, etc etc in a sense she is indirectly taking revenge on the husband for taking dowry in most of the cases? As in majority of the marriages, dowry is happing in one or other form, the only tool wife is having is control over sex, as she is fully aware that men marry any women, 100% for sex in the first place for sure, So she will deliberately say no the husband even though she like to have, just to put him under stress, as a distress call he will come for bargaining and fulfil her desire of saying yes to her on every matter, obeying her orders to neglect parents, siblings, even he should go to the extent of abusing them on and off just to please the wife to have so called harmonious relation i.e sex? Also some wife’s think by allowing husband to have sex with her is a great favour she is doing to him, as he is getting so called pleasure, so he should be obelised to her, otherwise she will not cooperate with him when he requires? This is the common in majority of the houses, but hardly the truth comes out because of the fear for feminists and women’s right wings/ organisations will fall on this poor fellow?.
It is high time to change such rude behaviour/ techniques playing by wife’s in general, in some cases the husband also, but husband denying sex cases are miniscule compared to wife’s denying sex, In this regard it is hypocrisy to say women have right over her body so she can deny sex at her will and wish and whims and fancies is ridiculous argument and it not only reduces the healthy life of women, but also healthy life of entire family, healthily life of the country at large? , of course women have right over her body, for that matter ever human being should have right over their body, and right over body is a fundamental right, but also it is fact as per constitution itself all rights are subjected to some other limitations/ caveats? So there should be set of rules, within which the so called right over body, for ensuring consensus among the wife and husband, for prevailing of harmony in married life. Yes only there should be consensus sex among the married people about how many days they should have sex in a month, but certainly there should be some rules and regulations, within these boundaries they can have consensus and so called harmony etc etc for happy and healthy living, as it is a fact that healthy legitimate sex with single partner lifelong will ensure both the couple are healthy life long and the chances of getting other illness is reduced to great extent, unless they have hereditary health disorders.
As such all women’s activists and government must decide the rules, a list of reasons that women can deny sex with husband or a man can deny sex with wife, the reasons should be like he/she is having illness, he/she has health disorders, he/she is out of mood for tragedy in her family of immediate relatives or her close friends etc etc these lists should have maximum period of denial of sex for each reason, the time should be specified, also the list of immediate relatives or close friends should be given to husband/wife (as per PMR list of relatives, friends),
Since India having largest youth population, if they have healthy, regular sex then they will be healthy throughout their life time, which means more work output & productivity by the young work force whether it may be agriculture or industry, thus the economy will improve. As it is a fact if the married man do not have regular sex he will certainly have disturbed mind, even the case is same for women, a person with disturbed mind cannot perform the work at hand with great efficient, effectively, as a result the workout/ productivity will certainly effected? So there should be set of rules for having harmonious living of married couple/ live in relations
Also it is a fact that just because the married man do not have good sex life at home or did not have regular sex/ enough sex a home/ did get his so called sexual fantasies fulfilled, he becomes one or other way restless at office, in this case he wish to develop intimacy at office female staff working in his office, it is a fact majority of the women do not like to have extra martial affairs, so they will not respond to the so called signals / verbal intimacy moves by the office colleagues mostly the superior, then over a period of time this man develops frustration and it is turning into sexual harassment, so without fixing the root cause for sexual harassment, just framing laws for punishment for sexual harassment will not yield the desired results, as it a fact as per surveys one in every three working women faces sexual harassment, but hardly they report due to social reasons as well as job security and getting humiliated within themselves for these atrocities and their conscious won’t allow them to do adultery? In some cases, even women initiates adultery as they do not care about society, inner conscious, treating it all as trash are willingly en-cashing the so called disgruntled/ disturbed husband employee colluges, who happens to be her boss in the office to get favours done for her, this is leading to adultery/ un authorised live in relations, this is more in case of government employees? But the percentage of women employees doing adultery is miniscule/ abysmal compared to sexual harassment by men for not able to trap the women colleague in his line is doing sex in future? All this is mainly that the working men when reaches home it is tired, wish to relax, but in most cases wife’s deny him from having sex for not acting on her complaints instantly?, all this leafing to disturbed mind, this can be contained by ensuring all married men have good sexual relationship with their wife for ensuring peace prevails at home and thus in office/ work, if one works with peace, then certainly the productivity will get increased thus the overall growth of the country happens.
55) CREATION OF MULTI LINGUAL TOLL FREE NUMBER FOR PRE DIVORCE COUNSELLING ONLINE REAL TIME, MANDATORY FOR ALL WHO WISH TO GO FOR DIVORCE TO CALL THE NUMBER, FOLLOW THE ADVISE AND IN EXTREME CASES GO FOR PERSONAL COUNSELLING, AFTER EVERY EFFORT GOT EXHAUSTED GO FOR FILING OF COURT CASE, TO FILE COURT CASES IN DIVORCE, BOTH PARTIES MUST MENTION THE UNIQUE ID NUMBER OF PRE DIVORCE COUNSELLING
It it is fact that due to lack of proper processional advice, counselling for pre divorce , most of the couple are ending up due ego Battelle among the wife & husband, till date if at all there exists a counselling facility, it is the police station or some of the close friends/ relatives. As such it is very necessary there should a multi lingual toll free call centre to record the complaints of females, for real time counselling of the affected persons either male or female to hear their pain and give some sort of legitimate solutions to them which will relive their stress/ fear/ anxiety when they are preparing for divorce, to give moral strength, the legal provisions, protecting of their rights etc to avoid divorce and try to resolve the issues, ensuring mistakes rectified amicability as far as possible to ensure the marriage sustains, only under extreme cases they may go for the divorce. This measure is necessary, since only counselling centres for couple wants divorce is women police stations/ very few NGO’s are doing, only after the case reached to the stage of police case/ filing of divorce/ the situation for divorce made public, then doing counselling at this rotten stage of mindset may not yield the desired result of sustenance of marriage in most cases only very few % of cases there is chance for sustained of marriage.
Also most of the women/ men do not want to go to the counselling centres even though they are available in some parts of the country, and most of them dependent on the advice of their close friends/ relatives, as most of these friends/ relatives are either mediocre as far the resolving the issues, and their non legitimate, non professional, and certainly cannot be balanced due to love and affection for the victim and certainly biased towards victim, in fact these mediocre advises aggravate the cases more complicated and become irreparable rather than resolving the even if the matter for going to divorce is very petty / smallest issue, because of lack of professional training in counselling, also due to affection they have with the aggrieved party, they just take the side of the aggrieved party, and look everything as negative on the accused party, also sometimes there is no communication to the accused party for hearing their version and advising them, this is how millions of cases of divorce are happening, in order to reduce the cases of divorce cases drastically and ensure the wife and husband resolve any differences amicably and for happy married life, the online real time counselling on a toll free number will certainly a great help to the women folk/ even men who are otherwise preparing for divorce, due to distress, which otherwise can be solved by dialog;
This online/ real time call centre is necessary as most of the aggrieved party like to call only when they are alone at home, so when they call the counsellors should be available online real time, also it is ideal that the calls should be voice recorded and data stored/banked for future references, and each caller should be given a unique ID number when called first time and next time when they call they should mention the unique ID number, so that it saves not only the time of both caller and who attends the call, but also it unable to connect the call to the person who attend their call previously in case they are available at the time of call, and also the unique id will be used for data bank and record recollection regarding the issues of the caller and the solutions provided by the advisor and also this measure will ensure advisors also more responsible and rational in their advise as the calls are being treated equally without any difference of caste / religion, income group; in case any special counselling is required the calls can be diverted to the specialists in that particular field, the data banking of the caller voice will be used for specialist to understand the case and give expert advice.
This measure of multi lingual toll free call centre is necessary as after marriage the couple may move to different place (example a south Indian female married to a south Indian male shifted to north India and the male knows Hindi/ English and the female do not know any language other than her own mother tong, then she even may not be able to share her feelings with neighbours as her neighbours may not understand her language, even in case phone is available to her and many not like to share with parents at their hometown as their parents may get humiliated due to the sufferings of daughter, in all such cases she may call the toll free number and speak to the marriage councillors, so toll free multilingual counselling are necessary; making it mandatory that for applying to divorce the marriage call centre unique ID and the conversation, suggestions call record and did they person applying the divorce put into practice the advices and the result of the advice, a must for applying the divorce.
56) DISTRICT WISE / MANDAL WISE PRE DIVORCE PERSONAL COUNSELLING CENTRES; NEED FOR REDUCTION OF TIME GAP FOR GRANTING DIVORCE FROM 3 YEARS OF SEPARATION TO ONE YEAR; SEPARATE FAST TRACK COURTS FOR DIVORCE CASES; FIXED NO OF HEARINGS TO DECIDE CASE.
Also it should be ideal that government must open a district wise in first phase and later on each mandal wise/ block wise marriage counselling centres, to call the couple personally for further counselling in case the experts feel that personal counselling of the male member/ couple together is necessary after the phone counselling advises not yielding results; All the counselling should be in camera counselling, also this district / mandal counselling centres should have quasi judicial powers to summon the accused/ aggrieved party and it should be made mandatory that no lawyers/ authorised persons should be allowed to represent the summon, it should be mandatory that the person on whose name the summons were issued should mandatorily appear in person. And the details of district counselling centres to further council the couple individually as well as jointly, all in camera recording, in case still the couple cannot live together, decided to go for divorce, then they may apply for divorce; all those appearing for personal counselling should given special UNIQUE ID, in case either of the individual in the couple wishes to apply for divorce even after personal counselling (after personal counselling at least 60 days time should be given for either parties to resolve and reconciled), should apply for transcript of the call details of the individual done during online real time counselling, in addition to the transcripts of personal appearance before the council of the individual and joint statements, which should be mandatory for applying for divorce in the court, (only the person who is participated in the online counselling that person only will get the conversation details individually, in addition the joint details only in order to protect the privacy of the individuals statements)This measure not only reduces the cases going for divorce, in addition reduces the valuable time of courts.
These district marriage counselling centres / mandal counselling centres should be filled with eminent persons retired from various fields & professions and some spiritual/ priestly class of all religions should be on the panel, and each panel should be formed based on the need of the case. Even for live in relation break ups also should go through same procedure.
Also there is an urgent need to amend the existing law of mandatory gap of 3 years of separate living is required for grant of divorce should be reduced to one year gap of separate living (forced living) or divorce can be granted even if they are living in same house/ room without any sexual contact among the wife and husband; however the gap due to staying in abroad, not getting permission to visit back home or the spouse not getting visa to join the spouse in abroad or persons serving in jail or any such unavoidable circumstances they can have separate living should not be a reason for divorce. This measure is necessary as it is a fact most of the cases of adultery/ prostitution is happing if there is a gap of forced separation for three years, the more the gap in the forced separation, the more the vulnerability for occurrence of adultery, live in relationship or prostitution, after all once tasted the enjoyment of married life / sexual pleasures, chances of male waiting for years to get divorce to come to go for sexual pleasures with another women is very less?
Also there should be separate fast track courts for divorce cases and the cases should be disposed within a year or maximum of 8 hearings, with maximum of two adjournments from each party side and two adjournments from judge side. In case any one of the party whether the appeal party or respondent party do not attend the hearing after two adjournments or deemed adjournments in case not attended for two consecutive sessions, the judge have full authority to do ex-party in the third hearing itself or if the judge wish to take more hearings then he may take but adhering to a maximum of 8 hearings in a calendar year the case should get disposed off. Only on greave medical conditions , in case the any of the party cannot attend personally, their might me some relaxation in such cases, however such medical cases should be listed, only such cases this kind of facility should be extended in rare circumstances; When the case is filed for divorce after following due procedure of going through online counselling and personal appearance at personal counselling centres, the properties of both parties should be deemed to be under attachment till the case is disposed off and the award is declared for compensation.
57) CENTRALISED SYSTEMS TO MONITOR THE MONITORY COMPENSATION DISPOSAL; AMENDING LAW FOR REPLACING THE EXISTING PRACTICE OF AWARDING THE COMPENSATION IN DIVORCE CASES AT THE WILL/ WISDOM OF JUDGES TO MAKING A FIXED PERCENTAGE OF COMPENSATION FROM INCOME EARNED AND FIXED PERCENTAGE OF COMPENSATION FROM THE VALE OF ASSETS, WHICH SHOULD BE SAME FOR ALL DIVORCE CASES IRRESPECTIVE OF INCOME GROUP/ RELIGION; NO DIVORCE/ BREAK UP APPLICATION WHEN THE WOMEN PARTNER IS PREGNANT, ONLY AFTER DELIVERING CHILD THEY MAY APPLY; FEMALE CHILD SHOULD BE RAISED BY MOTHER MANDATORILY.
Also there government must make a separate wing in the marriage registrar office district wise, with centralised data, for collecting the compensation awarded by the court in the event of divorce, for maintenance of ex wife, children, the ex husband should deposit the same amount in this special wing account; the persons receiving the compensation, as well as persons paying compensation should reveal their bank accounts, and it should be automatic deduction from the bank account of the person paying compensation to the government account whenever such funds are available in his account, from which the compensation should be forward to the concerned receiver; in this measure the government account is only an intermediary just to auto debit and auto credit the compensation amount, this measure is necessary that even after courts judgements, some male are avoiding payment to the females, or paying less than the amount awarded, or paying correctly for certain period and their after vanishing, all such events the ex wife’s life is becoming misery, so with this method, such issues can be contained, if the through government transfer is happening, in addition this facility will ensure in the event of the male transferred to any other place than the place due to work, change in work place/ office, change in business, change in city, etc from the place where the female receiving compensation, or in the event of male intentionally not paying, or in the event the male makes zero balance in the bank account number given and operating other bank accounts, the government can trace such persons operating other bank accounts using his voter ID, Adhar, pass port number to get traced in automatic process in the central banking servers of all banks and attach such accounts to the amount limited to the compensation, and ensure payment to the receiver reaches in time, also in the case of 25% compensation awarded to the child in case the male leaves the child for Ex wife/ ex female, then the income tax returns should be taken into consideration and such income should be attached to make payment annually, in case of salaried employee the salary can be attached to recover the compensation.
In the event of male/ Ex husband who is involved in dowry compensation, child compensation, wish to travel abroad, he has to deposit money in the government account equivalent to such an amount as fixed deposit, that the fixed deposit should earn such interest which should be equal to the amount of compensation, in the event of return from abroad he can with draw the deposit. Also it should be made mandatory that male who are directed by court in divorce cases to pay compensation should yearly submit their stay of place, and mandatory to submit to the authorities any change in bank account, place of living, contact numbers etc.
Also the government must amend the law for fixed compensation in divorce cases i.e fixed percentage of compensation in the earnings per month/ per annum, also fixed percentage of value of the properties should be automatically awarded along with granting of divorce irrespective of status of income of the husband or wife, rather than making the divorced women should be at the mercy and disposal of the discretion authority of the judges which is happening at present. It is really pity that women of the country who are in distress due to divorce are left for the mercy of the judges? Do all judges are honest? there is acute need for fixed percentage of compensation/ value of the properties will certainly deliver justice to the victim of divorce, after all the man enjoyed the chastity of the women and he should pay for it for breaching the trust?.
Also it should be made mandatory that all divorce cases whether marriage, live in relationships, the couple are not eligible for applying divorce if the female partner is pregnant, only after the delivery of child any individual partner can be eligible for divorce, also in case of divorce, granted, it should be made mandatory that female child should be raised with mother only, in case mother wish to abandon the child, they may give it to government orphanages/ care centres by paying compensation for rising the child, till any childless couple adopt.
58) CRIMINAL OFFENCE TO MARRY, ENTER INTO LIVE IN RELATIONSHIP WHEN THE CASE OF DOWRY, DIVORCE PENDING FOR FINAL JUDGEMENT FROM THE HIGHEST COURT.
Also it should be made mandatory that till the final judgement by highest court is delivered in either divorce or dowry harassment case, i.e by Supreme court, in case any of the petitioners go to the supreme court, in case petitioners do not go to even High court, when the specified time for appeal lapses, then the petitioners can apply to the registrar of marriages to clear their names from pending list, then on examination of such records, and calling either parties individually or together and record their statements to lift the ban on them for getting married.
Also it should be made mandatory that till the marriage related cases are disposed off by the highest court, no kind of living in relationship should be allowed, in case found should be booked as prostitution, and appropriate necessary punishment should be awarded.
Also it should be made mandatory that if any person involved in marriage dispute and till the case disposed off/ settled fully, if anyone caught in prostitution or adultery they should get rigorous imprisonment for not less than 10 years.
Also it should be made mandatory that all the dowry harassment cases the full details with photos of the convicted persons and in the cases under trail, only the accused person should be made available on the website so that it is one form of name & shame and these families will not further cheat any other female.
Also in case of divorce the details of both the male and female should be made available, so that in the very first instance they try to make a compromise rather than going to court and get exposed, by going to court one can understand unless there is an extreme conflict between two sides and which they feel it is not possible to go together, in such cases only will go to the court, as it is a fact, open secret known to all that in majority of the cases it is due to bad behaviour of male that divorce will happen, so it should not be an issue to show the profiles of both the couple till the case is pending, after granting divorce, the reasons for granting divorce should be displayed in the website. This measure of recording the reasons for granting divorce by court (the court order) which if attached to the profile of the INDIVIDUAL in case seeking remarriage/ living relationship will certainly alert the women to chose the right man; also this measure reduces domestic violence to a great extent, as most of the divorces are on account of domestic violence, and once the profile of the individual man who got divorce marks that he was granted divorce by the court on account of harassment due to domestic violence, in general no women will come forward to marry/ be in live in relationship? This measure will certainly reduce marriage disputes to a great extent, ensures that wife and husband live in harmony as far as possible.
59) ENACTMENT OF LAW RESTRICTING MAXIMUM NUMBER OF MARRIAGES, OR LIVE IN RELATIONS ONE INDIVIDUAL CAN IN HIS/HER LIFE TIME BE RESTRICTED TO TWO IRRESPECTIVE OF RELIGION.
Also there should be mandatory restriction of any individual can marry a maximum of two times on account of divorce of first spouse or due to death of first spouse, the case is same for live in relationships one can have maximum of two live in relationships (after breakup of the first live in relationship); also if one have first live in relationship then he/ she can have only one more time enter another live in relationship with another new partner or marry one time only ; after the two times marriage, live in relation occurred in case of break up or divorced or death of one of the partner the other partner should lose the right to remarry or right to enter live in relationship. This measure is necessary as most of the youth having MNC jobs with fat pockets, they just do live in relations for as short as one day to few years and once they feel bored, they just break up and go for another relationship, like that in the span of life they may even enter several dozens of times?
Since it is fact that majority of people do enter in live in relation mostly for sex, and in case of malfunction of contraceptives they are high risk of getting STD and other unknown STD can get developed over a period of time which are more dangerous than HIV? So there is urgent need for restricting the number of marriages/ number of live in relationships one can enter in life time. Even in the Muslim personal law says that the Muslims can marry four times, but it says only after the death of the first wife or only if the first wife is gravely ill and the disease is un curable and there no kind of sexual relation between first wife and husband then only the Muslim male can marry second wife? (also it should be mandatory that even Muslims living in INDIA should follow this measure of maximum two marries in life time, only after divorcing the first one should be strictly followed, the law should be uniform for all living in INDIA irrespective of religion or caste or income group; Just because one has some money or wish to enjoy with several partners or wish to swindle money from many in the name of live in relationship or marriage while getting enjoyment / pleasure is how far justifiable? It is nothing but one kind of prostitution? How come one allows this kind of indirect prostitution to prevail in INDIA? Also media should be sensitive towards this issues and should not air that in such n such celebrity has done this many marries, this many break up’s etc etc? Which will otherwise creates a negative mindset on the young budding binds to follow the footsteps of their so called favourite celebrities?; So it is high time government lust restrict number of marriages one individual can make in his/ her life time; this measure will certainly ensure long term living in relationships and also marries will be happier as there exists an element of love and care will prevail, all leading to healthy family life, leading healthy productivity, healthy nation.
60) ENACTING LAW, MAKING IT A CRIMINAL OFFENCE FOR ONLOOKERS FOR NOT ACTING TO STOP CRIME, HELP THE VICTIMS IN THE VIOLENCE/CRIME AGAINST WOMEN. REWARD FOR PERSONS COMING FORWARD TO HELP THE WOMEN
Also it should be made a criminal offence for the onlookers for not attempting to stop the happening of crime/ atrocity against women when they are present at the site of crime, also the on lookers should get half the sentence of the person getting convection. Also there should be reward for persons coming forward to help the people in distress. The reward should be in the form of concessions in train tickets/ flight tickets, consideration for admission in government schools, etc. Provided the case is genuine and the FIR is lodge against the crime and the onlookers/ people helped in preventing crime are of great help in saving the dignity, honour & life of the victim. This measure saves lot of domestic violence in the BPL families, as most of them are living in slums, most of the domestic violence happens publicly by dragging the women, beating publicly, abusing with stangs publicly, all this will certainly get reduce.
61) MEASURES TO CONTAIN ADULTERY; ENACTMENT OF LAW FOR LIFE IMPRISONMENT FOR ADULTERY; CONFISCATION OF PROPERTIES WHEN PERSON INDULGED IN ADULTERY AND ON CONVECTION, GOVERNMENT SHOULD AUCTION SUCH PROPERTIES AND THE MONEY ACCUMULATED SHOULD GO TO THE GOVERNMENT RELIEF FUND. TERMINATION OF EMPLOYMENT FOR GOVERNMENT/ PRIVATE EMPLOYEES, PERSON RECEIVING GOVERNMENT BENEFITS SHOULD LOSE THEM PERMANENTLY.
Also it should be mandatory that if any government employee caught in adultery, bigamy, prostitution, illegitimate live in relationship, he should be immediately put under suspension, and on getting convection from court he/she should be terminated from government service and should not be eligible do any employment in private companies, not allowed to do consultancy/ self employment, nor to even take any bank loans for starting any industry/ business, if at all he / she wish to earn livelihood should depend upon the mercy of the family members or else can do cultivation, when the case is on trail, / after serving the punishment of life imprisonment, when he/she is realised from prison; also he/she should lose bank credit cards, if any, only debit card should be allowed to operate.; similarly the same terms should be applied for all salaried employees anywhere in the country in the private sector. in case the family losing lively hood on account of punishment to the accused, in such cases, government provide suitable employment to the kin of the such accused in order to ensure the family should not suffer for the bad behaviour of their bread winner. In case the kin is not eligible for employment due to minor or lack of minimum qualifications, the government will fund such families from the government fund accumulated by auction of the properties of all accused in the adultery cases.
Also all the persons involved in adultery cases should be barred from government concessions if any they are receiving like MNREGA, all sorts of government benefits, except health care benefits, till the trail is completed and the punishment awarded or acquitted. In case the owner/self employee indulged in this act, he/she, the government must attach the assets and he/she should not be given any bank loans further, recover the already availed bank loans by auction and after adjusting the loans, taxes payable to government, the remaining amount should be given to the family members of the accused, this measure reduces lt of sexual harassment by the employers. This measure will certainly reduce adultery cases in INDIA to a great extent, it is a fact that many murders are happing in INDIA due to adultery caught red handed by the spouse, in case the husband/ wife is very soft hearted they get humiliated themselves lifelong for the acts of their husband/ wife, or their son/ daughter/ daughter in law/ son in law who indulged in adultery, but not able to come out due to lose of social respect of the family in the society; Also it should be made mandatory that those individuals both male and female who are caught on adultery their properties should be confiscated and on getting convicted by the highest court, they should be put for auction, and such amounts should go to government relief fund. In addition, they should lose the right to claim inherent properties of parents, spouse, or any other nature.
62) ENACTMENT OF LAW GIVING RIGHTS OF WOMEN IN ADULTERY CASES, FOR ALL FUTURE CASES
Also it should be made mandatory in the event of adultery, if the women complain before caught red handed such incidence, the same can be taken as rape and not consensual sex. In case of men they too can file rape by women, in case a woman lures the man and has several times SEX with her at the pressure of women. This measure is necessary as men may try to influence/impress the women in a very tactical manner and make her go for adultery, or even when some cases women lures men for adultery, in any case without the cooperation of men adultery will not happen? (adultery happens mostly within the know personalities like within relatives, within friends circle, within the neighbours living in same residential zone or within the office colleagues/ subordinates/ superiors, or sometimes strangle within someone met in travel become friends etc), so in the event of women having even so called consensual sex (which should be otherwise banned), the women have right to complain as rape if she blinks first within one year of first encounter of such incidence, so men think well before going for adultery / so called consensual sex. The case should be same for men, they too can file case of rape by women in case a women lures him and in case the women initiates the case. As it is a fact that adultery happening in offices is due to men mostly, other adultery happening in residences is mainly due to women, this is because the women has unfulfilled sexual desires, and the husband neglects her desires, also most of the men after certain years of age do not care to maintain their physical fitness turn cylindrical with bellies, the women may want so called six packs, in such circumstances if she finds some one, certainly she try to make him come in line? So it is a weak up call for all husbands to get fit all the time, so regular health checkups and doing yoga, fitness exercises to maintain him/ herself will have multiple benefits? Also the marriage age gap should not be more than 20 years to ensure perfect health and harmony in sex relations and happy married life. This measure will certainly reduce adultery as most of the men are fear for exploitation/ blackmail by the women in case of adultery whether the man lured women or women lured man.
63) GOVERNMENT MUST ALTER THE DEFINITION OF TERM “CONSENSUAL SEX” WHICH CAN BE REFERRED ONLY TO LEGITIMATE COUPLE.
Also government must make it clear that the term ”consensual sex”, means for having sex both wife and husband in married life or male & female partners in live in relation (on legalisation& regulation of live in relationships) agree jointly to have sex, the word can be used only referring to legitimate relationships, if any one indulges in so called consensual sex other than legitimate relationship i.e declared marriage, declared live in relationship, should be considered as adultery/ prostitution, and should be liable for punishment.
64) CENTRALISED DATA BANK OF CONVICTED IN CRIMINAL CASES RELATED TO ATROCITIES AGAINST WOMEN, MANDATORY DISPLAY OF THE ACCUSED, CONVICTED DETAILS IN THE NATIVE VILLAGE, IRRESPECTIVE OF PLACE OF CRIME HAPPENED WHETHER IN THE SAME SATE OR OTHER STATE, TO NAME AND SHAME THE CRIMINALS, SENDING SMS TO ALL CONTACTS IN THE PHONE NUMBERS OF ACCUSED, CONVICTED, PUTTING IN SOCIAL MEDIA CONTACTS OF THE ACCUSED, CONVICTED IN CRIMES AGAINST WOMEN TO NAME AND SHAME.
Also it should be made available in the marriage registrars website the details of persons who are convicted in sexual assault cases, who are involved in any sort of crimes against women, who got convicted, should be displayed with full profile, where as the cases pending in court should be displayed with limiting to name and some details (without picture, as he is just an accused till the case is proven); this measure will certainly reduce cases atrocities/ assaults on women as these kind of mindset male will certainly be cautious in dealing with women (of course no one can stop happing of a crime, if they are fully prepared for punishment or in inhibited condition, but certainly reduce petty crimes like stalking, out raging modesty of women, etc etc)
Also it should be made mandatory that all accused in the criminal cases against women, if the trail court convicts, their names with photographs along with nature of crime and the term of punishment should be displayed at the native place of the accused, (i.e suppose a person migrates from a village to a city and commits crime at city, where he is just a bachelor or married, but his parents/ other relatives live in the village, it is ideal that the accused persons conviction should be displayed in the village post office, sarpanch office and also made a meeting of the villagers and should read the trail court judgement, this measure will certainly create some amount of fear in some people at least and certainly there will be some reduction in the crime against women, as they feel that the entire village will know about their crime and the respect of the family will certainly be lowered in the village on account of their crime against women, of what s ever degree may be the crime. As it is a fact that millions are migrating from villages and settling in cities, but still their family members or relatives lives in villages and as and when possible on any functions, auspicious occasions, festivals/ holidays most of them working in cities will visit their native place, so doing this act will certainly create a sense of fear for loss of social respect. Also men & females are social animals so by getting fear for loss of friends & relatives in the society they may not do the crime, so both ways the crime rate can be reduced to a great extent for sure
Also it should be made mandatory as a part of name & shame convicts in crimes against women, government must send text messages to all the contacts in the phone number of the accused, all the contacts in the social media of the accused who was convicted by the trail court should be sent a message regarding the nature of crime the individual done and the punishment awarded. This will certainly humiliate many prospective criminals and will be cautious in doing crime against women, will certainly reduce the crime rate, also it sends a message to the others in his friend circle to behave properly, after all unless otherwise similar band width of mind they cannot become friends? . Also since media is pro actively doing its job immediately taking up any issues of crime against women, when got into its notice doing enquiry about the accused and showing it on television/ print media, if its acceptable to all even the accused if FIR got registered then they may be exposed in their local village as well as to their contacts in phone, social media, however permissibility of legal angel for intrusion into privacy of the accused, as till the case is proved he can plead still innocent?
Also in case of proven case, with supporting evidence like video in case of eve teasing / staking etc etc by any students, youth, they should be exposed in a similar manner among the friends circle, in addition showing the video in the school/ college/ university mass assembly, this measure will certainly reduce the eve teasing by the college going students, in case of any other person other than students, the same should be done in their place of work, residence colony/ basti/ village/ ward in addition to their contacts and native village. Also if done by an un employed youth he should be de listed from employment number, so that in his life time he will not get employment anywhere in the country; These measures will lead to drastic reduction in crime against women for sure.
65) FREEZING OF THE ASSETS OF ACCUSED IN CRIMINAL CASES AGAINST WOMEN ESPECIALLY IN HEINOUS CRIMES OF RAPE, ACID ATTACKS, AND DOWRY HARASSMENT CASES, IN CASE OF CONVECTION THE ASSETS SHOULD BE AUCTIONED AND THE MONEY SHOULD BE GIVEN TO THE VICTIM
Also it should be made mandatory that on filing FIR against any accused in cases related to crime against women, which attract more than one year imprisonment, on obtaining the permission from the court, in all such cases the phone, social media, should be immediately put under surveillance, the bank accounts should be attached, all movable assets should be confiscated and all immovable assets should be attached, till the case is disposed off by the final court of law, when the accused is convicted / sentence in case of crime against women like dowry harassment case, rape, murder, acid attacks, outraging modesty of women in full public view etc, then the assets belonging to the convicted should be auctioned and the amount should be given to the victim, in case of dowry harassment cases, even the properties of all those involved and got convicted along with the main accused also should be auctioned and the same should be given to the victim.
The fear for loss of assets, lively hood, should be certainly reduce the crime rate, in order to protect the people from wrong cases, in case of proven the case is made with malafid intention, then the wrong petitioner and their supporters should be liable for lifelong imprisonment, and their properties should be auctioned immediately and given it the persons who was wrongly accused, otherwise there is every danger that due to settle the revenge/ vengeance some may file fabricate false cases, and without doing any crime innocent will get victimised / injustice? ; in case of even eve teasing caught red handed with video& audio evidence then the mobile/ bike used for such crime should be confiscated and should be auctioned and the money should go to government corpus fund to help the deserving women or for any social purpose. Also to name and shame the eve teasers should be photographed in handcuffs and putting behind bars in the police station and the MMS should be sent to the phone contacts/ social media contacts of the eve teasers for getting fear among their friends not to indulge in such anti social activities, also it creates fear in the youth by and large and will not think of doing such crimes.
66) MANDATORY MENTION OF INDIVIDUAL, FAMILY STATUS WITH MARRIAGE REGISTRATION NUMBER, LIVE IN REGISTRATION NUMBER IN RENTAL AGREEMENTS, MANDATORY TO REVEL DETAILS OF PERSONS STAYING IN THAT HOUSE, THEIR RELATION WITH THE PERSON TAKING ON RENT, ETC; ALL RENTALS SHOULD BE GIVEN AFTER DUE VERIFICATION OF THE STATUS OF THE INDIVIDUAL, FAMILY, TO CONTAIN BIGAMY, EXTRA MATRIMONIAL AFFAIRS, ADULTERY, PROSTITUTION, IN CASE OF FOUND SUCH ILLEGITIMATE ACTS HAPPENING THE OWNERS ALSO LIABLE FOR PUNISHMENT. ALSO PERSONS LIVING IN OWN HOUSE SHOULD SUBMIT ANNUALLY THAT WHO ARE STAYING IN THEIR HOUSE, THEIR RELATION. ETC.
It is a fact that majority of the cases of Bigamy, adultery, live in relationship, are happening in rented premises, mostly in the residential areas, in order to prevent happening of such illegitimate acts in total, especially in the residential localities, Also it should be made mandatory that all rented houses should have status of the individual/ couple who are hiring the house on rent, in addition mentioning of details of people who are going to stay in that house and their relationship with the person who has taken on rent, in case couple are going to live in that house, the details of registrar of marriages for marriage certificate number, living in relation certificate a necessary; this measure will certainly prevent adultery, un authorised living-in relationship/ bigamy/ prostitution in residential areas to a great extent.
This measure will certainly improve harmony in family life of the married couple, epically men cannot use the married women just as servant, and enjoy with someone else, also the other women get alerted that the man is already married (during rental agreement if one types the voter ID or name the details of already married people will appear), also this measures ensures that if any females if for what so ever reason many like to stay away with married men, in order to live respectably in the society, they can get respect, cannot be branded as prostitute? (the government data bank of people indulged in prostitution are available in the public domain, and the house owners can verify, should not let their house with such history). Also in order to ensure not only rented house people are checked for matrimonial status, but also the persons/ couple/ family living in own house should submit to the government in affidavit that in their house the following persons are living and the relationship with each other like spouse, children, aunt/uncle with full details etc, this measure will certainly reduce happening of illegitimate relations/ prostitution in residential areas to a great extent.
67) MEASURES TO CONTAIN PROSTITUTION, STRICTER PUNISHMENTS FOR PARTICIPATION IN PROSTITUTION, GOVERNMENT/PRIVATE EMPLOYEE CAUGHT IN PROSTITUTION SHOULD PERMANENTLY LOOSE TO DO JOB/ EMPLOYMENT IN ANY ORGANISATION IN LIFE TIME, ALSO FOR TRUCK DRIVERS LOSE THE DRIVING LICENCE PERMANENTLY, FOR STUDENTS DEBARRED FROM PURSING EDUCATION, NO EMPLOYMENT, FOR MNREGA EMPLOYEES CANCELATION OF JOB CARDS AND OTHER GOVERNMENT BENEFITS, ALSO USE OF RELIGIOUS GROUPS TO PREACH/ PURIFY/ SANCTIFY PEOPLE INVOLVED IN PROSTITUTION “COME BACK FOR DIGNITY OF LIVING” FOR BRINING PROSTITUTES INTO MAIN STREAM LIVING, SELF EMPLOYMENT, SHG FOR THOSE WHO LEAVE PROSTITUTION IN ADDITION PROVIDING PUCCA HOUSE IN THE NATIVE PLACE AS A PART OF REHABILITATION.
Since the measure of registering the marriages/ pre marriages registration/ live in relationships will certainly reduce to great extent the prostitution indirectly/ directly as their exits grater harmony between the couples but since due to containing adultery, there is every possibility of rise in prostitution, as such in order to contain prostitution to the maximum extent the following measures are necessary.
It is a fact that prostitution is growing in cities rather than in rural areas, as the income earning is more in the urban areas, also more and more single male youth are migrating/ staying in urban areas due to employment, as such in cities the hotels, lodges, are more prone to prostitution, (High tech prostitution, use mobile, internet, social media, advertisement, organised in one other way), where as in rural areas/ small towns the prostitution is mainly on the road side for the some perverted/desperate vehicle drivers/ cleaners etc, (petty prostitution, completely un organised, done mostly by individuals, or sometimes by small time mafias also) who are more vulnerable for STD and HIV. The urban/ city prostitution is effecting on the economy rather than the rural prostitution, as the so called upper echelons, even middle class working age group are the targeted sections, at the same time rural prostitution is directly effective health by way of more prone for HIV/STD for lack of awareness for protection/ unhygienic conditions, all due to lack of education/ poverty of the person doing prostitution.
It is a fact that prostitution is completely ruining the family life of millions of people, in fact the prostitutes them selfs are risking their live with more vulnerability and spending very pathetic life. most unfortunately those who are in the prostitution profession are downtrodden and majority of them belonging to Dalit’s, Adivasis and Muslim minority, who are otherwise most of them are in forced prostitution as per various reports/ surveys conducted by various organisations. Since the government wants to take the advantage of demographic dividends that INDIA is having for faster growth of economy, for that the youth energies must be channelized in positive productive direction than wasting energies in unproductive illegitimate prostitution/sex, it is high time to make sure youth of the country are morally and ethically perfect. Also It is a fact most of the men who are not adhering to spirituality, certainly prone to the syndrome of sex sickness at some point of time, also it is a fact that most of the youth at present are not spiritual and more or less rational and atheist types, because till date no kind of compulsory religious/spiritual education in schools and colleges. So there should be stricter measures for containing prostitution by enforcing punishments for participating in prostitution. The fear for loss of job/ lively hood will certainly make the youth to think before going to prostitution.
If all the elected representatives, the political parties and so called religious outfits that talk about the religiousness and modesty of women as top priority, if they have will to they should marginalize prostitution, they should use the force of police, army, media and alerting the citizens by completely dismantling the red light areas, and showing alternative measures of living to all the prostitutes, by completely donating one year of their MP/MLA lands and in addition government must provide appropriate fund for making them to lead dignified living in a righteous manner?
Also need to educate the citizens to see the rehabilitee people who were languished in prostitution should be seen equality not as as lower strata of people, in fact what many people do not understand that these lower income group people do prostitution for filling the stomach of their family members, where the elite and some section of so called celebrities and upper echelons/ rich do prostitution for greed and ultra luxury living & for consuming narcotics etc etc without knowing this the common people patronize them, become fan followers to these upper echelons who do prostitution secretly, behave as popular/prominent figures in sociry?, but the poor prostitutes who return from the trade viewed as lower class un touchable? What a pity hypocrisy prevailing in society? There is need in change of mind set of all sections of people. The religious leaders who talk large about their religion should first ensure the destitute in prostitution are freed from bondage and then purify them, if they have real concern for their religion?, otherwise they do not possess moral authority to purify any other ordinary living people? These measure will certainly marginalize flush trade in INDIA, if not completely eradicate? .
Simultaneously government must fix the root causes/ origin of prostitution modus operand, it is high time that government must ensure preventive pruning measures to contain happening of prostitution. It is fact that most of the educated youth do not visit red light areas having some fear for STD and unhygienic surroundings, but it is a fact that in the news papers and in the internet prostitution advertisements are mushrooming like anything, in a veiled manner or some even directly, it is an open fact that prostitution is happening in the name of “BODY MASSAGE” hotel or home/ ESCORT GIRLS to come anywhere, that pretty decent house wife’s, air hostess do body massage? (any person with little common sense can understand why do house wife’s perform body massage for strangers in their house/hotel just because they pay money?; also when safety of girls is not sure in the hometown, why do girls go with strangers to anyplace along with strangers as so called escorts?) the advertisements are more or less like alcoholic beverage brand advertisements in television and print media sighting that cassettes and music CD’s , mineral water etc, it is also just like that; So government immediately put ban on such advertisements, in addition government must make it mandatory that all the hotels, lodges, guest houses should mandatorily have internet connection it should be mandatory that rooms should be given to any couple after verifying the central data base of marriage registrars website, and in case of single male and single female no issue in allotting room after standard verification for the voter ID or any other ID card. This measure is necessary as most of the youth with fat pocket jobs do frequent travels across the country on official duty, and certainly most of these generation youth are not spiritual, as such there is every chance of getting involved in prostitution when in out station, staying in hotel/ lodge as they feel that it is an opportunity for them to so called enjoy, since no one in their family or friends are watching, they may just call the call girls in the internet advertisements, even when the their visit are planned? So by the above method of giving rooms after verification of relation, taking full details of visitors will certainly reduce the happing of prostitution.
In case of un authorised/ suspicious couple wants to take room than it should be mandatory for the hotels, lodges & Guest houses to inform to the local police immediately, no un authorised couple should be allowed to stay in room, unless otherwise they mention the relation of sister, mother, aunt etc with required proof to that extent. In addition no visitor should be allowed to visit the rooms in the hotels, lodges, guesthouses without filling a prescribed visitors format, which should be standard for all, which should contain the details of name, parents/ guardian/ spouse, contact phone number, social media contact, and in addition voter ID card copy/ passport copy, the purpose of visit, the relation/ friends, acquaintance, colleague/ business purpose, then which business you are in and the guest staying in etc etc, a must for going visiting the staying guests in the room of the hotel, lodge, guest house, otherwise without filling the details they can meet in the reception/ lobbies, there should be online central data base of the hotels, lodges, guest houses, which will track the both guests as well as visiting guests and in case of same visiting guests are seen at different places based on the frequency, then they may me identifying the guests contacts, and in case suspicion they should inform the police for surveillance for confirmation whether the frequent visitor is indulged in prostitution.
This measure is for ensuring no adult men should live the same room with any unknown women, they may live only with their blood related mother and grandparents, in order to establish mother and son, they should carry family certificate. It is fact as per one religious belief that no adult female should sleep in the same room with any man other than husband, even father of the girl should not sleep in the same room, if strictly followed the principles laid in this regard, all other religions must appreciate and follow this measure (there should be exception to this norm, that except the father/ brother is in grave illness/ completely bed ridden and not in a movable position due to any accident, or for visiting a hospital one should be allowed to stay together under humanitarian grounds, for this they must produce the required medical certificates, the appointment with doctor or after visiting the doctor they should produce the details, or they must give an affidavit along with the medical history).
The above measure is necessary to reduce/prevent to a great extent happening of adultery/prostitution in the hotel rooms/ lodges/ guest house, as SEX IS BLIND, that is why adultery is happing all over the world, also rapes are happening all over the world, it is the senses that creates the urge in the human brain, if the individuals brain is weak, it may react to the urges of senses quickly, once the SEX URGE is accepted by the brain, the remaining part of the brain will become blank/dark and the only focus of the individuals mind is how to satisfy his/her urge for sex, ; it is a common sense that when in sleep we (any human being male or female irrespective of age) are not aware of the body movements, so if the female sleeps in the same room with some adult man, whose eyes always searches for sex, if accidentally by chance he sees any malfunction of wardrobe, any private parts of the female visible/exposed even slightly, there is every possibility that the man may develop a sense for SEX, in case his mind is morally weak, simply forgetting the relationship, as in general ordinary mind will get blocked if SEX though originated, and only his focus is to satisfy the sex urge (only motherly relation have the power to alert the brain of even an inhibited person, as he recognize the mother, so mothers are exceptional can stay with son in the same room); also if the man is in inhabited condition, his bran may not be under control, it may get recollected such seans of sexual stimulation either watched in porn, movies,, in magazines previously some time back, and once his mind is fully filled with such images of sex, then his will act accordingly in the inhabited condition, or even not not inhibited condition, if his mind is weak, forgetting the fear for law/ punishment/ repercussions/ insane etc, because of this only rapes are happening.
In case of single women, single male wish to stay in the hotel, still there the details should be obtained and sent it to the parents/ guardians/ spouse if there are bachelors, in case married then to the spouse. This measure is also provides a sense of relief / releases undue , un known stress to the parents/ guardians/ spouse that their loved one is safely reached the place and security is taken care. This measure is necessary as lot of travelling happing and many young working age group both male and female are travelling and staying in hotels, lodges, guesthouse and service apartments, and the parents and spouses are certainly in anxiety/ un known stress till they call and tell that they reached and occupied room and till they return home safely. For the single occupants, the details of spouse contact/ parents contact mandatory to stay in the hotel/ lodge/ guest house. Also in case single occupants, the guests should be allowed to meet in the lobbies and no guests should be allowed to stay in the rooms.
Also it should be made mandatory that if any employee of government, private caught red handed doing prostitution, in the hotels, lodge, and guest house or even in the residential apartment/ house/ room should be removed permanently from employment, in addition should be bared from getting employment in his/her life time. This measure will certainly yield the desired result. Also it should be made that in case law enforcement authorities like police, let the people visiting the prostitutes lose and escape by paying bribe and let the prostitutes to lose by taking bribe from them, then they should not only get dismissed from service but also should get life imprisonment. He/she should be barred from getting job in their life time.
Also there should be incentives for the prostitutes, if they themselves become informers and inform the anti prostitution toll free number, that if a prostitute informs to get the person visited caught red handed, the prostitute may be allowed to commute the punishment, in addition, the prostitute (female/male) should get cash incentives to the tune of all benefits of P F/savings the employee entitled who was caught in prostitution. Or part of the value of the assets of the self employed individuals. This measure will certainly reduce the happening of prostitution.
Also there should be toll free number for providing information regarding happening of prostitution, for getting incentives from the government, more incentive in case of giving clues for getting them caught red handed.
Also in order to dismantle the red light areas government must take the help of military after identifying the red light areas in each district and jointly put efforts along with state intelligence for tacking/ tapping the phones in that area and also cordoning off the areas, putting single entry and single exist in that periphery, with installation of multiple number of high resolution CC cameras in each and every lane, sub lane, at entry and exit point, also the phone GPRS of the persons in that area, and doing combing searches in each and every house, walls, in the house with infrared scanners to identify the humans stuffed in the walls/ cupboards/ alarms, mezzanine floors which are otherwise not possible to identify with naked eye that in that wall like places dozens of prostitutes are stuffed like garbage?.
After every operation they should collect all those involved in the prostitution and separate them as per their local language and religion and kept them in the stadiums for a week like a transit /make shift house, all of them should be given due medical checkups, in addition all religious heads/ leaders/ poised persons belonging that religion like swami-jis, mullas, fathers etc for giving thought provoking preaches to them, sanctify them give them hope and induce confidence & mental strength in them for leading normal life in the society, and even some hypnotizers should be brought and make the people go for hypnotize them for good behaviour. Similarly all the prostitutes should be taken identity and the details of their home town and sent back to their native place, all nearby locals should be transported to other far way states and rehabilitate them, all those orphans, government must put them in government rescue homes for some time and make then to shift to some states where the female population is less and provide them livelihood/ pension, house to stay and making the sarpanch of the village responsibility of their welfare, if any one wants to marry them, government must provide all support with incentives.
Also as far as the prostitution in rural areas / small towns is concerned, the large cliental for them is the truck drivers, cleaners, MNGREA workers/ small time earning people, most of them involved in the prostitution or poor/ downtrodden/ belonging to BPL families and doing prostitution for livelihood. They stand on the high ways, stay near the high ways and indulge in prostitution for petty pay for lively hood. So the government should announce incentives for the public for giving information about such people and when such incidents are happening or found them when they are on the streets, and certainly people will give positive response. Also there should be severe punishments, in case of any truck driver, driver found involved in prostitution cases should lose their driving license. All truck drivers should mandatorily go for STD check up every 30 days, for this a smart card should be issued to all truck drivers. In case of STD found for the truck drivers immediately the medical investigation should happen to find out the reason and in case found it is not transmitted due to legal marriage in case of truck driver is married, in case truck driver is a bachelor them his driving licence should be cancelled immediately and barred from driving for life time. Also in case of any MNREGA employee found going for prostitution he should lose his MNREGA card and other government benefits.
Also government must make it mandatory that all employers, un employed should register with government, and the data of village wise, ward wise population of employment and unemployment can be identified; all those employers should have bank account, and all employees should be paid through bank account transfer only; also every employee should be displayed in the village / ward government office, the salaries drawn by the employee should be graded i.e (up to Rs 5,000 Pm grade 1 and above Rs 5,000 and below 10,000 Grade 2, similarly above 10,000 and below 20,000 grade 3 etc etc on different grades), and without disclosing the exact amount the employee earning, the grade can be displayed for social understanding, people can easily identify that if anyone living luxury at very low grade, or without any employment, one can report to the authorities for further identification of source of luxury?, also if the employee is not recognised by government and paying thousands of rupees salary, they should be kept under scrutiny, also similarly parents should ask the children for the source of income, expenditure, in case they found that suspension they should report to authorities, else parents also culpable for encouraging prostitution/ corruption; also the details of employers should be up loaded in the web, so that anyone can see that whether such and such employer is in existence, as prior to employment or after he employment it should be mandatory on the part of the employee to inform the authorities about the employee with employee registration number, if any employer employees any unauthorised any one for employment i.e the person who has not registered with government or without informing the government, the employer should be fined as well as liable for imprisonment. Also it should be made mandatory that all those who wish to employ should first put their requirement for employment with nature if work in the government employment, this should apply even for employing domestic help at residences to a helper in mom & pop (kirana) stores, so if anyone wants to go for employment, they should see whether such requirement of employment is in existence or not; This measure of mandatory employment with registration at government, village wise/ ward wise data of employers, right to know the source of income by the parents/ guardians, social audit by the neighbours, friends and relatives measures will certainly contain the prostitution to a great extent, as well as saves lot of lives from the risk of getting trapped by middle men to lure the innocent poor females in the name of employment, all these measure certainly reduce the happening of prostitution, adultery; it also reduces so called consensual sex for earning money/ gifts to lead luxury life in the urban areas.
Also it is ideal that religious leaders of various religions in each and every district/ mandal should conduct “come back for dignified living” camps in all districts / mandals to sanctify the people involved in flush trade, with the help of the local police, identify the people and go to their place of living and pursue them for dignified living, purify their mind and scantily them for starting their fresh living, also they should be treated by the doctors for curing their STD if any, and also give them medicine for anti depression, anti sexual thoughts, this measure should be initiated/ involved cutting across religions, political parties all elected representatives and so called elders in that village / mandal should voluntarily pursue this. These measures will certainly yield the desired results.
After this for all those involved in prostitution, (other than prostitutes) pimps/ touts/ so called house madams, owners of brothels, mafias and make them wear the RFID collar tags which are GPRS enabled to track their movement wear on their wrist or ankle and make them to wear 24/7, 365 days, life long, in addition there should be daily visit by the local police, make them visit the local government office like police station, post office, etc and sign their with the RFID collar on their wrist/ ankle.
All those who left prostitution profession should be provided with bank loans for SHG, or might be joined in the already existing SHG with some incentives for joining them, or given skill development training in some or other skill which gives them the legitimate earnings and a dignity of living. Also government must provide a house for those who left prostitution and leading normal life in their native village, and the house should be non transferable/ non rentable/ non saleable. These measures will certainly yields good results and certainly the scale of prostitution will come down.
68) LEGALISING PROSTITUTION FOR MULTIPLE BENEFITS
If government feels, that by completely controlling prostitution is not possible, and by controlling prostitution, there is every possibility of rise of crimes against women, as those who are habituated for prostitution, if found no way out to fulfil their desires, they may commit atrocities on the girls and women? If government, all religious leaders, elected representatives at their wisdom feels that it is ideal to reduce the transmission of STD/ HIV through legalizing prostitution rather than putting ban and running it under the carpet, then government must do it, but under stringent controls, as legalisation of prostitution has its own advantages, after all every women has right over body, she should also obelise to the legitimate living, there should not be any hesitation in earning through prostitution?,
In case government wish to legalise, they should ensure that all those who wish to do prostitution should register with government and they should undergo medical checkups once in a week, and there should be designated places to do prostitution in every mandal, block, rather than allowing it do at public places like hotels, residential places, government must construct buildings for prostitution just like government constructing shopping complexes, after all prostitution is also a form of business for many? (Prostitution should not be entertained at residential places or hotels). All those who wish to visit the prostitutes should get registered with government in an online form to get a unique ID, only those who registered with the government must be allowed to visit a prostitute, after thorough medical checkups, and government must kept the details under secret. All the prostitution hubs should have adequate number of medical professionals, and a medical labs attached to it to conduct medical tests for the visitors as well as prostitutes; also the government must make it mandatory that all prostitutes should get more or less equal pay and there should be fixed number of visitors per day/ week, however every prostitute should have the liberty to fix the rate per prostitution valuing his/her body, the visitor intended to visit they should pay online % of the initial fee in the bracket of charges from the available charges, then the nearest prostitute should be alerted for convenience/ willingness to reach the place in that time to the prostitution centre, this measure is necessary to ensure that prostitution is also like a job, the method of GPRS should be used to identify the nearest prostitute (the method like call taxi using GPRS), and every once can earn equally and customers should not have choice, but to go with who ever in that age group, rate, he chooses comes, if not interested the customer may leave the place, since the minimum pay is already recovered which should be given to the prostituted who was called for, also once the customer visits the prostitute, they should pay the remaining balance through online swiping the bank card personally. This measure is necessary to ensure someone will pay in proxy names and someone else visit the prostitution centre, all the prostitutes can spend time at home if they wish to choose, only on logging in the centre, they should be allotted the customers., and all payments to the prostitutes should be through bank card transaction only. This measure will ensure that equal distribution of work/earnings for prostitutes? Also it ensures tracking of people visiting prostitution. The main reason for registration with government online to visit for prostitute is to ensure that no married man, man in live in relationship when their marriage is valid, live in relationship is in valid, then all such men/women should be barred from either doing prostitution or visiting prostitution. (Here the right over her body/ his body do not apply for doing prostitution, even fundamental rights granted by constitution are not absolute?).
Also all those un married income earning people/ divorced people who are visiting the prostitutes, and their record is with the government and when they apply their profile for marriage they should make it mandatory that they should reveal that when they visited prostitutes, how many times etc etc, when they apply for pre marriage registration PMR, the government will reveal the details to the prospective bride bride/ groom that this many times the candidate visited the prostitutes on so and so time.; if one is man enough & possesses guts, they should not have any hesitation in making it public when they do not have hesitation to go for public sex?, if a person do not have guts/ courage to face the public for his acts, he/she should not indulge in this kind of activity?, at least to the person who is intended to marry, honest is needed ?
Also the measure ensures that no under aged / minors involved in prostitution, only majors (aged above i.e 21 for male/female) either can do prostitution or visit prostitutes; also this measure ensures that no HIV patent is either allowed to prostitution or visit a prostitute; also those who are undergoing the STD treatment should be barred from either doing prostitution or visiting prostitution. Government must impose tax on prostitution to recover the money on the buildings/ infrastructure for prostitution created by government. Also it should be mandatory that all the prostitution should use condoms, all the prostitutes should be subjected to medical check up every day before every visitor is allowed to visit. Also it should be mandatory that the age difference between the prostitute and the visitor should not be more than 20 years, else it is nothing but too heinous crime, like a mother and son or father and daughter sex which should not be allowed under any circumstances. So while visiting registering the visitors list of prostitution the age certificate and the ID card of the place of employment or bank statement showing regular income should be made mandatory.
Even in case government wants to legalise prostitution, at the very first instance before announcing legalisation of prostitution, they should dismantle the red light areas and ban all the existing advertisements etc so that those who are languishing in forced prostitution should be set free, and then allow some time to make heal the woods that are both physical and mental, when they left prostitution and made them to lead normal life. Then government may announce legalisation of prostitution, that too only after identifying the areas for construction of buildings, once the required infrastructure and supporting staff to oversee the systems in legalisation of prostitution is ready then they may announce legalisation of prostitution?
In this case there should not be any advertisements in any medium for prostitution, even the list of persons doing prostitution/ visiting prostitution should not be made public. But records should be maintained for enforce legitimacy that no married person can do or visit prostitution, etc., Also it should be made a pre condition that all the houses of prostitutes should be under CC camera surveillance; In case of any one found illegally do prostitution or visiting prostitution should lead to rigorous life imprisonment. So by legalizing prostitution will certainly yield the best results.
69) MANDATORY MAINTENANCE OF CENTRALISED DATA BANK OF HIV PATENTS, STD DISEASES BY GOVERNMENT WITHOUT MAKING PUBLIC, ONLY USED FOR USE BY GOVERNMENT IN CASE OF LEGALISING OF PROSTITUTION/ USE FOR BY MARRIAGE REGISTRAR BORE ISSUING PRE MARRIAGE REGISTRATION UNIQUE ID.
Also it should be mandatory that government must maintain the details of all HIV patents district wise, state wise and centralised data bank with voter Id card/ adhar card/ passport number as base. This data should be only for use by government and should not be made public. Even should be out of RTI preview. Also the treatment for STD/HIV symptoms should be done only in government hospitals, also whether the treatment done by a regular doctor or allopathic doctor, it should be the primary duty of the doctors to send the details of patents visiting with STD/HIV symptoms immediately through SMS/ online to government hospital website, for getting a separate Unique ID for the patent on return SMS or immediately on online, the details should include the voter ID card number of the patent, and it should be mandatory for all doctors to mention this unique ID in the prescription form, also it should be made mandatory that all medical retailers should sell the medicine for STD/HIV only if the doctor’s prescription with special code exists, or only should b given by government free of cost at government hospitals, And they should also enter the details of the unique ID of the HIV / STD patents.,. Also in case of legalisation of prostitution, government must synchronized with the data of all STD/ HIV patients with those who registers to do prostitution or wish to visit the prostitutes, here prostitute means both female and male and trans genders, similarly the visitors means men, women and transgender. After getting cure the patents with STD should visit the doctor for verifying and giving certificate that the STD is cured fully, then the doctor should send SMS, online with unique ID STD patents for getting his/her name cleared from the list of STD patents. Only after clearing that there names are not exists in the list of STD patents any one can be allowed to do prostitution/ visiting the prostitution. Also the registrar of marriages can verify from the data bank for confirming that the applicant for marriage either bride or groom do not have HIV/ do not have previous history of STD. Then only the register of marriages should issue PMR unique ID
70) CENTRALISED DATA BANK OF CONVICTED PEOPLE WHO ARE INVOLVED IN PROSTITUTION TO ALERT FROM GETTING CHEATED BY SUCH PIMPS, TOUTS ETC
Also it should be ideal to display the photo graphs of both male and female involved in trapping young girls and women for trafficking, prostitution, or who are convicted in running brothels or doing prostitution. This measure will alert many young women, parents of the girl child not to fall under the trap of these serial offenders, also government must put these kind of people under 24/7, 365 days surveillance all these kind of people, or those who are in regular phone touch with them by looking after their mobile phones, also they should be made to wear radio callers and their real time movements can be monitored. This measure will save lot of young girls into prostitution mafias/ rackets. The photographs of such people should be displayed permanently in the local gram panchayat office & mandal office, VRO& MRO office, post office of the village and mandal, and in the gram sabha meetings, where the person belongs to or lived. This measure will save lot of innocent BPL, downtrodden SC ST MINORITY girls falling into their trap in the pretext of getting better salaried job in the town or bigger city / metro etc can be contained to a large extent.
71) CREATION OF CORPUS FUND FOR GIVING INCENTIVES FOR INFORMERS REGARDING HAPPENING OF PROSTITUTION, ADULTERY, BIGAMY
Also government must create a corpus fund to marginalize the adultery/ bigamy, prostitution, there should be a toll free number, contact e mail, mobile number, to receive information from anyone regarding happening of adultery/ bigamy, on verification, trapping/ caught red handed, the couple should be punished as law and the people who gave information should get appropriate reward.
This measure will certainly yield desired results as taxi/ auto drives/ riksha pullers or pan shop people or staff of bar& restaurants, lodges, hotels, guest houses etc will become potential informers. The government must protect the informers identity at all times. The informers should get incentives in the form of cash, till government introduces the mobile cash transfer, i.e sending top up to the mobile the value of the incentive and the mobile top up can be discharged at any mobile recharge centres / banks/ post offices for en cashing the amounts. This measure will certainly ensure no leakages in the incentives given, also the amount will be transferred to the mobile by the higher authorities and without even knowing to the field level/ local authorities, who are in execution of law and order at local level. Thus making the informers identity protected fully. Also it should be made a criminal offence on the neighbours of the place where such incidents are happening, owners of such house, staff of the hotels/ guest houses/ lodges for not reporting to police the happing of adultery/ prostitution, in case the couple staying do not furnish the details of marriage ID/ live in relation Id or family relation ID, and the management given room without verification.
72) ENACTMENT OF LAW FOR CONTAINING HAPPING OF HOMO SEXUALITY, CONFISCATING PROPERTIES OF PERSONS INDULGING IN HOMO SEXUALITY SHOULD LOSE RIGHT TO THEIR INHERENT PROPERTIES; IF GOVERNMENT THINKS TO SAVE MILLIONS OF MARRIAGES THEY SHOULD LEGALISE HOMO SEXUALITY UNDER STRICT CONDITIONS.
It is a fact that homosexuality prevails in INDIA, there is rise in homosexuality in INDIA, also government of India has recently voted against homosexual marriages in the UN, also the Supreme court itself said homosexuality is crime, as it is against the nature and perverted in nature mindset people only practice, if legalised/ allowed to continue like so called “live in relationship of heterosexual”, the youth of the country will certainly get spoiled, certainly get attracted towards homosexuality in case of government exhibits its real concern for girl child and up holding legitimacy in relations, by enacting laws and ensuring proper implementation to contain adultery & prostitution, As such government should take all measures to minimize happening of homosexuality by putting stringent punishments like confiscation of properties of people indulged in homosexuality, and also the people involved in homosexuality should lose the right to inherent property, also homosexuals should be barred from travelling/using public mode of transport or using same sex driver for vehicles, using same sex servants/ same sex domestic help at home, or working in government or private employment, also their driving licenses should be cancelled, however they may be allowed to travel in all modes of transport provides if some straight opposite sex accompany them, after all this is one kind of mental sickness, and they should be treated as mentally ill people and the same facilities should be extended to them as available to the severely mentally challenged people (even though they appear normal and do all work as normal persons, when the matter of sexual urge comes they become un natural?) This measure will certainly reduce happing of homosexuality. Just declaring that he/she is not going to attract punishment, but when caught red handed, only such punishments will attract any kind of punishment.
In case government feels to save millions of straight marriages from it turning into disasters/ lifetime nightmares, it is ideal to legalize the homosexuality rather than allowing it grows in a din, then they should do with certain conditions. It should be made mandatory that the individuals should declare in an affidavit that they are homosexual; government must make a list of people who are homosexual. It has its own advantages, since in the absence of legal rights to homosexuals, who happens to be more than 2.5 million people across the country as per unconfirmed reports, and are growing every minute, which are potential people who are at the risk of carrying HIV, in addition, most of them are youth, in case they marry a straight sex male/ female, then the life of the straight sex female will get spoiled, marriage is a disaster, as he will not touch the women, her married life is completely destroyed, she has to go for adultery or divorce, or face domestic violence in case goes for adultery, all this is because of the legal problems of punishment for homosexual, as such the homosexual person just say yes to their parents wish and get marry as normal person, such cases are in millions? So by legalising homosexuality government can save millions of lives from either divorce/ adultery/ domestic violence, in addition can contain spread of HIV. In case of legalisation, the list of homosexuals along with photographs should be displayed in the website. Government should start counselling centres for homosexual feeling people to make them straight, by both spiritual preaching are as well as medicine for psychiatry. This measure data base of homosexuals with pictures has many advantages. In case government makes legalisation of homosexuality, if two men or women staying in hotel can be identified as homosexual legal, otherwise till date no such provision of identifying homosexuals in hotels, lodges , guest houses?, other than the legal homosexuals, if any of the homosexuals identified staying in the same room can be considered as prostitution/ adultery and they should be punished as per law.
73) NEED FOR LEGALISING & REGULATION OF LIVE IN RELATIONS (COHABITATIONS OF HETEROSEXUALS I.E MAN & WOMEN LIVING TOGETHER), MANDATORY REGISTRATION OF “LIVE IN RELATIONSHIPS” EXISTING AS WELL AS ALL FUTURE AFTER ENACTMENT LEGALISATION COME INTO FORCE; MANDATORY APPROVAL OF “PRE LIVE IN RELATIONSHIP REGISTRATION” I.E PLR FROM REGISTRAR OF MARRIAGES FOR ENTERING LIVE IN RELATIONSHIP; CENTRALISED DATA BANK HUB OF LIVE IN RELATIONS
Also since there is no law existing as far as Live In Relationships, only Supreme court has termed it as neither legal or illegal, as there is no law terming the so called live in relations as illegal, and also Supreme court stated that if reasonably lone term living will get entitlement of some rights for the live in relation couple. As such it is high time that government must formulate a law for legalising live in relationships, as till date there is no such law/ ways and means to identify, regulating the live in relationships exists, only on mutual trust, the live in relations are happing, in this live in relationships, women are more vulnerable for their rights, and they is no fixed norms for binding/ regulating the live in relationships, also since no monitoring of live in relationships, many married men are doing live in relations, leaving misery to the already married wife and children without divorce, all such cases can be contained if there exists legalisation and registration of live in relations.
In order to regulate the live in relationship, there should be contract agreement between one male and female, the terms of contract should be more or less same with options to be chosen mutually. The time of validity of contract should vary based on groups, more particularly the age of the female. The minimum age for live in relationship for any male or female should be 21 years completed and should be single, either non married, or legally divorced and single. The period of contract to live in relationship for a woman aged 21 years to 30 years should be minimum of 15 years, for a women aged 30 to 40 years, it should be 25 years, and for a women aged above 40 it should be till the natural death of the women. Also it should be mandatory that the age group difference between the man and the women should not be more than 20 years in all live in relationships. Also in case of divorced person, he/ she cannot enter a live in relation with a person who is less than the age of his/her son/daughter.
This age group division for female is to ensure that female get another partner / marry provided she was in that age group, rather than once the women is nearing the menopause the man terminates the contract, abruptly and want to enter another live in relationship or marriage, and the women nearing the menopause find it difficult to get a live in partner or marriage, of course in most of the live in relationships in future, both the male and female are employees or both are earning independently.
Also in live in relations, the women should get 100% compensation from the male if the either male or female wish to terminate the contract prematurely for the remaining period of his earnings (salary, income earned), in addition 50% of the value of the assets earned till that date. In case during the contract agreement period if the children are born, then even after the contract is over/ terminated pre maturely, the male has to provide compensation for the child 25% of his earnings till the child turns 21+ and till the starts earning, in addition 50% of assets to the child what so ever earned during the contract period. In case the live in relationship couple wants to abandon the child, they should be free to do so by handing it over to the government orphanage, by paying 50% of their earnings to the orphanage every month, till someone adopts the child, this facility should be only if the child is below 5 years. Also if the child is not adopted both the live in partners should pay 50% of their earnings till the child completes education and employed after (21+ age), in addition the man who fathered the child should provide 50% of the value of the assets to the child when the child turns 21 years. These measures will certainly give meaningful life for both women in the live in relationship as well the child of the live in relation couple.
Also there should be a centralised data base of all live in relationship couples in the country; For this those couple who are already in live in relation should get register with the government (else they should be treated as adultery/ prostitution.), also those who wish to live together must go for it should be mandatory that the all live in relationship should registered with marriage registrar in the standard format more or less similar to that of PMR. Only after getting PLR i.e Pre Live In Relation approval, they can go for live in relation contract agreement. This measure is necessary in order to protect the interest of the women as there is every chance that the male partner may live with many women cheating them with pretention that he is only in relationship with that one individual only, Also this measure is necessary to protect thee married women from barring her husband to to enter live in relations / bigamy; also this measure is necessary to reduce the risk of spreading the Sexual transmitted diseases, apart from reducing the mental agony for the women after break up?, this measure is certainly not in any way curtailing/infringing in the freedom of the individuals life, any legal adult have the liberty to live with any individual if mutually agreed to live together, but there also honesty/ trust worthiness should prevail? If the individuals do not have the courage to reveal their details then there must be something fishy?, so if any couple found without registering in the marriage registrars central data base, found together living in a hotel/ room/ house, etc or in compromising position anywhere, then the prostitution act should be applied for both the individuals and the law should take its course.
74) MANDATORY OPERATION OF JOINT BANK ACCOUNTS BY LIVE IN COUPLE; MANDATORY PURCHASE OF ANY ASSETS WHETHER MOVABLE OR IMMOVABLE ACQUIRED IN LIVE IN RELATIONSHIPS IN JOINT NAME
Also it should be made mandatory hence forth that all persons in live relationship couple should open joint bank account and the individual earnings should automatically transferred to that joint account, each person should hold debit card with 50% limit of expenditure. Also in live in relationships, the properties should be in joint name only, no properties earned in any individuals partners name, the property rights should be with the women only if the contract is terminated pre maturely on account of domestic violence (the contracts termination in live in relation should be only limited reasons like domestic violence, having extra sexual relation with any other person other than the person in the contract agreement). In case the properties are purchased on EMI, in case the women wish to terminate or they decided to not to extend the contract period is over, the joint properties should be sold and shared equally, or either of the partner can pay their 50% share and own it, in case of properties both movable/ immovable or in case of properties taken on EMI get auction the properties and repay the loans and take the remaining properties or in case of pre mature termination on account of domestic violence she should get full rights over the property. This measure not only ensures equal treatment but also provide security in relationships which otherwise are very volatile.
75) ENACTMENT/ AMENDMENT OF SUCCESSION OF PROPERTIES ACTS, FOR BARRING PERSONS IN LIVE IN RELATIONSHIP, RIGHT TO CLAIM OVER INHERENT PROPERTIES
Also government should enact/amend succession of properties law making those who indulge in live in relationship should lose the right to claim the inherent properties forever unless otherwise parents approve the so called “live in relationships”, after all majority of the parents do not like “live in relationships”, especially most of the grandparents, then if the individuals value their personal relation more than their grandparents and parents and having confidence in them they can do live in relationship happily together, then why should they need their ancestors properties? In case parents approve within 7 days of the registration of “live in relationship” in a written affidavit to registrar or marriages, such approval should be exhibited in the web that these live in couple has blessings of parents, else by default that exhibit that these couple do not have approval of their parents. All parents, approved live in relations should be treated as normal married couple, and they have same rights what normal married couple have as far as inherent properties are concerned.
This measure is necessary to reduce so called “fruit of adultery” even though terming the live in relationships child, is very sick minded and undignified/ humiliating, for the reason that child did not committed mistake by getting born to the couple?, but the society will look at them in the same manner in their inner conscious, otherwise if not call them openly? As there is no guarantee that the father will live life long with the mother? As such in live in relations the persons on both sides should give declaration that they lose the rights over their properties/ assets of their parents and ancestral properties, it should be mandatory that if any of the partner whether male or female once enters the live in relationship they should permanently lose the right to inherent properties by default, in case of a divorced women gets properties from the divorce, she can retain that properties, if the properties are distributed before she entered live in relation, however once she enters the live in relationship, the monthly compensation supposed to be received as a result of court decrees on account of divorce should be nullified, even if she had a child from the previous marriage the responsibility of the child should be solely on the both live in relationship partners and certainly not on the ex husband, even after the expiry of the live in relation contract agreement, and they marry each other or marry any other person (law should be amended in this regard,) they cannot claim right over inherent properties unless the parents approve such marriages. In no case the children of the live in relationship are eligible to get right over the inherent properties of the parents, only properties earned by the parents when their relation started will be taken into account. This measure will reduce live in relations and also reduce break ups in live in relationships, also reduces, the “fruit of adultery” children. The child in the live in relation should carry the father’s name only who fathered the child irrespective of whether the child is getting raised by the mother, or child getting raised at orphanage, till new parents adopt the child from orphanage, either after termination of the contract pre maturely or once the validity of contract agreement is over.
76) NEED FOR REGULATION OF PLAY SCHOOLS, CREATION OF PLAY SCHOOLS IN EVERY WARD IN URBAN AREAS AND IN EVERY VILLAGE, STANDARD DESIGN FOR PLAY SCHOOLS AND MANDATORY CC CAMERAS AND LIVE FEED ON THE MOBILE PHONE
Since lot of youngsters going to marry every year, the birth rate also increases simultaneously, so the demand for crèches / play schools also increase, so government must formulate uniform norms for establishment of play schools, at least from now onwards there should not be discrimination of children based on their income group, social equality should be the basic foundation of these crèches/ play schools, also it should be made mandatory that irrespective of the income status of the family i.e BPL family or ULTRA RICH, all children by the age of three they should be in the play schools, and every play school should have same facilities, and without going for playschool, admission in regular school should be denied, and there should be proportionate reservation as per the percentage of population of income group, religions, caste and gender in every play school, and also in every school. Also all play schools should have school bus facility and all the children should be picked up by from the nearest point to their home, whether the child is a son/daughter of a billionaire or a BPL family; this measure will be the seed for social equality; Also all play schools should be web connected and fully under surveillance from entry to exit, even in the school bus also CC Cameras should be installed, feed can be viewed by parents or authorised persons in their mobile/in their phone pads or laptops.
77) MANDATORY PRE SCHOOL HENCE FORTH TO EMPLOYMENT ONLY TRAINED TEACHERS, ECO FRIENDLY PLASTIC, ENVIRONMENTAL DEGRADABLE MATERIAL FOR PRE SCHOOL LEARNING MATERIAL, ALL CHILD PLAY EQUIPMENT SHOULD UNDER GO STRINGENT QUALITY CONTROL FOR HARMFUL CHEMICAL PLASTICS, FUR ETC, COMPLETE BAN ON IMPORT, SALE OF CHILD PLAYING KITS FROM OTHER COUNTRIES AND INDIGENOUS MANUFACTURING WITH LOCALLY AVAILABLE MATERIAL. REWARDS FOR INNOVATION FOR COST EFFECTIVE LEARNING, EQUIPMENT
Also since youth population is more than 50% below 25 years, and most of them are employees, so there would be a great demand for pre schools, also it is very ideal that in order to make the gene next children are become more active, more analytical thing, they need to be educated from the very child hood in the pre schools/ early learning centres, for children above 2 years, and till 4 years they should be in play school. This measure not only makes the child more learning orients, but also creates substantial employment, if there exits at least 10 play schools in each mandal with 100 children in each play school, maximum, then there could be at least 5 jobs in each play school, which means 50 jobs in each mandal, then in 7,000 odd mandals in India creates more than THREE LACK FIFTY THOUSAND, 3, 50,000 jobs, on a minimum estimate.
Also there will be huge demand for play school learning material, which otherwise mostly imported, for the reason that china goods are cheap?, but these play school toys/ learning material has no standards, it is fully toxic plastic, by bighting with the teeth by the children could lead to serious threat to the health, which were otherwise banned in developed countries? So Government of India put stringent quality checks, make sure that all preschool learning material/ toys should be of food grade plastic, or eco friendly, bio degradable materials which otherwise has no harm to the children health. Also government must ban import of play school learning material/ children toys, provide incentives for the indigenous manufacturing. Also government must provide rewards for innovative learning process/ material created from locally available material by any individuals in INDIA. These measures are needed to make INDIA future ready.
78) BABY SITTING TRAINING COURSE WITH CERTIFICATION
Since lot of young couple both are employed, then to look after child in the event of a nucleus family, trained baby sitters are needed. As such government must make standard Training procedure for baby sittings and provide training for babysitting also it should be made mandatory that only trained baby sitters with certificate from government should be employed hence forth by any couple who wish to employ baby sitters at home. Before employment they should inform the government prior to employment for ensuring verification for no criminal records when employed, so that periodically checking for criminal cases, Also government must maintain a centralised data bank of all trained baby sitters, also it should be mandatory those who employ baby sitters should install cc cameras inside the house in all areas where baby, baby sitter moves, with live web casting, so that the video should be seen on the Also the baby sitting should be exclusively reserved for girls above 18 years. This measure will certainly provide lot of employment for female youth of the country.
79) MANDATORY MAINTENANCE OF CRÈCHES IN ALL OFFICE ESTABLISHMENTS WITH UNIFORM FACILITIES IN ALL CRÈCHES, ALL THE CHILDREN OF ALL EMPLOYEES OF NEW MOTHERS IRRESPECTIVE OF THEIR DESIGNATION WHETHER THEY ARE CEO OR PEON CAN USE THIS FACILITY
Also since young working population is raising and India having largest young working population, since many newly married due to Employment has to stay away from the parents and both wife and husband are employed, also in case of two young couples for parents can stay only at only at one couple, so all these issues lead to forced nucleus families in some newly web couple, in case child is born, when both are employees, it is not possible for them to take break more than, few months, also all the young families cannot afford to keep the baby sitters at home to take care of the baby from feeding to cleaning, to making them play, sleep etc etc. It is necessary to have crèches in the work place. So government must make it mandatory to have crèches with same set of facilities should be available in all offices. The space for crèche should be fixed and uniform for all office establishments based on the number of female employees below 30 years of age. In case of space constraint, in the offices/ shopping complexes, few office establishments/ business establishments should take space on hire or own it run the crèches; all the crèches should have trained baby sitter to attend the babies, the number of baby sitters should be at least one baby sitter for 5 children. Even they can keep the baby sitters on contract employment from among the government trained and certified baby sitters. This measure will not only ensure the baby is healthy, but also the productivity from the female employees increase, thus over all productivity will increase.
Also it should be made mandatory that even private employers should grant at least 3 months leave before the delivery of child i.e from 7 month onwards and 9 months after the delivery the leave with pay for the employee if the female employee is carrying, and government should provide 50% amount as tax rebate from the government. Also all the private employers in the individual business, Shopping complexes should maintain a joint crèches within 500 meters from the work place jointly by the traders associations. this measure will certainly prove humanity, but also will be useful not only increase in the productivity but also the future generations are perfectly healthy, strong, as it is fact that for healthy child mother’s milk, nourishment is necessary up to 6 months at least, in addition mothers affection cannot be replaced by any amount of care taken by any others including the own blood related grand parents?
Also government must make it mandatory that in case a MNREGA female employee is carrying, she should be stopped from attending the work, she should be given 50% of the amount of the total remaining days in equal monthly payment in her bank account, also soon after delivery of the child, government must provide the basic infant care kits, and 100% payment for next 9 months, by equating payment per month is total days equated for twelve months; this measure will ensure at least healthy child and healthy mother in the BPL families, alternatively, government must provide provision card for the BPL pregnant mother and she should get the nutrient products from the nearby government PHC , which can be collected by their husband or any authorised person or can collect in person when they come for monthly check up to the PHC, the value of the products should be equal to the amount due to her on account of pay for her of remaining days, the products include nutrient supplements for health of the pregnant women, infant care products etc etc; there should be some checks and balances for ensuring standard, quality products are issued by the PHC, for this there should be centralised procurement by the government health departments all products should be certified by the FDA and Doctors association, and also the products specifications and uses, directions of use should be printed on paper in the local language or sms to the mobile number of the pregnant women or husband in the local language. Also since if making it mandatory for all pregnant women to register with government, all employees should get employee unique id also all the MNREGA card holders have a specific number, it should be made mandatory that while registering the pregnancy confirmation, the details of employment, source of income for the family etc should be recorded. This measure proper positive pressure is enforced on the employers to take care of the pregnant employee.
Also it should be made mandatory that even in private employment no employee should be removed without any valid reason, the list of valid reasons should be prepared by the government which should be followed by all employers including employing domestic help. Also in case the female employee in a private organisation is employee once she was granted leave, the employer may keep a temporary replacement by contract employment by hiring from the un employed with same skills, but once the pregnant women delivers the child and returns to job after 9 months of delivery the employer should reinstate her in the job, in case the employer cannot reinstate he should pay a penalty of one year salary of the female employee additionally and can terminate her service, this measure will ensure job security for female employees working private sector, which relives lot of stress in minds of female employees working in small & medium enterprises.
80) CREATION OF MARRIAGE VENUE COMPLEXES/HUBS IN EVERY VILLAGE/ MANDAL/ BLOCK IN ACCORDING TO THE POPULATION AGED BETWEEN 15 TO 25 POPULATION OF UNMARRIED YOUTH; VARIOUS OTHER MEASURES LIKE BUILDING NEAR METROS, RESTRICTING NUMBER OF INVITEES, RESTRICTING SO CALLED BARAT IN CITIES, BAN ON USE OF PLASTIC GIFT WARPS, ETC TO MAKE MARRIES FUNCTIONS GRACIOUS, NOT CREATING INDIRECT/ DIRECT TROUBLE FOR OTHERS
Since India has a large youth population in the world and many millions are going to marry every year, it is need of the hour for government to built adequate space either multi storied buildings with vertical parking or just marriage halls in horizontals, in all the cities, in the first phase and the tire two cities and small towns in the second and third phase.
All the marriage complexes should be built in city outskirts (in future these outskirts may become heat of the new cities?) with provision for at least 500 marriages in each of the complex with adequate space, with different sizes of spaces for different economic groups in the same marriage complex/hub and government must make a carrier for marriage related services in these government complexes made either by government or in PPP mode, by government providing land. These marriage function complexes should be attached with service providers for marriage occasions like decorators, caterers, either from private or government etc etc The management should be government in all PPP marriage complexes/ hubs, the private party only builds as per the design given by government. This measure will not only make people relived of burden of expensive marriage halls, but also generate lot of employment for youth, saves lot of traffic congestion in cities, lot of carbon emissions can be reduced on marriage function days, due to reduced traffic congestions and pollution in the city on account of motored vehicles.
Also there should be different marriage function complexes for different religions to perform marriages as per their religious customs and traditions n the religion as per their religious norms and customs.
Also it should be made mandatory that the number of invites should be restricted to the space available for the marriage function hall and the parking space and the budget of expenditure of the marriage performer, and a formula should be worked out for number of invitees, however it should not exceed the average as per the space availability in the function hall. This measure will not only reduce the burden on the marriage performer but also reduces the traffic and pollution to a great extent. Also ideal to make it mandatory in all marriage functions hence forth entry by invitation, for this all marriage cards should have chips installed to identify the invitee or sms code to show in the mobile to get entry. This measure not only ensures only known people can attended the function, who all are attended., but also saves money to some extent that strangers not joining the function.
Also the marriage function complexes should have service apartment complexes in it for stay of the relatives who otherwise comes from faraway places/ in case bride or groom from out station they can stay in that place, it should be very affordable and also it reduces the travel of some of the people and it also reduces the traffic and pollution.
Also it is ideal that marriage function hall complexes in cities should be adjacent to metros, near to bus complexes, so that most of the invitees are travelling in the same direction they can use the metro service if metro is available, else government must provide exclusive bus services to the marriage function complexes during the marriage seasons so that most of the people use the bus service by keeping their vehicles in the nearest point to their home. Also government must build multi storied parking complexes in cities. also in the marriage function halls.
Also there should be solar energy/ alternative energy use of at least 10% of the marriage function hall energy use and during the ideal time they can sell the power to the grid through net metering; Also the waste disposal mechanisms should be in place to adequately convert the waste to either compost or goober gas for use in the cooking, this measure will certainly be greener. Also it should be made mandatory that all marriage function halls should be green buildings. Also all marriage function complexes should have adequate green cover in the form of need trees etc with medicinal values, which will not only give coolness& oxygen but also have medicinal values
Also making it mandatory that in all marriages only recyclable non plastic, paper made disposables should be used as a fixed norm in the marriage functions, this measure will save lot of water for cleaning the plates etc; Also there should be incentives for using paper less invitation cards like just sending an e mail or on social media platform for the invitees or an SMS for reducing the use of paper, also the paper invitation should be taxed heavily to discourage the use. Also complete ban of use of polythene bags for giving gifts, wrapping gifts etc, also ban completely use of plastic/ polythene bags in the readymade garments/ textile stores only paper bags should be used.
Also government must make it mandatory that no marriage function halls should be in the heart of city or where the traffic density is more, this measure is necessary in order to prevent traffic hurdles and just because of few minutes of traffic congestion at one place will lead to hours of traffic congestion in some cities, in addition, few minutes of traffic congestion at once place in heavy traffic density places will release millions of tomes of carbon monoxide.
Also in case of marriages in the place of worship like temple, church, etc, the number of invites should be restricted to very minimal, if they are situated in city and has limited or no parking place, as already these worship places are crowdie with regular visitors in addition if such functions happen., then there will be total kesos?
Also making it mandatory for change of customs in marriages of going under procession i.e barat, which will certainly causing traffic disorder/ congestion as a result lot of pollution of both sound and carbon emission happing from the stranded vehicles in the traffic, since cities are being overcrowded and lot of migration happing to cities, and more and more marriages are going to happen in so called auspicious days, if this measure is not in place, then there will be complete traffic chaos during the marriage season. So this measure of so called barat in the cities should be banned, they may just do the so called barat once they arrive near the marriage function complex built in the outskirts or to limited extent within the compound in the function halls in the city centre if there exists such provision within the compound wall of the marriage function hall, in case they wish to do barat in the roads, then they have to pay heavy price of Rs one lack per person in the barat and per every meter one lack rupees, i.e for 100 meters it should be one crore rupees. (this appears strange, but the amount of carbon foot prints that emitted due to traffic congestions will be the same?) This measure will certainly discourage many doing barat in the city traffic. The barat can be made to continue only in the villages, in small towns, if the roads are not obstructing the highways etc based on the permissions given by the police keeping the traffic density and connectivity/ approach to the high way.
These measures will certainly yield the desired results as most of these are need of the hour and government must act upon immediately for better handling of future demand.
81) CREATION OF CARRIER COURSES/ SKILL DEVELOPMENT FOR MARRIAGE RELATED SERVICES AND ALSO FOR CREATION OF FINANCIAL COUNSELLING, HEALTH CARE COUNSELLING PROFESSIONALS TO MAKE THEM AS FULL TIME CARRIER COURSES.
Since India is having large youth population, creation of employment in every sector is necessary, it is fact that till date no professional courses related to marriage services are in existence, (of course lot of match making professional services are available in private sector, but most of them are just like that getting jobs from general education), these marriage match making service providers job ends with match making. Also there are no organised marriage service providers, also since the marriage is a lifelong process, between two people, So from home making to health care to finance to child care etc etc needs professionals advice, as everyone cannot be expert.
Due to rapid urbanisation and development activities in the country there are rise in the percentage of middle class and neo middle class people, it is a fact that middle class is the most financially stresses section in the country, even though they earn considerable income through employment, but due to lack of proper financial management, personalised financial counselling, they are suffocated with their income, expenditure gap, not able to lead healthy & happy life, they try to buy everything in EMI, try to buy home, all at the cost of reducing the expenditure on nutritious food, neglects regular health checkups etc all this leading to lifelong stressful living,? Harmony in the married life of a middle class couple is only for appearance for outsiders, but within their home every day they worry internally almost every day/ night. Similarly the poor do not have any kind of planning to come out of their poorness due to lack of proper advises, even though at least their children can become more educated and come out of their poorness, but there are no advisors to advise personally;
In this circumstances, it is ideal that government must introduce short term carrier courses for financial councillors to understand each income group and advise individually how to spend the money within their source of income, how to save for future, etc. Also similarly a specialised marriage health councillors to advise the women on health care of family, child and issues related to marriage life health disorders, how to eat nutritious food within their available resources, the checkups needed, etc (these specialised health councillors are only advisors like ASHAS and not doctors), similarly for regular employment opportunities since millions of youth are going to marry there is need for marriage planners, who can plan the marriage for filing of the PMR documentation, to till the marriage is performed they should take care for a pay (even though marriage planners are available at present, these are more used by urban elite and not for middle class or BPL families). So by this measure not only employment is generated but also lot of good happens to the country. As most of the marriages are done without any worry, within the available limited resources in a professional manner, also the health of the family can be taken care, also the finances by the family better used for present and future needs due to professional advise based on professional knowledge, all leading to happy living of married couple, all leading to healthy and prosperous nation.
82) ENACTING LAW MAKING IT A CRIME FOR SENDING SO CALLED LOVE LETTERS/ SMS/ E MAILS/ ORAL PROPOSALS FOR ALL BELOW 21 YEARS OF AGE, ESPECIALLY STUDENTS BELOW DEGREE, ALSO 21 YEARS ABOVE WHO ARE DOING JOB CAN SEND SUCH LETTERS BUT NOT MORE THAN TWO TIMES ANY ONE CAN SEND SUCH PROPOSAL EITHER BY MALE/FEMALE, IF THERE IS NO RESPONSE WITHIN 90 DAYS FROM OTHER SIDE IT SHOULD BE CONSIDERED AS REJECTION, AND EITHER MALE OR FEMALE SHOULD NOT PURSUE FURTHER, OTHER WISE CONSIDER AS HOUNDING, INTIMIDATION AND FORCING SOME ONE TO GET INFLUENCED DUE TO UNDUE PRESSURE AND THEY SHOULD BE IMPRISONED FOR COERCION TO ACCEPT THEIR PROPOSAL.
Since it is a fact that INDIA is having largest young population and will remain as young country for several decades to come, and it is fact that most of the youngsters are influenced by so called MOVIES in all regional languages and HINDI primarily depicting love is the only theme and male should go after female for getting her in his line by one way or other, even very heinously just to earn some money by creating curiosity among the youth, that the so called film makers are even making movies by showing that even 10 th class students eloping and getting marries, and even 10th class students sensing love letters to the teachers, shame, how come that till date the so called sensor board allowed this to air, what is the morale massage they are going to send it to the young budding minds,? Is it entertainment? Shame, and utter derogatory, utter hypocrisy if one say it is entertainment? Do the people of the country, not aware that media/ movies are the influential mediums on the young minds?, how come the move veterans accept this kind of highly deplorable nonsense, can any person with wisdom justify this heinous act of corrupting the young minds and making them to repeat the act, how do one expect that young budding minds have any discrimination of reality and real life?, because of the external influence, many unemployed youth getting into so called love, wasting the time, rather than develop some skill, try to earn some employment, income ? also even as low as 10 years old school children are writing love letters, leave alone the collage going children, who are just becoming mature / becoming adolescence due to changes in the body metabolism/ anatomy, if the students fall in so called love trap how do one expect quality education? How do one expect that without quality of education, the innovations happen, the good work force evolve out of our young manpower of the country? Do so called love is required when a boy/girl is a student, below degree and below 21 years of age?, do the un employed need to concentrate on skill development and search for some employment as his primary object of life or so called love? Do any meaning for making movies with love subjects in schools and degree collages? Do love means to generate artificially the interest in the other person by constantly making them to think about the person? Is it called true love?
Certainly it is really not true love if any single person interested in other opposite sex and by trying all means to please the other opposite sex person in love to make them accept his/ her love is ridiculous, even censor board should do pruning of such love films,, it is nothing but indirectly hounding the other person to accept his/her love? ; If love is real that will spontaneously attract each other and there is no need for any type of bribing/ corruption to please/ plead for love? it is otherwise ridiculous, as it is nothing but artificial creation of love, it is more or less live doing cloud seeding for getting artificial rain i.e spraying silver iodide chemical on the clouds to make them precipitate and rain, such rain is not perennial? And it is has a cost too?, such love will not sustain for long?.
Also it is a fact most of the love marriages are either for money or just for so called beauty i.e attraction, as it is fact what is beauty will never be long lasting, it will fade away with age, as age increases, the beauty decrease, also it is fact that what is beauty today many not be beauty tomorrow if someone looks more beauty than than already existing there is no guarantee they will be loyal life long without regretting? It is a fact that if it is written on the fate that one should become couple, they will for sure? If anything done artificially, it will not sustain long? Its very true, if caves are formed naturally, they will lost long, all man created structures has short life? As such it is fact that even in So called love marriages, if they are true love , in a natural way, they will last forever, if they are artificial they fade away slowly, as such even in love marriages lot of domestic violence is happing, even getting divorces if the love is not natural, but artificial?; also there is no guarantee that in the love marriage, the person had earlier had affairs, loved others, and once they came to know after marriage, the case is same, the relationship and harmony is in stress and affected??
Sad that no laws till date to prevent such kind of waste of time, talent tarnishing concept of so called love; yes no one can say that love is trash etc etc, it is a fact that true love do not deserve to follow up, do not require by impressing them by buying expensive gifts or fighting with some anti socials to gain attention to become so called hero? etc. If there is true love it is called love at first sight (not attraction of physical beauty, if such love happens between two persons, the nature/cosmic forces unite them for sure). So It is ultra high time that there should be measures to regulate the so called love for below 21 years aged, also for un employed.
1) No students below degree should either write love letters/ e mails/ text messages/ oral expression, if they indulge in any such activity in the name of the love, they should be suspended from school as first warning, second warning they should be demoted/ suspended for one year/ detained in the same class, if still such student involves then he/she should be debarred from school/ collage and such persons should be kept in the web, they should be barred from getting education / employment, also it should be crime to employ such perverted minded people.
2) Also all youth should mandatorily get registered in the employment exchange with their skills, only those registered in the employment exchange should be employed by any employer whether it is a MNC or a mom& pop store ; if any unemployed youth indulges in the so called love and a case is registered against him/ her that the unemployed youth is sending love letters/ sms/ e mail/ social media/ orally, and on proven charges he should be de listed from employable youth list in the employment exchange (with centralised data base of all states), this measure will automatically disqualify this person from getting employment lifelong in any part of the country. In addition there should be complete watch on such de listed persons with radio callers and putting this person under surveillance for ensuring this person will not indulge any criminal activity
3) Any un married person earning on his/her own, can expresses love proposal / writes love letters / e mail/ through social media / text / mms / orally etc, but not vulgar in nature, not threatening in nature, no intimidation in it, for a maximum of two times by any mode of communication to only one person in life time (as true love is not by trail and error). If there is no response within 90 days of the proposal that he/she should stop sensing such proposal, in case found sending such proposals repeatedly, he/ she should be booked for eve teasing and punished as per law, in addition he/she should lose the employment form that employer (he/she after serving the punishment for eve teasing may apply for revival of his/her unemployment registration for getting employment in future) in case of self employment, his licences should be cancelled, and all those who got sentenced on account of eve teasing should be kept under surveillance by police doing ethical hacking of his/ her mobile, e mail, social media contacts, even after that he/she is repeating to send proposals to the same person who rejected / trying to influence through friends and relatives of that person, they should be booked for criminal intimidation to get the girl/ boy into their fold, and they should be imprisoned for life. in case of rejection by the girl/ boy, the person who send proposal barred from trying other persons other than the rejected person,, however he can enter live in relation, or marriage, however the details of branding once up on a time this person was a eve teaser will remain in the centralised open data bank of eve teasers in the website of list of eve teasers in INDIA.
4) If a married person sends a love proposal for an un married person,/ another married person, if he/she is an employee he/she should be dismissed from employment, in case he/she is a MNREGA employee, the card should be cancelled for ever., and sent to imprisonment for life.
5) All the youth who are unemployed should get nominal un employment allowance that should be sufficient for meals for that person, to skill development, not for so called love?, it is a fact that most of the cases of love it is just a physical attraction, even one can see that most of the movies the boy / girl loves the person because the girl is pretty/ beautiful as per his description, and as per girls description the boy is handsome/ macho.; any youth debarred from holding employment on account of love, can do only cultivation for earning his bread.
6) Also the parents should be made responsible in case of students for not monitoring the child, allowing the child to indulge in time wasting tactics, and the parents should pay heavy penalty of Rs one lack or 10% of their annual earnings whichever is higher in case any child found / indulged in so called love; this measure will certainly ensure that they take care of their kids even though both parents are employed.
7) Also incentives for informers, coming with proof that so and so is intimately moving in the name of love, if they got caught red handed the informer should get reward, details of the informer are kept confidential.
The above measure will certainly make sure that the youth will not waste their precious time & energy in the name of love when they are learning/ studying, also these energies can be used for better productivity of nation.
83) MAKING PRE MARTIAL SEX A SERIOUS CRIME, SEX SHOULD NOT BE GRAVE CRIMINAL OFFENCE IF DONE BELOW 21 YEARS OF AGE. LIFE IMPRISONMENT FOR BOTH MALE AND FEMALE FOR INDULGING IN SEX BELOW 21 YEARS OF AGE, IN ADDITION PHYSICAL CASTRATION FOR MALE
Since India having young population below 21 years, it is on the rise year after year, and this the age that children should concentrate on education, focus on skill development and earn livelihood, but strangely some of the children are becoming perverted due to non monitoring of parents, free access to internet & pornography. It is a shocking fact for many parents may not aware that, school children aged above 11 years are entering into sex, even more shockingly some having multiple partners as per survey reports few years back. If the trend goes on without any measures to contain these heinous acts, then what the advantages of India having if the talented young will turn to sex maniac persons, and the dream of government to utilise the demographic dividends will be a trash. If the budding young minds at learning age indulges in wasting their energies for sex, then how come they excel in studies, how come new innovations will occur, how come they lean to update their knowledge to sync with latest technological developments,? if youngster started sex below 21 years, how do expect that this youngster not turn as criminal in case the person whom he/she likes did not obelise for sex in future? So there is an urgent need to contain such worst acts of such perverted children who are below legal marriage age and before marriage indulging in sex.
As such government must enact law for making pre martial sex below the age of 21 as criminal offence. Also no minors should be eligible to either have sex or indulge in sexual activities or misused for sexual activities. Only when the male or female is not dependent on the earnings of their parents, they may indulge in pre martial sex, either by way of legalised live in relation, or in case prostitution is legalised then may visit prostitution. In no other way a male and female under 21 years of age, or who depended on their parents, guardians for livelihood should be eligible for pre martial sex. It should be made that if any child found indulging in such acts, both the male and female should be debarred from education, name and shame, for some time, then life imprisonment with physical castration should be made for the male and life imprisonment for the female should be done. This is in addition to punishment for both parents of the male and female. This measure will certainly make parents alert towards their Childs behaviour and constantly observe their activities and also infuse good values and morals in their children. this is in no way curtailing the freedom of the child, but only to make sure the child won’t become perverted. The SEX acts may be in any form whether straight, gay/ lesbian, any kind of act should be punishable. The fear for punishment will certainly make the child to behave properly. This measure will certainly make the INDIA most talented country, as youth of the country will concentrate their energies on education/ innovation rather than dreaming of sex. The more talent youth, more productivity, means more development, means better living conditions of people.
84) COMPLETE BAN PORNOGRAPHY, SURFING PORNOGRAPHY IS CRIME; ETHICAL HACKING FOR MONITORING CHILD BEHAVIOUR TO KNOW THEIR WEB BROWSING CONTENT, SOCIAL MEDIA VISITS, MOBILE INTERNET PERIODICALLY AND REPORTING TO THE PARENTS FOR ENSURING ADHERING TO MORAL BEHAVIOUR BY THE CHILDREN; ISSUE OF SMART CARDS FOR STUDENTS, RECORD ATTENDANCE PERIOD BY PERIOD AND TIME IN AND TIME OUT OF SCHOOL/ COLLAGE SHOULD BE REPORTED TO PARENTS. PERIODIC SURPRISE HEALTH CHECK UP FOR STUDENTS FOR IDENTIFYING HABITS OF SMOKING, CONSUMPTION OF ALCOHOL, DRUGS ETC, REWARDS FOR FELLOW STUDENTS FOR REVEALING WITH PROOF, IF ANY FRIEND/FELLOW STUDENTS INDULGE IN SUCH ILLEGAL ACTIVITIES, PUNISHMENT FOR FRIENDS WHO WITNESSED SUCH ACTS , NOT REPORTING TO AUTHORITIES.
It is a fact now days even a three year old child is learning use computer, and by 6 years the child starts surfing the internet on the systems/ laptops/ mobile. It is very said that government did not ban pornography on the internet like the other countries did like arab countries, china did. It is sad that even in social media, the advertisements of pornography are popping up just like that, some directly, some indirectly, with message of HOT GIRLS/ HOT CHAT of similar meaning etc, completely distracting the young minds? The intention of the advertisers may not be to attract children, but by default children are watching these advertisements. Soon they click these so called HOT GIRLS/ CHAT links it will lead to semi nude, nude/ rising curiosity pictures and further going leads to complete pornography. Once child stars watching pornography, he/she cannot be stopped from indulging in pre matrimonial sex? As such government must ban pornography sites completely, in addition it should be a crime to watch pornography either on internet or recorded or by video, or recording even personal pornography by even legal married couple or live in relations couple; by accident if anybody presses any link, if pornography come, then the moral should prevail in them to shut that site and do his/her work. Otherwise, the IP addresses in the ethical hacking can reveal the time period that site was run? And on investigation found that anyone watching pornography intentionally he/she should be punished treating it as crime. This measure is necessary, that even though government ban most of the sites airing pornography, they will go in some or other name through proxy servers, so it is a continuous & constant process for government authorities to monitor the pornography sites and ban them.
Also it should be very need of the hour that government must start a unit in the IT ministry for “ethical hacking” of the data/ mails/ texts, for those who wish to get hacking done, other than mandatory hacking of all children under 21 years of age. This measure is necessary, as most of the children and budding youngsters has access to internet and mobile phone internet, and they are surfing the pornographic sites and get excited to replicate the acts, as such the pre martial sex at very tender age is happening, in very traditional, otherwise moderately conservative INDIA. The ethical hacking is a best solution to this issue, even though in case pornography is banned, such sites pop up on and off, the children who are barred from surfing the internet for pornography, nudity or any vulgar, obscene material still can search/ identify those proxy sites and may watch pornography.
In order to track the children, it should be made mandatory that the parents of the children in schools and collages/ universities up to Degree should mandatorily submit their mobile phone numbers of both parents and also mobile phone number of the child if any, in addition the details of internet connection (broad band or wireless), social media contacts of the children & parents should be submitted in an affidavit, and also by default all parents should accept for ethical hacking of their children’s surfing of internet, SMS, MMS, e mails, chatting, web surfing, etc and a weekly, monthly report should be sent to the parents both in e mail form and also via SMS and voice call when the children are in School in a working day. For this government collect appropriate fees from every parent of the children.
Also it should be made mandatory that all schools/ collages/ universities must mandatory provide smart cards for children and every school/ collage/ university should have single entry/ single exit pint and entry/ exit from the school/ collage/ university should be by swiping the smart card, in case the compound wall provision do not exist then they should have hand held smart card readers for every class room and every period the smart card should be swiped. By both children and teachers, all the smart card swiping should have centralised data at the school and it should be mandatory that every day attendance as well as time when the child left the school/ college/ university should be sent as an SMS to both the parents for information.
Also it should be mandatory that each children should have medical check up periodically by the school/ college/ university to check up by the doctors for not only identifying any illness, but also for identifying whether the child is indulging in smoking/ alcoholic / drug addicted or addicted to any wises etc. The details should be sent to parents.
Also it should be ideal to make children/ students behave responsibility, they can be best monitored by their fellow students/ friends. So the children should be reward if any of their classmate or any student for that matter indulged in smoking, consumption of alcohol,(consumption of alcohol below 21 years in most states and in some states below 25 years a crime), or consumption of drugs or watching pornography or indulging in sex (oral, intercourse), they should immediately inform the school authorities or if they can take a photograph, or video of such (not the sex picture or acts but remaining all acts can be video graphed or photographed) and sent to a common social media site of education department. They will forward to the concerned school/ college for necessary action.
The punishment for smoking should be suspension for that year from studying, consumption of alcohol / drugs should be debarred from education. Indulging in sex should go to imprisonment for lifelong along with physical castration for male. Also the punishment is applicable not only for those who done such crime, but who are present along with them, as a spectator watched such crime and not reported. Also the identity of such students, public should be kept confidential. This measure will certainly create fear among the budding minds; they will never indulge in smoking, consumption of alcohol, consumption of drugs, indulging in sex. More over children will utilise their energies for studies or games. This measure will lead to over all development of the country
Also it should be ideal that there should be log book maintained by parents (on the system/computer or on paper) that whenever they surf the internet they should note the time of surfing, and maintaining the history of the surfing remain in the computer, and there should be programmes instated in it that by default that history cannot be deleted. it should not be able to delete the history.
Also every parent who wish to track their children, who are un married, other than students, (minor children) they can a nominal fee of 100 rupees per month, so that once in month the ethical hackers track the internet IP address of the individual internet connection/ mobile connection with internet or SMS/MMS and sends the report to the parents via e mail or mobile sms whether the child surfed the net for sites, alternatively when ever any pornography sites are surfed, an sms alert should go the parents/ guardians, so that then can catch the child red handed. Also all the parents must be thought of basic survive lance of the children, how to identify the perverted behaviour of the children, etc this training should happen in parents meet once in three months in the schools itself. This measure will certainly reduce to a great extent happing of children getting perverted / sex maniac at very tender age also reduce the pre martial sex to a great extent. Also ethical hacking can be done for identifying the adultery, extra matrimonial relations, if given in writing for ethical hacking by any one of the married couple. This ethical hacking also provides millions of jobs for youngsters in future.
85) MANDATORY TEACHING OF RELIGION (THE RESPECTIVE RELIGION FOLLOWED BY CHILD, STRICTLY NO COMMON RELIGIOUS TEACHINGS/ PRACTICES, RESPECTING EVERY RELIGIOUS SENTIMENTS/NORMS) AS CURRICULUM FOR SCHOOL CHILDREN FOR INFUSING GOOD BEHAVIOUR; NEED FOR MANDATORY SPIRITUAL EDUCATION/ MEDITATION FOR ALL SCHOOLS, COLLAGES, OFFICE ESTABLISHMENTS
Also it should be mandatory that from child hood onwards spirituality and religious faith should be infused in the very tender age from the kindergarten schools, for this there should be all religious teachers/ faiths should be recruited in the schools, every child should be thought of his/her parents religion whether it is Hindu, Muslim, christen, Buddhist, Jain etc and there should be one complete period of 45 min/ one hour of religious teachings/ prayers and the teaching the essence of religion, good behaviour, humanity, compassion and communal harmony should be thought as per the religion of the child; In addition yoga & meditation to all children irrespective of religious faith of the children, and there should not be any particular religion prayer before starting of the yoga/ meditation. In case the number of students of any particular religion is very low, for such students the religious prayers, thought about religion should be through television screen they can make them understand within the school premises, when other students are performing their respective religious prayers.
Also there should be curriculum designed by government education departments in uniform manner for each religion, what to teach, how to teach/ preach, how to conduct tests to know how far the young students understood, etc and no religion should criticize other religion directly or indirectly and no religion can say they are number one (like present day national media cleaning that they are number one, if any one watches all channels on any single day, each national channel says that they are number one???), Also no religion should promote a particular sect, caste in that religion that they are extra blessed by god and remaining are just born to listen to them,? Also all religious teachings should be limited only to the essence of righteousness, not any other thing that promotes violence, and also must for induce communal harmony, religion of humanity, compassion in them while teaching religion in schools, collages. Also the religious teachings should not be superficial, or should not create fear psychosis in the budding minds, religious teachings should promote only positive thinking, confidence in self, and never aim at creating fear among young minds for promoting religion and rituals in the name of the god in order to benefit few sections of popluation; Also it should be open to all castes, sects in each religion to become priests if one chose to take up full time priestly profession, and priestly-ness should not be limited to a particular caste/ sect in any religion; Also every religion should mandatorily teach social equality, social justice and supremacy of legitimacy as the ethos of the very religion, All these curriculums must be prepared after due approval of their respective religious organisations individually and mutually for the content, process in that curriculum. This measure will certainly induce the good Samaritan behaviour in the child and by and large the child will not indulge in any wrong acts in his life time.
Only spiritual meditate minds have full control over senses all the time, and they are alert always, even if they encounter any seans of pornography, they will not be able to get their mind diverted to the urges of SEX and will remain under the full control of the brain, as such meditative mind should be cultivated; in order to cultivate such meditative mind from 5th standard onwards the techniques of mediation should be thought in the school as a part of curriculum and one period daily (at least 15 min), all the children, in the schools, collages, office establishments should be made mandatory to do meditation for at least 15 minutes daily.; Also all office establishments must get make sure they have Audio visuals for infusion of spiritual beliefs of different religions in different timings every day, in their office premises and making it mandatory that employees belonging to each religion should attended to the religious AV preaching mandatorily every day. It should be for not less than 20 min time. By this measure also productivity will also go up, also as per work study of ILO if their exits a gap of 10 to 15 min break between continuous work, the workers fatigue is going to get reduced as a result the production is going to improve. This measure will not only makes the children, youngsters, employees irrespective of gender will improve their consciousness, thus the thought process (which will activate the memory and the repercussions of any wrong doing etc), it reduces the stress in their mind, it calm down the nervous system, it will give strength to their thought, improves courage in them, makes them good human beings, leading a righteous legitimate relationships, leading to sound mind and sound body, leading to improved productivity leading to more development and better live for all sections in the country.
It is fact that marriage is the first step of formation of next generation, and any countries socio- economic development largely depend up on the success of married life of married couple, as it is a fact that happy marred life leads to stability of mind, with stability of mind at work place leads to improved productivity, which will lead to progressive economy, which means more development activity , which means life of the citizens made more ease; Also healthy marriage life leads to healthy children, and more care for the children and their education, all leads to talented , youth more intellect, which leads to more innovations to make living more simple, easy, effective, stress free; So happy married life has numerous advantages; Since India has large young population in the country and also in the World, it is necessary to streamline the institution of marriage, and marriage life more meaningful, without any scope for dilution of principles of traditions and customs of the country; for this there is acute need for bring reforms in marriage related laws, that either directly or indirectly useful for strengthening of the institution of marriage; the suggestions mentioned in the document like centralised data bank of married couple, along with many mandatory pre marriage registration unique ID number , granting in principle approval of the marriage between prospective bride and groom, with certain mandatory details to make their life more healthier and happier by making mandatory to get clearance for STD/HIV test, potency test, revealing of previous affairs etc all to make sure that youth will behave themselves with honesty and legitimacy till they are married and cross the age of 21, only concentrate on study and no deviation of energies towards sexual activity, also banning love letters and banning pre martial sex will certainly ensure all youth will put their energy in acquiring knowledge, develop intellect, do innovation, skill development for lively hood, also divorced couple, provides complete idea of families living in INDIA, where as the legalising the live in relationship is only to monitor/ regulate the live in relationship and restrict that live in relationship to be restricted to un married single persons, thus protecting the married women from humiliation, for getting her husband entering live in relation, cheating her married life, also the centralised data hub of divorced couple is to make sure that it makes many people to go for divorce for getting their married life public, so they will try to resolve the issues among the spouse, in case of not able to solve, they can get professional help though 24/7 help line to share their views to get tips to resolve the issues, also the personal counselling centres to further resolve the issues, as a last resort they can approach court, also making court to have fixed number of hearings in divorce cases, for reducing the metal agony among the divorcing couple, also making the list of relatives / invitees to the marriage, details of neighbours to ensure bride and groom are truthful from the very beginning of their life, by sharing the details declared by the bride and groom, mandatory expenditure statement by the bride and groom to ensure that no happing of dowry, also limiting the expenditure in marriages as per income group is to reduce the burden for millions of parents, and mandatory joint bank account of un married employed child with parents to make the child behave more responsibly, similarly thee joint bank account and joint assets by married couple ensure inclusive decision making and also financial freedom to wife’s, also monitoring of each other expenses is like conducting audit among each other soon the married couple starts living for healthy financial discipline among the couple, with mandatory sharing of work load at home will lead to full-fledged equality among the wife and husband, mandatory maintenance of health care records of both spouse, children is to ensure that family is healthy all the times, also mandatory heath care for parents is to create the responsibility and gratitude towards parents, and also inculcating social responsibility in public by making public, neighbours , relatives and friends responsible in case of any devotions/ wrong done/ doing by any married couple or children to inform to the authorities or face criminal charges, making them to ensure that will report to the authorities, all this only to make sure that every individual adhere to legitimate living, also government extending concessions’ for traditional marriages to ensure traditions and customs of all religions and regions are intact and carried forward for generations to come, also extending help for marriages to BPL, the farmers, the priestly artisans, solders, is only to ensure that these sections carry their hereditary profession in the larger interest of all sections, also making religious education, spiritual education, meditation mandatory in schools is to ensure that they grow in the environment of morals, values, ethics as ethos in the young minds to make them carry forward our traditions forever, valuing and following of institution of marriage, which is the foundation of future generations.
The views, suggestions for expressed in Reforms in Marriage related Laws, need wider discussions and deliberations, before enactment, the spirit expressed in the document is the need of the hour reforms in the larger interest of people of the country, especially children, youth, women, men, and the nation as a whole; the sooner enactment, the better the results; the views, suggestions of this document are not a misogynist or feminist or moral policing or hypothetical, but all are realities of life, with aim to inducement of values, morals and ethical behaviour and responsibility of every section of the people for upholding the supremacy of legitimacy, for healthy individuals, healthy family, healthy economy of the nation; if any sections hurt due the views expressed in the document, I expresses my sincere regrets, pray almighty to give strength for those who are otherwise hurt if at all due to the mentions in the document, which are otherwise gross realities and not intended to degrade any sections of society, the spirit of the solutions suggested therein on implementation, by and large yield desired results not only in INDIA but the entire world, it is like a seed producing forest over a period.
Also it is a fact and true which was depicted in the TIMELESS LEADERSHIP SUTRAS FROM BHAGAVAD GITA ”that sight dissects the world into parts, the insight integrates the parts into whole, insight comes from the underlying source of thoughts which is consciousness, and consciousness comes not from neural noise, but from stillness of mind, and stillness of mind is nothing but mediation, keep on practicing medication creates accumulation of unknown consciousness, power within, which will act in the form of insight in fraction of second like a flash light, altering the individual, whenever required on whatever situation may be, it gives moral strength to act positive”; “will power diminishes its intensity when it is employed to achieve a personal goal, on the contrary, the same will power is magnified manifold when it is invested in achieving a purpose beyond ones narrow interest”, ; “when will of the human (self) unites with the will of god (larger interest), the result is success”.
Ref: My earlier documents 1) Measures for Safety and Security of girls& women..... 2) Religious Reforms..... From blog, pradeepkunche.blogspot.in or in Scribd, www.scribd.com/pradeep_kunche